170 If you have any chance of having a great –or even just a decent– marriage, there will inevitably be times in your relationship that you need to take a look at your self and how you are approaching your relationship. To self-reflect and take ownership of the ways you are contributing to a less-than-great relationship.

Even if you know how essential this is for making positive changes and having lasting love, it can still, unfortunately, feel painful–if you approach it the way so many people do.

Luckily, I have found a way to take the pain out of facing all this. It can even feel good to look at those sticky, unskillful, or not-so-pretty patterns we fall into…with the right attitude and a good dose of self-support. (I personally find it thrilling!)

I want to share how with you today in this episode, broken down into 7 specific tips.

So listen in so that you no longer avoid doing –even just a little– this extra essential relationship improving meta skill and so you easily can make the loving changes on your end that will allow you to steer your marriage in a much more loving and connected direction.

Ready to feel so much more connected and loving with yourself-- and proud of yourself, too? Listen in.

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169 This is the first in a re-boot of some of the most essential episodes of the podcast that I will be releasing occasionally. Whether you’re newer to the podcast, or if you’ve listened to every episode, this one is a must listen (or re-listen).

Because often, as humans, we go about trying to improve our marriage backwards: we're more focused on changing our partner than changing ourselves.

But focusing on your spouse isn’t where you pack the most punch for actual change!

There is a more effective, easier, and more rewarding approach to improving your marriage, where you actually have powerful influence to have the loving, connected, supportive marriage you want with your husband.

It entails bringing your focus back to YOURSELF, by answering this essential question: “Who do I want to be in my relationship?”. And then centering your focus on becoming her.

This will get way better results in your marriage.

In this updated episode, we look at what it means to be who you want to be and WHY focusing on this is so effective when we want to improve our love lives.

I illustrate this with an example of a challenge in my own marriage and the difference in results I get when I'm focusing on my husband improving, versus stepping in to being who I really want to be, instead.

Then I help you define for yourself who you want to be.

Creating this clear vision for yourself is essential in order to actually take that journey of becoming her. Once you take this step you will be on the way to truly making changes by leaps and bounds in your marriage.

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Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. When you sign up by mid November, 2024, you will also get, as a BONUS, the LIVE Foundations of Emotional Well-being Course. It all starts by filling out this form.

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The connection and closeness we so deeply want with our partner can dissipate for a variety of reasons, but often it comes from a slow hardening of our hearts towards our spouse in response to the arguments, the many moments of irritation, or the mistakes we feel they are making, and the disappointment we feel from it all.

If that resonates at all (or you are simply tired of feeling disconnected with your partner), this story-and-metaphor-filled episode is an absolute must-listen for you.

To create more of the deep intimacy and connection you truly want, it’s essential to stop this slow closing of your heart. Because it is cutting you off from love and making the closeness you crave ever elusive.

It starts with recognizing that this isn’t simply because of what’s been happening recently between you, but rather because of what I am calling “emotional vitamins” that you did not get in your younger years, which have led you to “over-protect” your tender heart when you don't get the love you need from your spouse.

It’s the case for most of us. But it can absolutely be changed now. You've just got to "take" the right "vitamins"!

Listen in to this episode to hear all about why our hearts slowly harden, and what you can do today and beyond to “take” the Emotional Vitamins you need to heal your heart and make available so much more of the love, connection, and intimacy you want between you and your significant other, so you can really FEEL it between you.

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