Over the years, I’ve done a lot of things because I thought I should, especially for my dad (who passed away 12 years ago when this episode airs!). But that one word, “should,” has carried more weight than I ever realized. In this episode, I share why I decided to remove “should” from my every day life and how that one shift has allowed me to take my power and voice back.

If you’ve ever felt guilt for not doing enough, shame for not being farther along, or pressure to be someone you’re not, this will be a good episode to listen in to.

• Why “should” is so heavy and what it’s really costing you

• The hidden connection between “should” and guilt, shame, and external pressure

• How “should” disconnects you from your truth and your joy

• 5 simple but powerful ways to start releasing the word “should” today

1. Catch it in the moment — Notice when you say or think “should” and ask, “Says who?”

2. Replace it with empowering words — Like “choose,” “want,” or “need”

3. Reflect daily — Ask, “What did I feel I should do today?” and “What did I actually want or need?”

4. Practice out loud — Invite a loved one to help you shift your language

5. Listen to your body — Notice how “should” feels tense, while “want” feels safe

Removing “should” doesn’t mean avoiding responsibility. It means living from a place of freedom instead of fear. As someone committed to helping others move from impossibility to freedom, this practice is foundational—for me, and maybe for you too.

When you stop living by “should,” you:

• Free your voice

• Strengthen your boundaries

• Make space for clarity, joy, and authenticity

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