In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most overlooked yet powerful aspects of dating: inner safety. If you’re tired of dating feeling like a high-stakes game where you’re always waiting for validation or reassurance, this episode is for you.

Inner safety is the sense of calm, security, and self-trust that comes from within. It’s what keeps you grounded, confident, and able to navigate dating without getting overly attached or anxious. When you build this internal sense of safety, dating becomes less of a rollercoaster and more of a steady, enjoyable process.

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Key Takeaways

• Inner safety helps you stay grounded and resilient even when things feel uncertain. This is key for dating without feeling like you need external validation.
• Internal safety reduces the need for validation from others, allowing you to approach dating with confidence, self-worth, and clarity.
• Three techniques to build inner safety: a body scan meditation, the 5-5-7 breathing exercise, and a self-hypnosis mantra practice. Each of these helps you reconnect with yourself and calm your nervous system, so you’re less likely to get swept up in overthinking or emotional spirals.

Practical Tips

• Try a body scan meditation to bring awareness to your body and calm your mind, especially before a date or whenever you feel anxious.
• Practice the 5-5-7 breathing exercise to center yourself in the moment and create an internal feeling of calm. This technique is great for pre-date nerves or daily practice.
• Use a self-hypnosis mantra to reinforce the belief that you are safe, grounded, and complete within yourself. This simple technique helps you feel more secure from the inside out.

Listen to This Episode If…

• You feel anxious or unsettled in dating and crave a sense of calm and confidence.
• You often look for validation or reassurance in relationships and want to change that pattern.
• You’re ready to date from a place of security and self-worth, so you can recognize and attract the right kind of partner.

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This week I’m interviewing life and business coach Lindsey Mango about how she created her DREAM relationship! In this episode Lindsey breaks down:

1. The biggest mistake she made in dating when she was single
2. How life coaching helped her realize that her boyfriend at the time wasn’t “the one”
3. How she intentionally created the life of her dreams BEFORE her husband showed up
4. What her biggest blocks were in love
5. How she stopped going after men that only had “potential” and didn’t prioritize her
6. How she learned to be authentically herself fin dating

Lindsey helps women create lives and businesses that they are obsessed with everyday possible through her program The Anything but Average Life Membership.You can learn more about the ABA Life membership here and follow Lindsey on IG for more inspo (and pics of her adorable new baby) here!

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In this week's episode I'm breaking down the importance of self-confidence when you're dating over 30 AND I'm giving you my hack for showing up securely as your most confident self to your next date! No more second guessing yourself, waiting around for him to ask you out again, and no more settling.

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