Episode Topics

• Meet our guest this week, Dr. N. Cindy Trimm
• How did your journey start?
• The steps of Self-Mastery
• How do we take the first step toward Self-Mastery? 
• 3 things that determine where you are today. 
• Dr. Cindy's advice; learn the art of thinking. You are God's gift to humanity and the greatest gift you can give yourself is the gift of change. 

Episode Summary

Dr. Cindy is Leticia's aunt, who now runs a worldwide business after starting her first business at the age of 8 out of necessity. Apart from owning restaurants, she is also an author and the owner of a coaching company. Everything needed to succeed is present in the potential form at conception, hence, problems exist to create self-awareness which leads to self-development and ends in self-actualization. In fact, the whole process of self-care starts with awareness; knowing who you are, helps you get different results. The DISC analysis (Dominance, Influence, Conscientiousness, and Steadiness) describes how we have different but equal strengths, each of which comes with limitations, not weaknesses. 

Self-awareness, Self-knowledge, Self-approval, and Self-commitment are the 4 steps before Self-care. In self-approval, you learn to affirm yourself. You don't attract who you want, you attract who you are, so when you change, those people change. The next steps are then Self-commitment, Self-care, Self-discipline, Self-fulfillment, and Self-actualization; all of these are aimed at Self-Mastery. It is important to start this process by seeing yourself as a brand where you are the CEO with a defined vision and mission. Dr. Cindy discusses this in Chapter 8 of her book, "Hello Tomorrow". Every woman should have "Me Moments" of half an hour to an hour daily to take care of herself. Picture yourself celebrating your life many years from now; what you would expect people to say about you, is your vision.

In school, we are taught what to think, not how to think but our thoughts have brought us to where we are, so we need to train our minds to think at the level of our vision. Where we place our energy, our focus and our thoughts determine our current state; these are 3 things we can change. Ask yourself "What one skill will I spend one hour developing daily to get to where I want to be in 20 years?" Dr. Cindy highlights Leticia's bravery and commitment to self-growth, as she encourages listeners to reach out to sign up for Leticia's coaching on the website offering £25 towards the coaching of every student who signs up now. Rejection is a gift; it either means redirection, or that your current realm does not have the capacity for your greatness so you need to find the place that does, or it exposes you to the areas you need to work on.

Notable Quotes

"I've always had this idea that I don't have to choose A or B, I can have A and B and C and D"

"Problems actually point you towards potential; the potential that's hidden to you"

"We do more because we want to be more, so start with who you are, not what you want because if you become everything that you are, you'll attract what you want"

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Episode Topics

• [01:57] Introducing our guest, Khalida Dubose. 
• [03:18] How Khalida got into business coaching by accident. 
• [08:28] The role of our mindset in driving successful Entrepreneurship 
• [13:56] What was your experience opening up to a community? 
• [32:12] How to connect with Khalida. 

Episode Summary

Khalida is a business coach for entrepreneurs who are women of color. She loves helping them realize their strength by getting in touch with themselves, without having an exterior shell that isolates them. After working for a Crowdfunding platform for years, Khalida got laid off, which affected her mental health. She later started her crowdfunding business but discovered a stronger interest in business coaching. More often than not, many entrepreneurs do not get it right the first time, they transition in a way that was layered by the people in front of them, in a stepwise manner.

Entrepreneurship challenges us to be great by first unearthing aspects of us that are not great. This grueling process requires a deep sense of commitment to our goals; hence, successful entrepreneurship is largely a factor of our mindset, much more than strategy. 

Due to the preconceived notions that she would be unsafe in any community she joined, Khalida tried unsuccessfully to be a part of one. Questioning her fears, she understood they were mostly unfounded and she started integrating into a community. Very often black women find themselves isolated; without community, they are likely to be taken for granted with no clue how to stand up for themselves. 

Notable Quotes

"You actually have to want to be great, to own your own business" 

"I really love helping people have discoveries that help them move forward"

"When you don't have community, you are really missing out on so much"

"I think that community has been robbed from us as black women"

Resources Mentioned

Connect with | Khalida Dubose

Website - www.khalidadubose.com 

Instagram – @khalida.dubose 

Podcast - The Black Girl Business Bar 

Episode Topics

• [02:10] Meet today's guest, Janet Kadafar. 
• [03:22] How Janet got started as a business coach. 
• [10:56] Janet shares her Entrepreneurship journey. 
• [18:47] How black women are held back because they don't ask for help. 
• [29:41] Putting your energy into entrepreneurship. 
• [35:33] Janet's biggest lesson; Stick with it. 
• [40:01] How to connect with Janet. 
• [40:33] Janet's advice to listeners; Just keep going!

Episode Summary

Janet is a business coach for Black life coaches looking to leave their '9-5' jobs. Realizing she wanted more from life, Janet left her day job to help people create courses but pivoted to Business Coaching afterward to help black women who needed help starting their life coaching businesses. Janet has learned in her journey that running a business is not about the entrepreneur but about showing up for someone else. 

A challenge among black women is the fear to ask for help sometimes due to traumas from our upbringing. We need to rewrite the narrative that we have to figure it out all on our own; there is power in sisterhood and community, knowing that you're not on your own. 

Many women are in jobs where their opinions and energy are undervalued but they stay, often due to the idea of job security, which is often an illusion. Black women must start to use their energy to fuel their entrepreneurial goals.  

Notable Quotes

"It's not about me... and I think that's what so many coaches and listeners need to remember"

"Stop thinking about yourself; you're completely irrelevant in this equation right now, just show up for that person... just think about that one person that needs"

"When we step into entrepreneurship, we are guiding people to the solutions to their problem"

"We carry so much trauma embedded in the way that we show up and we don't even know where it comes from"

“The point is to keep going; what you're supposed to be doing will manifest and it will show up in some way"

"If you can build somebody else's dreams, you can build your own"

Resources Mentioned

Connect with | Janet Kadafar

Website - www.janetkafadar.com  

Facebook - The Online Coaching Club: For Black Life Coaches

Podcast - The Truth About Coaching