In this episode, Stacie and Eden are flipping the script. Eden is interviewing Stacie about her incredible marriage journey. Imagine being married twice…to the same person! Stacie shares her story of marrying George twice, reflecting on their nine-year dating period, their challenges, and the personal growth that ensued. The conversation delves into themes of self-awareness, the impact of peer groups, and the importance of prioritizing personal goals. Stacie’s candid reflections offer valuable insights into navigating relationships and the transformative power of embracing one's journey. Stay tuned for part two, where Eden and Stacie will continue to explore the intricacies of Stacie’s experiences, offering more insights and encouragement for those navigating their own challenges in love and life.

What is Discussed:

Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)Eden and Stacie introduce the podcast and share their excitement for the episode.

Switching Roles (00:00:17)Eden explains the role reversal for the episode, focusing on Stacie's marriage story.

FDTD Special Guest (00:02:28)Eden mentions her one-month-old son, Bomani, present during the recording.

Meeting George (00:03:32)Stacie recounts the unique circumstances of meeting her husband, George, multiple times.

Signs of Destiny (00:06:11)Stacie reflects on the concept of destiny and signs regarding her relationship with George.

First Marriage Timeline (00:09:00)Stacie shares that she dated George for nine years before getting married.

Growing Together (00:10:42)Stacie discusses how she and George pursued their education and careers concurrently.

Peer Influence on Relationships (00:14:35)Stacie notes the impact of her peer group on her perspective about marriage and relationships.

Influence of Peer Groups (00:16:46)Discussion on how peer groups impact children's development and life choices.

Personal Focus in New York (00:18:33)Eden shares how living in New York City fosters personal and career growth.

First Significant Relationship (00:19:04)Stacie reflects on her first meaningful relationship and the importance of shared values.

Long-Term Relationship Mindset (00:20:38)Stacie explains her approach to dating with a focus on long-term compatibility.

Breakup and Healing (00:22:06)Stacie describes the difficult breakup and her decision to cut off communication.

Reconnecting After Breakup (00:23:49)The couple reconnects after a friend's death, leading to therapy and healing.

Marriage Timeline (00:25:41)Stacie discusses the transition from dating to marriage after years of relationship.

Traditional Wedding Experience (00:26:50)Stacie shares details about their grand wedding in New York City.

Post-Wedding Reality (00:27:42)Stacie describes the challenges faced immediately after their wedding.

Isolation and Struggles (00:29:22)Stacie expresses feelings of isolation and confusion about her marriage.

Community Support (00:30:48)Discussion on the importance of community support during difficult times.

Loss of Control (00:32:28)Stacie reflects on feeling a loss of control in her life and marriage dynamics.

Understanding Control in Marriage (00:33:09)Discussion on the feeling of losing control when entering marriage and its implications.

Frustration and Lack of Solutions (00:34:55)Exploration of initial frustrations and the struggle to find solutions in a challenging marriage.

The Breaking Process (00:35:06)Insight into the transformative...

Stacie and Eden delve into the profound and often perplexing question: "Am I Ready?" This episode is a heartfelt exploration of readiness, uncertainty, and the unexpected challenges that life throws our way. Stacie and Eden share personal anecdotes and insights, offering listeners a relatable and inspiring perspective on navigating significant life events. Whether you're contemplating marriage, moving in with a partner, or facing unforeseen obstacles, this episode provides valuable guidance on embracing uncertainty and building resilience.

What is Discussed:

The beginning (00:00:00)Introduction to the podcast and the episode's format.

Defining "Am I Ready?" (00:01:13)Discussion about the concept of being ready and its relation to imposter syndrome.

Personal experiences with readiness (00:04:14)Sharing personal experiences related to feeling ready or unprepared for significant life events, including motherhood and marriage.

Unexpected challenges (00:09:21)Discussion about unexpected challenges when moving in together and dealing with illness.

Adapting to unexpected changes (00:11:31)Adapting to unexpected changes in a relationship due to illness and the impact on daily life.

Reflection on navigating unexpected challenges (00:14:22)Reflection on navigating unexpected challenges and the need to pivot in response to unforeseen circumstances.

Choosing Hard Now (00:19:25)Discussion on the importance of choosing hard now for a better future and the concept of agency in making tough decisions.

Am I Ready? (00:21:33)Exploration of the tension between feeling ready or unready for significant life events, and the impact of delaying decisions.

Moving to New York (00:24:28)Personal story of making the decision to move to New York despite feeling unready, and the realization of being able to handle hard things.

Do It Anyway (00:29:57)Emphasis on the importance of doing things anyway, regardless of feeling ready or not, and the value of gaining evidence that you can handle tough situations.

Choosing Your Hard (00:32:17)Discussion on choosing to face challenges now to avoid greater difficulties later in life.

Being Ready and Growing Into the Future Version of Yourself (00:33:34)Exploration of the idea that the future version of oneself is ready and waiting, and that growth occurs during the process.

The Right Question: When, Not If (00:34:19)Emphasizing the importance of taking action now, regardless of feeling ready, and the need to focus on the present.

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Stacie and Eden explore the intricate balance between feeling grateful and experiencing other, seemingly contradictory emotions. Eden shares her personal journey of balancing motherhood with a newborn and a two-year-old, expressing her challenges with exhaustion and guilt. Stacie and Eden emphasize the importance of acknowledging and processing all emotions without judgment, and discuss societal pressures that often hinder this process. They advocate for intentionality in thoughts and actions, likening it to a pilot adjusting coordinates. The episode encourages listeners to embrace their emotions, practice mindfulness, and the importance to create supportive communities for holistic conversations.

What is Discussed:

Gratitude and Tension (00:00:00)Exploring the tension between feeling grateful and having other conflicting emotions, using personal experiences as examples.

New Motherhood Challenges (00:02:12)Discussing the challenges and conflicting emotions of being a new mother while feeling grateful for the blessings.

Acknowledging Negative Feelings (00:05:48)Encouraging the acknowledgment of negative feelings and the importance of giving oneself permission to feel them.

The Impact of "Shoulding" (00:08:00)Discussing the negative impact of societal and external pressures on one's ability to listen to their own instincts and make choices.

Permission to Feel (00:10:54)Exploring the idea of giving oneself permission to feel conflicting emotions and the importance of recognizing and addressing them.

Reframing and Acknowledging Emotions (00:13:00)Highlighting the significance of acknowledging emotions as a prerequisite for reframing and reorienting one's perspective.

Creating a Space for Conversations (00:16:11)Emphasizing the need for a community and space for holistic conversations about the challenges and responsibilities that affect women's lives.

Gratitude and tiredness (00:17:18)Discussion about feeling tired and struggling to feel genuinely grateful.

Therapy and emotions (00:18:08)The benefits of therapy in recognizing and processing emotions without judgment.

Imagination and reframing (00:20:53Exploring the impact of imagination on emotions and the importance of reframing negative thoughts.

Self-regulation and gratitude (00:22:10)Learning to self-regulate emotions and focusing on personal control for gratitude.

Being present and content (00:25:27)The challenge of being present and finding contentment in the present moment.

Practicing presence (00:33:22)The importance of practicing presence and overcoming default thinking about the past or the future.

The importance of intentional thinking (00:34:05)The speakers discuss the importance of being intentional with thoughts and decisions to avoid drifting off course.

The power of intention (00:34:55)The conversation emphasizes the need to be intentional in daily life, with a focus on making new choices and thoughts.

Acknowledging and reframing feelings (00:37:23)The discussion centers around acknowledging one's true feelings and reframing them to create space for gratitude.

The impact of intention on life's course (00:41:25)The analogy of a pilot intentionally changing coordinates is used to illustrate how small shifts in intention can significantly impact life's trajectory.

Coping mechanisms and delaying personal work (00:44:08)The speakers discuss the tendency to delay personal growth and the importance of acknowledging one's coping mechanisms.

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