How I Found My Person Without Shrinking Who I Am

This is Part 2 of the story—what happens after you stop abandoning yourself to be loved.

In this episode, I share how I moved from self-abandonment to self-honoring, from contorting to clarity, and how that inner work created the foundation for calling in a partnership that feels safe, sovereign, and soul-led.

I talk about the reality of reentering the dating world after a long-term relationship—navigating dating apps, emotional boomerangs, and the deep discomfort of holding your standards when it would be easier to bend. And then… what happened when I didn’t bend. What happened when I met Lee.

You’ll hear:

✧ What it looked like to date without shrinking or shape-shifting

✧ The wild healing that comes from finally choosing your own nervous system

✧ The exact way I approached this relationship differently from the start

✧ How Lee and I co-created safety, softness, and truth—together

✧ A letter I wrote to my future husband, before I knew it was him

This is the episode for anyone learning to trust that real love won’t require you to become less. It’s the reminder that your too much is perfect—for the right person.

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Chapters

00:00 Episode Preview

01:02 Intro

02:56 No Longer Willing to Compromise for Love

14:25 Meeting Lee: A New Beginning

18:05 Setting Expectations on the First Date

21:45 Take it or Leave it but I'm Bringing All of Me This Time

26:18 He Didn't Need Me, He Wanted Me

29:14 Not Trying to Change Each Other

37:14 Letter to My Future Husband