Narcissists are like chameleons. They change in appearance as much and as often as they need to get what they want but underneath it all, they are very insecure and sneaky and always up to no good. They don't check in because they don't stick to being one particular person.

If you ever feel like you’re in a relationship with someone’s essence and not the actual person, this could be why. Narcissists are known to be emotionally unavailable, however, not all emotionally unavailable people are narcissists. If you’re married to someone who is emotionally unavailable, fasten your seat belt because you’re in for the ride of a lifetime. People who are emotionally unavailable don’t like to open up about their feelings and they keep things on the surface. One of the biggest signs I missed in my marriage was the emotional unavailability of my partner. After the wedding, he insisted that conversations remained at the surface level. He never said the words but if I initiated or inquired about serious matters pertaining to the marriage, he responded in a dismissive or condescending way. As long as I kept the conversations light, he was fine with that, and he often steered those conversations in the directions of his personal accomplishments. This caused the relationship to feel stifled. Even though this was a red flag to indicate that I may have married the wrong person, I thought that I was the problem, and I needed to wait for him to initiate these conversations. If this takes place in your relationship, it is a clear indicator that the two of you are not on the same page. Discussing things such as finances, starting a family, careers, and intimacy are things that normal couples should be able to discuss; otherwise, there would be no need for a marriage. When I brought up serious topics, he became angry so I would drop the topic and try to bring it up at a later time, and eventually stopped talking about them altogether. If I pushed the issue, he activated the silent treatment which went on for days or weeks . I tried many ways to talk about things and then one day it hit me like a ton of bricks. I realized that he didn’t want to talk because we weren’t in it for the same reasons. Another thing that happened after the marriage was his usage of the word, Eye, instead of We. There were several times that I had to remind him that it was now Us. I thought it was just a newlywed thing and we just had to get used to each other. After all, we were two people living separate lives prior to the marriage. Needless to say, I was clueless, in denial, or both. Eventually the truth revealed itself as it usually does. Hindsight is always twenty twenty and looking back now, it’s clear to see these were signs of an unemotionally available man. Here are some other signs of an emotionally unavailable person to look for. If you feel like your partner is playing games with you, and constantly making you win them over again and again, that person is emotionally unavailable. People who are emotionally available don’t toy with the emotions of others because they understand that it’s painful, and they wouldn’t want anyone to experience that. Another sign is that they’re uncompromising when it comes to their time. When someone loves you, they look forward to sharing their time with you even if they have to move things around. There are more signs that you should be aware of but I’ll keep this video short and do a separate video devoted to the signs only. If you think you’re with an emotionally unavailable person, it’s a good idea to get to the bottom of things before you invest a lot of time. Time is our most valuable asset and once it’s gone, we can’t get it back. If you enjoyed this video and want to hear from me again, give the video a thumbs up, and be sure to hit subscribe and the bell to turn on notifications, so you'll know when I upload again.

When dealing with narcissists, their behavior can be both confusing and off-putting. Some things in dealing with them may seem somewhat normal. Still you might be surprised once you learn the extent of their behaviors and the true meaning behind your relationship with them. I'll preface this by saying that not all narcissists are the same. These are six surprising things about narcissists that you probably didn't know.

"Introduce a little anarchy." "Upset the established order, and everything becomes chaos." Narcissists are agents of chaos. They're constantly looking for ways to shake things up and throw you out of kilter. This could mean anything from creating confusion with co-parenting plans, to deliberately showing up for a meeting with you at the wrong time. Any catalyst will do. The goal here is to create confusion, wait for you to react or try to fix it, then blame you for everything that has gone wrong. When the blame is placed on you, your natural reaction is to become defensive.

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The narcissist wants the old you back. They want you to be the person you first met before you knew who they really were. Narcissists thrive on manipulation and control. If you don't allow it, they will see no need for you.

If you're wondering if you're in a relationship with a narcissists, you most likely are. Some obvious signs are gaslighting and manipulation but there are some that are not so obvious and it takes time to reveal themselves. So many people are trying to recover from this type of abuse that many cannot understand due to the inability to explain what took place. Here I discuss recount 10 signs. There were many.

Narcissistic triangulation is commonly used by narcissists and other manipulative people with narcissistic tendencies. This tactic is used to gain control over someone who cares about them by inciting competition or conflict between them and another person. Besides resulting in broken relationships, triangulation can be very dangerous. It involves bringing a third party into a relationship or situation to create competition, jealousy, or conflict between the targeted person and the third party. I believe this is one of the most dangerous power plays by narcissists because the unsuspecting parties are often clueless about the narcissists' strategies, which could lead to verbal and physical altercations or even death. Triangulation can be hard to detect because the narcissist has given a false narrative to the other person, who is not only competing with you but has also decided to take a protective stance on behalf of the narcissist.

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The more you show a narcissist love, the more they will show you hate. You may wonder why, when you show a narcissist love and kindness, they respond with hatred. This is because the narcissist knows that they don't deserve your love, hence their resistance to it.

If you’re a survivor asking, “Will I ever recover?”, here’s what I want you to hear loud and clear: Yes, you can. Healing is possible, but it’s not a linear process, and it’s not something you have to do alone. Here are some tools and insights to help you understand this feeling and move forward:

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings It’s okay to feel hopeless, angry, or even numb. These emotions are valid responses to what you’ve been through. Recognize them as part of your healing journey, not evidence of failure.

2. Educate Yourself Understanding narcissistic abuse and its impact can be incredibly empowering. Knowledge gives you the tools to see the abuse for what it was—not a reflection of your worth, but a manifestation of the narcissist’s dysfunction.

3. Find Community Connecting with others who’ve been through similar experiences can provide validation and hope. Support groups, online forums, or therapy groups for survivors can remind you that you’re not alone and that recovery is possible.

4. Seek Professional Help Trauma-informed therapy can be life-changing. Therapists trained in narcissistic abuse recovery can help you untangle the web of manipulation, rebuild your self-esteem, and process the trauma in a safe and structured environment.

5. Practice Self-Compassion One of the biggest hurdles for survivors is learning to be kind to themselves. Start small—acknowledge your courage in asking for help, and celebrate small victories along the way.

6. Trust the Process Healing isn’t about erasing the past—it’s about learning to live with it in a way that doesn’t define your future. There will be setbacks, but each one is an opportunity to learn and grow. #narcissisticabuserecovery