BOOK 1: Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide for Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids by Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE

PART 2 of 4: Chapter 3: Practicing compassion - It begins with you Chapter 4: Taking care of difficult feelings

Posted date: 7/22/24

Presented by Megan Riesgo, LCPC, PMH-C & Joy Walsh, LCSW, PMH-C

OVERVIEW Episode 102 explores Chapter 3 and 4 of Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE book, Raising Good Humans A Mindful Guide for Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids. The book is presented in two sections with section one including chapters 1-4. Page numbers and links in show notes for listeners to find additional information on topics explored from the source.

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CHAPTERS and NOTATIONS

Book Exploration - Chapter 3: Practicing Compassion- It Begins With You

00:00 Introduction to show

1:00 Introduction to ch. 3 Practicing Compassion- It Begins With You

2:25 (pg. 55) Brene Brown, Ph.D., LMSW reference related to shame and guilt

3:40 (pg. 55) Self compassion reference from book regarding kids are great at modeling our behavior

4:05 Discussed Brene Brown, Ph.D., LMSW, The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto available on her website www.brenebrown.com

4:50 (pg. 56) Explored self compassion definition from, Kristen Neff, Ph.D.

7:26 (pg. 59) Identified tools for practicing loving- kindness with audio available on http://www.raising-goodhumansbook.com

10:55 (pg. 60) reference to modeling kindness and empathy

11:10 (pg. 61) reference to empathy is a parent super power

13:00 (pg. 63) self care is vital to provide empathy

13:30 (pg. 63) judgmental minds and being critical of self

14:50 (pg. 64), “When we practice patience we are less reactive.”

16;25 (pg. 66), explored mantras for practicing patience

19:00 (pg. 68) reference to good enough parenting
Book Exploration: Ch. 4 Taking Care of Difficult Feelings

20:30 (pg. 72) Exploring habitual responses to feelings of acceptance and awareness to feelings are temporary

22:00 Discussion of sports and funny videos of kids being developmentally appropriate

24:30 (pg. 76) Reference to Tara Brach, an Insight Meditation teacher with exercise to practice skills available

25:30 (pg. 77) Critical voice from our roots and learned behaviors

26:00 Explored children television show Bluey (episode S3E25 Fairytale) in regards to differences in generations of parenting, and color palette for dog visibility.

27:00 (pg. 78) RAIN- recognize, allow, investigate, nurture. On http://www.raising-goodhumansbook.com an audio option is available for practicing

27:40 (pg. 83) reference to accept and expect children will have strong emotions

28:30 (pg. 85) tolerating tantrums exploration and silence can be a powerful response

30:40 example of somatic awareness to body

31:50 (pg. 86) explored options to move slowly and take time for recovery relat