In this episode: Did anyone ever tell you that being a PEOPLE PLEASER is a core trait in ADHD/AuDHD Humans? In this episode, I’ll tell you all about it. Spoiler Alert: It has to do with our coping mechanisms that we developed early on in order to avoid rejection and seeking validation from others due to our feelings of inadequacy because of our (especially undiagnosed) ADHD/AuDHD. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy

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Why ADHD Makes You Feel So Much

How Can I Stop People Pleasing At Work?

Are You A People Pleaser?

ADHD & People Pleasing: What’s The Correalation?

Set Boundaries Find Peace

In this episode: ADHD/AuDHD humans often struggle with boundaries—whether it's setting them with others or even recognizing our own internal limits. We might not realize a boundary needs to be set until it's already been crossed, leaving us overwhelmed, resentful, and frustrated. In this episode, I talk about how impulsivity, time management challenges, and emotional regulation difficulties all play a role in why boundary-setting can be so hard for us. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy

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SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE:

Poor Boundaries and ADHD - Sachs Center

How To Create Healthy Boundaries When You Have ADHD

Focused Mind: Boundaries and ADHD

Focused Mind: Learning To Say No With Adult ADHD

Why Is It So Difficult To Set Boundaries?

Set Boundaries Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab

In this Jen Chat I talk about the origin of the term "Asperger's Syndrome" and why it's no longer used. The short answer: Nazis. I'm reading a book about Hans Asperger, the Austrian pediatrician who worked with the Nazis but claimed not to be one of them. To this day the idea of how "functioning" an autistic person is seems to be deeply and darkly rooted in only what their value to the workforce is - and not their value as a human being. Get 20% off of the book “Asperger’s Children: The Origins Of Autism In Nazi Vienna” using my unique link to Bookshop dot org - a great website that buys from indie booksellers and helps them stay in business.

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Jen’s Recommended ADHD Friendly Mental Health Books

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Patreon Only Episode 39: “Skeptical of Scams & Cults?” In this episode: In response to last week’s episode about reasons why ADHD/AuDHD Humans sometimes have a bigger chance of being drawn into cults, MLM’s and other sketchy setups - there is an equal and opposite argument that people with ADHD/AuDHD are actually MORE EQUIPPED to spot scams and avoid getting sucked into cults and sketchy situations.

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In this episode: Did you know that ADHD/AuDHD Humans have a bigger chance of being drawn into cults, MLM’s and other sketchy setups? I explain why we are targets (hint: our impulsivity, need for community and outsider feelings) and talk about how to spot red flags.

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SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE:

Telehealth Company Accused Of Fraud

Psychology Today: Phishing

Email Fraud: The Search For Predictors Of Susceptibility

Social Media Overwhelmed With Scams

Media Matters: Tik Tok Enables Predatory ADHD Ads

The Root Counseling: Multi-level Marketing Schemes

Does ADHD Create Vulnerability To High Control Groups?

In this episode: Jen breaks down the ins and outs of PDA; Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. She chats about why even the simplest requests can feel like too much and how people with PDA handle those constant demands. Jen looks at the behaviors, challenges, and some ways to work on keeping a sense of autonomy even when triggered.

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SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE:

Defining Symptoms of PDA from PDA Society

The discovery of PDA from Psychology Today

Changing The Name To Pervasive Drive For Autonomy

Dr. Megan Anna Neff on PDA vs. Neurodivergent Traits

Causes of PDA on Neurosparkhealth website

PDA in Adults from Psychology Today

PDA Coping Strategies from PDA Society

In this episode: Jen answers a question from a listener regarding medication for ADHD. Jen gives researched information about what to discuss with your doctor such as; things to consider when doing trial and error with ADHD medication, the different types of medication available and what they do, how meds interact with various life situations, and why it’s a more complex issue than a podcast is equipped to solve but luckily - Jen can give a LOT of sourced facts in one place that helps everyone know what they should be talking about with their prescriber.

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SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE:

“You Are A Lot” Podcast Episode 14: ADHD & Estrogen

ADHD Medication: ADDitude Magazine

ADHD Medication Quick Facts: ChADD Organization

In this episode: Jen talks about the other side of masking which is unmasking! She explains how we can safely and consciously choose to un-mask, the risks for some of unmasking, and how we may find ourselves unconsciously unmasking as people around us say things like, “You’re acting more ADHD/Autistic ever since your diagnosis.” But it’s not an act. It’s our authentic selves coming through.

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SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE:

What ADHD Masking Looks Like

ADHD Masking: Does Hiding Your Symptoms Help Or Harm?

Masking Is Life

7 Masks We Use To Hide Our Faults

Why ADHD Masking Is A Form of Self-Sabotage

Why Un-Masking In ADHD Can Help Us

Unmasking As A Black Neurodivergent Employee