"Shame is indeed a phenomenon that is both in the brain, the mind, and in the space between us. Dr. DeYoung does a solid job in addressing the challenges of living with and treating chronic shame using a thoughtful, humane, and scientific approach." Louis Cozolino, PhD, professor of psychology at Pepperdine University’s Graduate School of Education and Psychology

"Beginning with diverse clinical vignettes with very dissimilar diagnoses, Patricia DeYoung tackles the unvoiced but powerful presence of shame that so often lies at the unspoken core of what troubles our clients. She beautifully and evocatively gives voice and shape to the annihilating impact of lack of attunement. DeYoung also makes the point that because shame takes root in relationship, we must heal it relationally. Equally important, she reminds us that, to be effective in this work, therapists must engage in their own ongoing internal work. This special book needs to be read by all of us." Patricia L. Papernow, EdD, instructor in psychology at Harvard Medical School and author of Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships

"Defining shame as first and foremost a relational experience, Patricia DeYoung unpacks the extensive, damaging consequences of feeling chronically shamed while illustrating effective treatment in clear, accessible language. For clinicians who wish to understand and treat shame from the psychodynamic perspective, this book is a vital resource." Martha Sweezy, PhD, associate director and director of training for the dialectical behavioral therapy program at Harvard Medical School’s Cambridge Health Alliance