In this moving episode, Pastor Xavier shares his journey from growing up in 1960s South Central Los Angeles to relocating to Altadena/Pasadena area, where he faced the devastating 2025 Eaton Fires that destroyed over 9,000 structures and claimed at least 18 lives. He discusses how spoken word poetry became a lifeline for processing trauma in the face of mass destruction and loss.

Raised in conservative evangelical Christian churches, Pastor Xavier reflects on surviving abuse and the decades long struggle to understand his bisexual identity. He examines how rigid traditions within some Christian institutions can deter critical thinking and hinder personal growth.

Drawing from over 30 years of ministry, he offers insights into identifying affirming Christian churches that uphold both biblical integrity and LGBTQ+ inclusion. With his mother as his biggest advocate and a renewed connection to scripture, Pastor Xavier reimagines his faith as a source of healing, justice, and service to youth at large.

This conversation invites listeners to reflect: Who shaped our beliefs? Can faith and identity coexist? How does questioning authority lead to self-discovery?

And above all, Pastor Xavier reminds us: who we are is God’s greatest gift.

Resources from Pastor Xavier:

• Kathy Baldock – Author of "Walking the Bridgeless Canyon," and former evangelical who explores how cultural and political forces shaped anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric and theology. Recommended for: unpacking myths, observing social, political, scientific, cultural timelines, and reclaiming inclusive faith.

• Father Richard Rohr – Catholic priest and author. Quote: “Sin is being complicit in the suffering of the world.” Recommended for: reframing sin through compassion and justice. Suggested Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oprahs-super-soul/id1264843400?i=1000415592929

• The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron – A book on creative recovery through journaling and reflection. Recommended for: healing trauma, reclaiming joy, and nurturing inner creativity.

• Queerfully and Wonderfully Made by Leigh Finke

• The Gospel of Inclusion - Brandan J Robertson

• Outside the Lines - Mihee Kim-Kort

• Changing Our Mind - David P Gushee

Affirming Faith Communities & Organizations

• • The New Evangelicals – Jesus-centered, inclusive, and justice-focused
  • The Reformation Project – Bible-based LGBTQ+ inclusion https://reformationproject.org/
  • Q Christian Fellowship – Community for LGBTQ+ believers seeking truth and belonging - https://www.qchristian.org/
  • Post-Evangelical Collective - https://www.postevangelicalcollective.org/
  • https://www.gaychurch.org/

Biblical References from Pastor Xavier:

• • Matthew 22 – Misuse of scripture and Jesus’ correction of religious leaders
  • 1 Corinthians 13:4–8 – The nature of God’s love
  • Jeremiah 1 :4-8– Affirmation of calling and worth
  • Luke 10:25-37, Parable of the Good Samaritan – Radical inclusion
  • Galatians 1:1-2:10 - Gospel of Uncircumcision = Inclusion for those excluded by the Law
  • Matthew 5-7 - Sermon on the Mount – Reinterpreting law through love

  
  

How do you reconcile family expectations, cultural traditions, and queer identity—especially when you’re growing up in rural China?

Join host Ross Victory as he sits down with Dr. Chongzheng Wei, a Chinese clinical psychologist and bisexual activist whose extraordinary path spans rural southern China, Thailand, France, and the United States. Hear how Chongzheng navigated stigma, internalized shame, and family obligations to find empowerment through personal and professional advocacy. Discover how geography and cultural factors influence the mental health needs of bisexual individuals and why tailored support networks, online and in-person, are crucial for overcoming isolation. If you’ve ever struggled to honor your heritage without erasing who you are, or wondered how to find a community that embraces every facet of your identity, this deeply personal conversation offers keen insights and practical steps for claiming your full self. Holding onto our roots doesn’t mean letting go of our truths.

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In this guided meditation from Embracing All of Me, host Ross Victory invites you to release shame, silence, and the inherited weight of stigma. Through breath, visualization, and affirmations, you’ll reconnect with your inner light and remember that you are not broken, in-between, or too much—you are whole. This episode is designed for anyone navigating layered identities, especially those in the bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and queer communities who’ve been required to shrink, split, compartmentalize, cover or conceal to survive. Return to your body. Root yourself in your truth. Carry forward only what is yours.

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In this episode, we explore the “paradox of visibility” within the LGBTQ+ community—especially for those of us who are bisexual/bi+/pan and feel misrepresented in the world at large.

Visibility is be a powerful statement of existence and self-worth. Yet it also comes with risks: being seen can make you a target and a political scapegoat, while being erased and overlooked can lead to feels of despair and unworthiness.

Drawing on personal reflections, Ross introduces a companion to visibility: embodiment. Rather than asking to be acknowledged, embodiment asks us to discover ourselves from the inside out to take inventory of what we need.

He discusses how institutions and mainstream narratives weren’t built with our particular life experiences in mind, why external validation alone falls short, and how cultivating a sense of wholeness and "glow" can transform both our lives and the people around us.

Tune in to learn practical questions for distinguishing whether you’re acting to “be seen” or to “feel more like yourself."

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Join me for an intimate conversation with bisexual English poet Nicholas Cairns, whose raw insights illuminate the intersections of grief, isolation, and the expansive possibilities of Bi joy. Discover how Nick turned to poetry to navigate personal loss—particularly the death of his father—and to process isolation. Learn how embracing his bi+ identity not only fueled his artistic journey but empowered others seeking representation and how he went from anonymous faceless writer to putting a name and face on his work. Nick reveals how creative expression can be a powerful tool for self-discovery. If you’re looking to explore the power of poetry through an identity-focused lens, the complexities of grief, and the possibilities of living authentically, this episode offers hope and inspiration. Tune in and celebrate the limitless potential of Bi joy and human connection.

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Dive deep into the mental health needs of bisexual and queer communities of color with Dr. Tangela Roberts, a psychologist and researcher at the University of Buffalo. In this illuminating interview, Dr. Roberts shares her insights on identity development, the dual tracks of representation and policy, funding gaps that disproportionately affect bi+ individuals, despite being the majority of the LGBTQ+ population, and reveals how systemic barriers shape both healthcare and educational experiences for queer youth. Discover how embracing all parts of one’s identity can foster resilience, counter feelings of isolation, and fuel personal growth. From debunking damaging myths to championing intersectional research, Dr. Roberts offers practical steps for accessing community for the first time, finding supportive care, and affirming your full, authentic self. Tune in for expert guidance and actionable strategies! Dr. Tangela reminds us that embracing ourselves can feel scary while we try to anchor ourselves in a world that systemically diminishes bi+ voices and people of color as agendas. https://www.instagram.com/talk2drtangi/

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Join host Ross Victory for an illuminating interview with bisexual Mexican American author Aaron H. Aceves, whose novel, This Is Why They Hate Us, boldly explores queerness, culture, and coming-of-age in East Los Angeles. In this inaugural episode, hear how Aaron channeled his personal experiences—straddling multiple identities and grappling with self-discovery—into a story that brings raw honesty and humor to themes often left unspoken. Discover how writing became Aaron’s path to embracing his own bisexuality, why he’s passionate about creating nuanced characters who challenge stereotypes, and how subverting tropes adds depth and authenticity to YA fiction. Whether you’re new to LGBTQ+ literature, an aspiring writer yearning to tell your truth, or simply curious about the magic of identity-focused storytelling, this episode offers an inspiring roadmap to owning your voice. Tune in for a candid look into Aaron’s writing process, insights on representation in publishing, and the surprising ways fictional characters can become our greatest teachers. Visit Aaron's site to learn more about his writing and future projects www.aaronhaceves.com

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In this special teaser for Embracing All of Me, author, artist, and entrepreneur Ross Victory reveals how a simple course listing sparked an entire creative enterprise. Learn why this podcast—anchored in bisexual mens’ experiences yet resonant to anyone with fluid or evolving identities—goes beyond traditional conversations about sexuality, identity, and community. Ross opens up about the fragmentation many face while juggling cultural, racial, and gender expectations, and how “identity-focused writing” can become a tool for empowerment. Hear about the upcoming book, real stories from dynamic guests, and the process of merging who you are with how you show up in the world. If you’ve ever felt torn between labels or craving deeper, heart-centered self-expression, this is your invitation!

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