In this conversation, Kyle Fields explores the complex journey of grief and acceptance, emphasizing that healing is not a linear process but a gradual evolution. He discusses the misconceptions surrounding closure and the societal expectations of grief, advocating for a more compassionate understanding of personal healing. The conversation highlights the importance of allowing oneself to feel joy again without guilt and recognizes the transformation that occurs through the grieving process.

Takeaways

• Acceptance is a slow, messy becoming.
• Grief doesn't live in your tears; it lives in your truth.
• Closure is a myth; healing is a personal journey.
• You don't need to perform grief to prove it mattered.
• Healing allows space for joy without forgetting the loss.
• Grief is a relationship that evolves over time.
• You are not defined by your grief; you are brutally human.
• It's okay to feel good after loss.
• You honor their memory by living fully again.

• Healing is about becoming, not forgetting.

In this conversation, Kyle Fields delves into the often unspoken aspects of grief and depression, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging the quiet, heavy feelings that accompany loss. He discusses the isolation that can come with depression, the practical steps to cope with these feelings, and the subtle moments of healing that can occur. Ultimately, he reassures listeners that simply surviving is a significant achievement and that acceptance is a crucial part of the healing journey.

Takeaways

• Grief can manifest in ways that are often overlooked.
• Depression is a quiet struggle that many face alone.
• Isolation can feel like self-care but often leads to deeper sadness.
• Small, seemingly insignificant actions can help in moments of depression.
• Healing is not a linear process; it comes in small steps.
• Acknowledging your feelings is a vital part of the healing process.
• You are not broken for feeling depressed; it's a part of integration.
• Even in the depths of depression, there is a part of you that wants to be.
• Surviving each day is an accomplishment in itself.

• Acceptance of grief is a journey, not a destination.

In this conversation, Kyle Fields explores the complex emotional landscape of grief, particularly focusing on the bargaining stage. He discusses how individuals often negotiate with their grief, seeking to regain control and make sense of their loss through various coping mechanisms. The conversation delves into the futility of bargaining, the emotional exhaustion it can cause, and the eventual need to confront the reality of loss. Fields emphasizes the importance of acceptance and the journey towards finding peace amidst grief.

Takeaways

• Bargaining is a desperate attempt to regain control over grief.
• The inner voice during bargaining often leads to unrealistic expectations.
• Bargaining can manifest in various behaviors like over-apologizing and people-pleasing.
• The illusion of control can be comforting but ultimately unhelpful.
• Bargaining is not a real strategy for dealing with grief.
• Acceptance is a crucial step that follows the collapse of bargaining.
• Grief can feel like a negotiation with the universe or fate.
• The process of bargaining can exhaust emotional resources.
• Some losses do not have a clear reason or lesson attached to them.
• Finding peace in grief often means accepting the reality of loss.

In this episode of Brutally Human, Kyle Fields explores the often overlooked anger stage of grief. He discusses the validity of anger as a natural response to loss, societal expectations surrounding grief, and healthy ways to express and channel that anger. The conversation culminates in the realization that after the storm of anger, there can be a profound sense of peace and healing.

Takeaways

• Anger is a valid response to grief.
• Society often expects grief to be quiet and manageable.
• Suppressing anger can be toxic during the grieving process.
• Healthy outlets for anger include physical activity and creative expression.
• Naming your anger can help in processing grief.
• Grief can manifest as rage, not just sadness.
• It's okay to feel angry at the person who left.
• People often minimize grief when they feel uncomfortable.
• Healing can begin when you stop pretending to be okay.
• After anger, there can be a peaceful acceptance of loss.

In this episode, Kyle Fields explores the complex nature of denial as the first stage of grief. He discusses how denial serves as a protective mechanism, allowing individuals to buffer their emotional pain. The conversation delves into the origins of the five stages of grief, the subtle ways denial manifests, and the coping mechanisms people employ to avoid confronting their feelings. Kyle emphasizes the importance of acknowledging denial and offers insights on how to navigate life after breaking through this stage, ultimately encouraging listeners to embrace their emotions with honesty and compassion.

In this conversation, Kyle Fields explores the often uncomfortable truths about personal growth and healing. He emphasizes that healing is not just about protecting one's energy but also about owning one's impact on others. The discussion delves into the pitfalls of self-awareness without action, the importance of emotional accountability, and the journey of real growth that begins with facing uncomfortable truths. Kyle encourages listeners to reflect on their patterns and take responsibility for their actions, ultimately leading to a more authentic and fulfilling life.

In this conversation, Kyle Fields explores the pervasive issue of comparison in our lives, particularly fueled by social media. He discusses how this comparison affects our self-worth, mental health, and emotional well-being. The conversation is structured around four main themes: the impact of comparison, the unhealthy competition of trauma, the myth of timelines, and practical steps to combat the comparison monster. Fields emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and recognizing that everyone's journey is unique, encouraging listeners to focus on their own growth rather than measuring themselves against others.

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