What if the key to not repeating the past isn’t finding the perfect partner but healing the patterns that led you to them in the first place?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I’m joined by Dr. Becky Whetstone, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of I Think I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage. We talk about what no one tells you about remarriage, why the divorce rate for second marriages is over 75%, and the subconscious patterns that make us attract partners who reinforce our unhealed wounds.

If you’ve been divorced and you want to do it differently next time, this episode is for you.

Resources Mentioned:

• I (think) I want Out: https://marriagecrisismanager.com/i-think-i-want-out/

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What I/We Discuss:

• Dr. Becky’s background and the 75% second divorce rate

• Childhood trauma, emotional immaturity, and subconscious patterns

• Why we attract partners who reinforce our old wounds

• Boundaries, love languages, and the martyr mom trap

• Self-responsibility vs. self-blame after divorce

• The five stages of marital deterioration

• The power of preventative therapy in healthy relationships

• Triggers, abandonment wounds, and the power of awareness

• Blended family dynamics and the hidden emotional costs on kids

• Step-parenting, discipline, and parenting style clashes

Key Takeaways:

“You don’t attract what you want—you attract what you are.” – Dr. Becky Whetstone

“Most people don’t need a new partner. They need a new level of emotional maturity.” – Dr. Becky Whetstone

“If you don’t heal the wound, you’ll keep choosing people who trigger it.” – Dr. Becky Whetstone

Find more from Dr. Becky Whetstone:

Website: https://marriagecrisismanager.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshipcrisismanager/

X: https://x.com/DoctorBecky

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorbecky/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/becky-whetstone-ph-d-33866211/

Medium: https://medium.com/@doctorbecky

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