In high school, Dennis Rodman was my favorite basketball player. Not because he dyed his hair pink, got married to himself while wearing a wedding dress, and became close personal friends with Kim Jong Un. Not that. Instead, it was because of his amazing hustle and unadulterated passion for the game of basketball. He was also one of the Detroit Piston “Bad Boys” who won back to back championships in 1989 and 1990. (We’ll pretend he never went to the Chicago Bulls.)

Dennis Rodman is probably the most unlikely player to ever end up in the Hall of Fame, and it’s all because of one skill. Rebounding. He was not the tallest player, or the most skilled. But he did have an uncanny ability to be in the right place at the right time. And more important, he just wanted the ball more than anyone else, and he was willing to do whatever it took to get it.

On this episode of A Time to Sharpen, we will discuss the importance of rebounding with struggling teenagers. Young people take a lot of “low percentage” shots. As their coach, we can either beat them up for doing so, or we can take the Dennis Rodman approach and focus on getting the rebound.

It’s sad to see your kids grow up…but it’s more sad if they don’t grow up. That’s the conclusion I’ve come to with my four children. It’s my job to prepare them for life without me.

But what exactly does this entail? I don’t plan on going away anytime soon, but I don’t want them calling me up at midnight to ask if they should book the morning or evening flight to Denver. They should be able to make most decisions by themselves. And if they can’t, then I have done them a great disservice.

Join us this week on A Time to Sharpen as we talk with two former residents who have returned to Whetstone as staff. They are many seasons removed from their experience here, but right in the middle of the process of adulting. I think you’ll agree, after listening, that they are both wise beyond their years.

We often get asked about our “success rate,” as if the boys who come here are games on a schedule. People want to know our win/loss record. Is it above .500? Did we make the playoffs? If not, what coaches are we going to fire? What off-season moves are we going to make?

And I get it. I can be very results-oriented. But what exactly does it mean to be ‘successful’? Is it something that can be measured? If so, how? Should success be the thing towards which we strive? Or are other things even more important?

These are questions that we can ask not just about Whetstone, but about our performance as parents, teachers, and counselors - as spouses, and friends, and employees, and bosses. But who among us wants our worth to be judged by our output - especially when that output is another human being? People aren’t products to be manufactured and marketed.

On the other hand, the Bible says that you can judge a tree by its fruit. And Whetstone has served close to 140 families over the last 12 years. That’s a lot of fruit. We should be able to demonstrate the program has been successful on some level.

Join us this week, as we talk about the definition of “success.” Or rather, the many different definitions of success.