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And Who Shall I Say Is Calling? (Episode #1)
- 2024/08/14
- 再生時間： 7 分
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Welcome to episode 1 of do it different, a weekly podcast series hosted by #1 bestselling author and behavior expert Jez Rose on who we are, why, and how to find the best version of ourselves.In this first episode of a brand new series Jez explores the many different ways we show up at work, at home, with different groups of friends, when on our own - and how we may be in danger of being further from knowing who we really are than ever before. This is a podcast about challenging what we know about life, and growing to help get from where we are, to where we want to be.If you were to call a senior individual at a business, you’d likely get their secretary or personal assistant, and upon asking to speak to that senior person, you’re going to have to answer the question: “And who shall I say is calling?”. How you answer that simple question will determine whether or not you are put through.If you really wanted to speak to the person, you might have to lie and pretend to be someone more important than you really are. The notion of lying to ourselves, and how we discover who we really are is what we explore in this opening episode of a new series that explores the brain science of human behaviour to help do things differently for better results both at work and at home, but also for ourselves - and getting closer to knowing who we really are.Thank you for listening, and enjoy!Written and Produced by Jez Rose | Edited by Nick JonesTRANSCRIPT:I sat with the CEO of a company and brand you would all recognise, in their office as the phone on their desk rang. We all know how this call screening plays out, and the screening in this case had been done by a very efficient personal assistant in the room next door. Calls from their child’s school, or from senior people in the company, or from a doctor with an urgent message, are all going to get put through. Calls from sales people chancing their luck, unknown names, or anyone out of favour, is going to be invited to leave a message or call back another time. How you answer the question ‘and who shall I say is calling?’ determines the success of the purpose of the call.But if you really wanted to speak to that CEO, and you weren’t a good friend, spouse, or their child’s nanny, you might have to lie to get connected.Hello everyone, my name is Jez Rose, and welcome to episode 1 of ‘do it different’.This is a podcast about becoming a better person. Or, more to the point, finding the best version of us. The version of us at home, isn’t the same us at work, nor is it the same us when we’re with our dog, or with each group of our friends. We have so many versions of ourselves that I’m concerned we’re further from knowing ourselves than we’ve ever been.Is that a problem? Yes, I think it is. It’s an issue that affects all of us and doesn’t get enough attention.Which brings us back to that phone call.I’ve been to many parties where I’ve outright lied about what I do for a living so I get an easy evening. Responding to a complete stranger’s “and what do you do?” that you’re a carpenter or a proctologist doesn’t get the same level of questioning as when you say you’re an author, or that you speak at conferences around the world or worst of all that you’re a television presenter. If I want a quiet, easy time without lots of questions, I’ll respond with something I know is going to be uninteresting or even revolting to them.But this level of dishonesty isn’t really my point. I’m talking about how we lie to ourselves; sometimes even without us knowing. When we buy certain clothes, or begin to act a certain way just to fit in, these are critical moments when our true identity is not only questioned, but compromised. We adapt and evolve to fit in; to belong; to not feel lonely or at odds with the masses. And yet as we do this more and more, we get further and further away from who we truly are. What is it that stops us from so confidently being ourselves? Well, often it is that we don’t know ourselves. And if we don’t truly know who we are, how can we become better versions of ourselves if we’re disconnected from that? We are a species who simply don’t know who we really are, partly because we spend more time trying to mould ourselves to fit in with others which in itself is easier because we can just copy: I buy those clothes, say these things and act this way and I’m like them. I’ll be accepted and I’ve found my tribe. But that tribe isn’t necessarily the tribe you belong with - and you know, deep down, if it’s disingenuous. I see it all the time in the corporate world; leaders acting up mimicking behaviours of their superiors. But it’s not just about fitting in, it’s partly because we don’t know how to do the work to find ourselves. We don’t know what questions to ask to discover ourselves. However, our true self never goes anywhere; we just cover it up. It’s there inside us: our true ...