Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down with certified Connection Codes coaches Tanya and James, a couple whose journey into emotional healing began in an unexpected place—deep in a remote part of British Columbia. What started as a midnight podcast listen became a life-altering pursuit of authentic connection. Tanya and James open up about their transformation from emotional shutdown and chronic pain to a marriage bursting with joy, purpose, and practical tools. From ordering the book late at night to leading small groups in their home, launching initiatives in their church, and becoming certified coaches, they share how simple—yet not easy—the journey of emotional fluency has been. Their story is an invitation to bring the tools of Connection Codes into your home, your marriage, your community—and to experience the life-changing impact for yourself.

Links and Resources:

• Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/cew-podcast⁠⁠⁠
• Find out how to become a Certified Coach:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠
• Find a coach:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/all-coaches⁠⁠⁠⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Kicking Off the Journey: Meet Tanya & James
• 00:01:11 - A New Chapter Begins: Who Are Tanya and James?
• 00:02:10 - The Moment That Changed Everything: Discovering Connection Codes
• 00:04:34 - Turning Insight Into Action: Bringing Connection Codes to the Community
• 00:06:52 - Real Growth, Real Struggles: Their Personal Transformation Unfolds
• 00:08:48 - A Ripple Effect: Teaching, Leading, and Inspiring Through Change
• 00:09:33 - From Pain to Power: How They Faced Trauma and Chronic Struggles
• 00:11:02 - Unlocking Emotional Power: The Gift of Processing Feelings
• 00:16:36 - Redefining the Classroom: What Happens When You Connect First
• 00:21:25 - From Hurt to Healing: Connection as the Bridge
• 00:23:22 - Ready to Grow? Join Our Summer Coaching Cohort
• 00:24:21 - Why Emotional Processing Is a Superpower (Yes, Again!)
• 00:25:39 - Cracking the Teen Code: Helping Adolescents Be Understood
• 00:26:58 - Glen’s Eye-Opening Tale: When Emotions Go Ignored
• 00:29:14 - Transforming Communication: Using the Core Emotion Wheel
• 00:35:59 - Chase the Dream: Why Your Passions Matter More Than You Think
• 00:40:04 - The Transformation Is Real: What Connection Codes Changed
• 00:43:09 - Your Next Step: Final Thoughts and an Invitation to Act

Have you ever wondered if it's okay to raise your voice or show big emotion when you're deeply upset—without damaging your relationships? In this powerful conversation, Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis dive deep into what it really means to express emotions like anger, fear, or sadness in a way that fosters connection instead of creating conflict. From breaking down the difference between acting through emotions and naming them out loud, to confronting the fear of “not being sweet enough,” the hosts unpack the beauty of emotional clarity and the science-backed power of saying emotion words out loud. This episode offers both raw vulnerability and practical tools to help you show up as your full, intense self—without shutting down or blowing up.

Links and Resources:

• Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/get-the-cew⁠⁠⁠

• Find out how to become a Certified Coach: ⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coaching⁠⁠⁠

• Find a coach: ⁠⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/all-coaches⁠⁠⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Kicking It Off: Big Emotions and How to Handle Them

• 00:01:01 - What It Really Means to Express Emotion

• 00:02:38 - Spoiler: We’re Not Here to Be “Sweet”

• 00:04:13 - Why Saying “I Feel Angry” Can Change Everything

• 00:06:12 - Letting Yourself Be Loud—Without Hurting Others

• 00:08:45 - Anger Isn’t the Villain: It’s a Message

• 00:10:47 - Teaching Respect Through Raw Honesty

• 00:14:00 - When We Name It, We Process It—Together

• 00:18:03 - From Suppressing to Sharing: A Personal Emotional Shift

• 00:20:01 - Breaking the Fear Around Feeling Angry

• 00:23:37 - Emotion Words = Human Connection Magic

• 00:28:37 - Why the Core Emotion Wheel Is a Game-Changer

• 00:34:23 - Final Words: You’re Allowed to Feel Fully and Freely

Tera sits down with Vanessa Marin, licensed sex therapist and CEO of Vanessa Marin Sex Therapy, to explore how our early messages around sex shape our adult relationships—and how we can reclaim joy, freedom, and connection in the bedroom. Vanessa shares her personal journey of unlearning shame, learning how to speak up for her needs, and rewriting her sexual story. From navigating body confidence to overcoming a sex-negative upbringing, this conversation is a powerful reminder that healing is possible—and your pleasure matters. Whether you're struggling with desire, communication, or emotional intimacy, Vanessa’s insights will leave you encouraged, empowered, and equipped.

Links and Resources:

• Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/get-the-cew⁠⁠
• Find out how to become a Certified Coach: ⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coaching⁠⁠
• Find a coach: ⁠⁠https://connectioncodes.co/all-coaches⁠⁠
• Vanessa Marin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/?hl=en
• Website: https://vmtherapy.com/

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 – A Warm Welcome + A Quick Note on Therapy
• 00:00:50 – Meet Vanessa Marin: Sex Therapist, Real Talker, Freedom Fighter
• 00:01:39 – Growing Up Silent: How Shame Shaped Our Sexual Narratives
• 00:04:32 – From Shame to Liberation: Vanessa’s Personal Turning Point
• 00:06:11 – The Call to Sex Therapy: Where Curiosity Meets Calling
• 00:11:01 – Kids, Chaos & Connection: Keeping Intimacy Alive in Parenthood
• 00:17:21 – Desire Decoded: What Your Libido Might Be Telling You
• 00:23:02 – Let’s Talk Initiation: Who Starts, Why It Matters
• 00:29:42 – Spicing It Up: Creating a More Playful Sexual Menu
• 00:30:09 – What Actually Works for You? Redefining Sexual Connection
• 00:31:13 – Vanessa’s Go-To Tools & Practices for Better Sex
• 00:32:58 – Sex Positions: Myths, Pressure & What to Let Go Of
• 00:33:26 – Fresh Energy: How to Stay Curious in Long-Term Love
• 00:36:16 – Permission to Laugh: Why Playfulness Belongs in the Bedroom
• 00:42:38 – Too Busy for Sex? Why Prioritizing It Changes Everything
• 00:46:55 – It’s More Than Just the Act: The Deeper Value of Sex
• 00:47:52 – Orgasm Isn’t the Goal: Navigating Challenges Without Shame
• 00:50:38 – Where Emotional Safety Meets Sexual Connection