Aging, ADHD, and the lie that weight loss fixes everything. Plus: Healing means circling back — this time with more clarity and fewer breakdowns.

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This week, Sarah and I dive into the latest on GLP-1s and why women seem to have a different experience with them than men (spoiler: hormones, age, and maybe how you jab yourself). We talk about what’s not being said — like how losing weight doesn’t always come with a confidence boost. Personally, I’ve become a little self-conscious about how much weight I’ve lost in my face. There’s this weird disconnect between how I feel and how I think I’m supposed to feel.

We also talk about healing — real healing. The kind that’s messy and nonlinear. I’ve had moments where I thought I was “over” something, only to revisit it and feel that intense reaction all over again. But that’s not regression; that’s revisiting the pain with more awareness. And sometimes that’s the most powerful kind of progress there is.

I also share how I’ve been getting my ADHD chaos under control — or at least trying to. I’m journaling more, using a planner (shocking, I know), and sticking to a to-do list that doesn’t instantly get buried under ten tabs and a pile of dog hair. These tools have helped me process some really tough emotions, especially after losing Sam. It’s been less about “getting back on track” and more about creating structure that actually supports me.

If you’ve ever felt emotionally scrambled while also trying to get your life together, this one’s for you.

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This week, we’re diving into dating patterns, gut instincts, and the uncomfortable truth that sometimes… it’s your trauma playing matchmaker. We break down a listener letter from someone who thought she finally found a unicorn — until he bailed out of nowhere. Was it anxiety? Or was her intuition picking up on something real?

We talk about the difference between anxiety and intuition, why emotionally available partners can feel “off,” and how repetition compulsion makes you chase familiar pain — not because you’re broken, but because your brain is trying to fix the past. Spoiler: it never works.

Plus: Fuck That Guy Summerfest continues with a sweaty mustache bro who’s out here raw-dogging the sidewalk with bad boundaries, peak audacity, and zero self-awareness.

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• Trauma as a matchmaker

• Repetition compulsion in dating

• Anxiety vs. intuition — how to tell the difference

• Ghosting, self-trust, and breaking the cycle

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This week on F*ck That Guy Palooza 🎉

We’re serving up a buffet of walking red flags and emotional immaturity—bring your appetite. First course: a man who’s clearly past his dating app expiration date but still insists he’s entitled to a woman “out of his league” (whatever that means). Next up, a guy who treats his date’s romantic past like it’s a crime scene and somehow thinks he deserves answers. And finally, a man drooling over the idea of a threesome—as long as it’s emotionally convenient and doesn’t threaten his fragile ego.

Then, we pivot to something that truly touched us: a beautiful message from a longtime listener who credits this podcast with helping her leave a toxic relationship and choose herself. Spoiler: it ends in love, green flags, and a baby. Yes, we cried. Yes, you might too.

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This week on Worth the Weight, I open up about an emotional moment with my sister that triggered my Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria and unearthed some deep-rooted feelings of being “too much” or “in the way.”

We also talk about how RSD messes with our body image and makes it hard to feel at home in our own bodies—because when you’re constantly bracing for rejection, self-trust goes out the window.

It’s vulnerable, it’s reflective, and yeah—it’s a little spicy.

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Trying to date like a secure person while your brain screams, “THEY'RE PULLING AWAY.”

In this episode, I get real about what it’s like to date with an anxious attachment style—and how that plays out not just in romantic relationships, but in my bond with Sam, the 17-year-old chihuahua who somehow understands my emotional needs better than most men.

We also read a listener letter from someone feeling stuck and second-guessing everything after a six-week situationship came to an abrupt end. We talk through the anxiety loop, the craving for reassurance, and how hard it is not to take it personally when someone pulls away.

If you’ve ever found yourself analyzing text messages like they’re part of a true crime case, wondering if you’re “too much,” or feeling like you're always one step away from being ghosted—this one’s for you. Because here’s the truth: your need for connection isn’t a flaw. It just needs to be met by someone who can actually show up. And as always, our motto stands strong: Fuck That Guy.

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This episode of Worth The Weight takes a deeper dive into mental health and ADHD—something I’m really excited to explore as we expand the scope of the series.

This week, I had an unexpected trigger after returning Sam, the senior chihuahua, to her owner. It brought up some old compulsive habits, and I reflect on how I’ve handled similar moments in the past. I also talk about how tirzepatide may have helped me break the cycle of using junk food as a coping mechanism.

We also get into how ADHD affects our eating habits and productivity—because let’s be honest, the connection is real. Whether it’s impulsive snacking, struggling with structure, or chasing that next dopamine hit, ADHD plays a bigger role in all of this than we often realize.

Plus, we discuss the recent halt in compounding production and what it means for those who rely on it. Tune in for an honest conversation about navigating these challenges and finding ways to work with, rather than against, our brains.

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