In this powerful episode, host Alicia Kay dives deep into the heart of why so many of us struggle to speak our truth and use our authentic voice, especially those of us who were taught to hide our feelings or conform to keep the peace.

Drawing on her own personal journey and decades of experience in trauma work, Alicia unpacks the lingering fears and nervous system responses that keep us silent and reveals how our upbringing and collective conditioning play a role in making self-expression feel unsafe.

Alicia shares candid moments from her early career and her own childhood, connecting the dots between past wounds and the barriers we face today in relationships, work, and self-worth. You'll discover the pitfalls of wishy-washy boundaries, the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic guilt, and why honest, heart-led communication is the most self-honoring choice we can make.

Tune in and get ready to awaken your sacred voice, set boundaries that serve you, and step fully into your power as the divine being you are meant to be.

Key Takeaways:

• Your fear of speaking up often comes from old wounds and conditioning, not from who you truly are.
• Setting and holding boundaries is essential for yourself and healthy relationships.
• Even when it’s uncomfortable, speaking your truth invites the right people into your life and weeds out dead-end relationships.
• The right communication tools can help you share your needs clearly and compassionately, leading to deeper, more authentic connections.

Timestamps:

00:00 "Embrace Radical Honesty"

03:27 Fear of Being Heard

08:48 Surviving Chaos Through Conformity

10:00 "Ego vs. Adversarial Voice"

15:30 Authenticity and Boundaries in Relationships

19:56 "Authenticity in Relationships"

22:45 "Winning the War Within Launch"

27:45 "Validating Emotions for Authentic Relationships"

28:49 Navigating High-Conflict Relationships

32:23 Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Guilt

35:55 Clarify Desires Before Speaking

41:37 Setting Boundaries Through Clear Communication

43:30 "Empowerment Course Invitation"

Resources Mentioned:

• Winning the War Within: Alicia’s upcoming online course, with a whole module dedicated to reclaiming your voice and standing in your power. (Get on the waitlist for special pre-launch access!)
• Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg — The communication formula Alicia shares is based on this approach.

Connect with Alicia:

Sign up for my newsletter for monthly tools and tips!

Download Module 1 Workbook - “Winning the War on Your Worth- Reclaim Your Feminine Power" for FREE on my website and get a taste of my online course: "Wake Up the Warrior Within."

Website: https://www.aliciakaycoaching.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aliciakaycoaching/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aliciakaycoaching

YouTube: www.youtube.com/@aliciakaycoaching

Trailer Music Credit

Alis Reflective Soul, song “Howl” https://open.spotify.com/track/6FkSVtVl1FZwPRmTKAXLjp?si=401711feb98644d9

In this episode of the Alive & Awake Podcast, host Alicia Kay delves into the concept of "Joy Trauma" and the reasons many spiritual women struggle with embracing happiness. Alicia shares her personal journey of overcoming past traumas and the transformative process of learning to live in the moment without the fear of happiness being stripped away.

She discusses her decision to embrace a completely sober lifestyle and the challenges and realizations that come with it. Through vivid storytelling and introspection, Alicia opens up about her childhood experiences that shaped her perception of joy and safety, and how she's working to align with a higher level of consciousness.

This episode is a profound exploration of self-awareness, healing, and embracing your true self beyond societal conditioning.

Join us as Alicia provides insights and inspiration for anyone looking to break free from patterns holding them back and step into a life filled with genuine joy and bliss. Don't miss this enlightening conversation about reclaiming your joy and the beautiful journey of divine alignment.

Highlights:

1. Joy as a Birthright: Alicia discusses how joy and bliss are our natural states of being, but many experience what she calls "joy trauma," where past pains and trauma responses lead them to distrust joy and happiness.
2. Overcoming Ego and Fear: Alicia shares her personal journey of giving up substances like alcohol to face life and joy in a completely sober state. She highlights how the ego often tries to pull us back into survival modes, steering us away from experiencing joy.
3. Alignment and High Consciousness: The podcast explores the idea of ascending into higher states of consciousness (like the 5D level), where joy and interconnectedness with others and the universe can be fully experienced. Aligning with joy, according to Alicia, is a sign of being on the right path and indicates readiness for growth and abundance.

Key Takeaways:

• Joy is your birthright, but past trauma can affect your ability to fully experience it.
• Alicia discusses her decision to remain substance-free and its impact on relationships.
• Trauma responses can make one feel unsafe or resistant to moments of joy.
• Childhood experiences shape adult responses to joy and safety.
• The importance of working through past trauma to elevate into elevated states.
• Joy should be seen as a state of alignment, not something to fear.
• Personal stories of facing fears and past memories illustrate the journey to inner peace.
• Ascending into higher consciousness involves unraveling survival mode behaviors.

Time Stamps:

00:00 Confronting Vulnerability Without Substances

05:51 Balancing Joy and Daily Duties

09:28 Transcending Survival to 5D Consciousness

11:59 Surrender to Present Moment Joy

16:37 Overcoming Subconscious Barriers to Relaxation

19:48 Traumatic Childhood Horse Accident

23:17 Embrace Your Joyful Presence

26:35 Peace Beyond Understanding

30:16 "Awakening and Ascending Beyond Limits"

32:33 Embracing Life's Cycles

Connect with Alicia:

Sign up for my newsletter for monthly tools and tips!

Download Module 1 Workbook - “Winning the War on Your Worth- Reclaim Your Feminine Power" for FREE on my website and get a taste of my online course: "Wake Up the Warrior Within."

Website: https://www.aliciakaycoaching.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aliciakaycoaching/

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In this episode of the Alive & Awake Podcast, host Alicia Kay explores the profound journey of embracing the emotional body through the lens of feminine and masculine energy. Dive into the history of ancient civilizations and discover how the balance between these energies was lost over time.

Alicia discusses the importance of understanding emotions as cyclical, transformative forces and shares her insights on overcoming societal conditioning around emotional expression. Learn practical techniques to connect with your higher self and alchemize your pain. Whether you're looking to deepen your emotional understanding or seeking ways to rise into a new consciousness, this episode is a powerful guide for personal and collective transformation.

Don’t miss Alicia’s offer of a free "Winning the War on Your Emotional Body" workbook to aid in your journey. Subscribe and be part of the ascent into a thriving 5D reality.

Highlights:

1. Balancing Feminine and Masculine Energies: Alicia explores the ancient harmony of feminine and masculine energies in civilizations like Lemuria and Atlantis and shares how restoring this balance is key to healing the modern world from patterns of power and control.
2. Understanding and Embracing Emotions: She redefines emotions as "energy in motion," encouraging us to embrace their natural cycles as vital messengers for healing and personal growth.
3. The Power of Intimacy and Self-Acceptance: Alicia speaks to the transformative power of intimacy — “into me, I let you see” — and how meeting ourselves with acceptance opens the door to a deeper, more authentic connection.

Key Takeaways:

1. Rebirth Into Feminine Consciousness
2. Emotional Body and Shame
3. Ancient Civilizations and the Balance of Energies
4. The Fall and Masculine Wounding
5. The Role of Emotions
6. Inner Work and Self-Validation
7. Ego's Role in Emotional Suppression
8. Empowerment Through Sovereignty

Timestamps:

00:00 Ancient Civilizations: Balanced Energies

04:50 "The Wounded Masculine and Feminine"

08:44 Rebalancing Feminine and Masculine Energies

11:36 "Embrace Emotions, Transcend Pain"

15:52 "Overcoming Childhood Trauma Triggers"

19:55 Avoiding Vulnerability Ruined Relationship

23:04 Embrace Emotional Expression

26:10 "Overcoming Unresolved Emotional Shame"

31:02 "Upcoming Course and Free Workbook"

31:51 "Embrace Emotions for Freedom"

Connect with Alicia:

Sign up for my newsletter for monthly tools and tips!

Download Module 1 Workbook - “Winning the War on Your Worth- Reclaim Your Feminine Power," for FREE on my website and get a taste of my online course: "Wake Up the Warrior Within."

Website: https://www.aliciakaycoaching.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aliciakaycoaching/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aliciakaycoaching

YouTube: www.youtube.com/@aliciakaycoaching

Trailer Music Credit

Alis Reflective Soul, song “Howl” https://open.spotify.com/track/6FkSVtVl1FZwPRmTKAXLjp?si=401711feb98644d9