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Show Notes: Interview with Khara Croswaite Brindle
Introduction
- Guest: Khara Croswaite Brindle
- Licensed Mental Health Therapist in Denver, Colorado
- Roles: Financial Therapist, TEDx Speaker, Burnout Consultant, Author, Professor
- New Book: Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships: Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle
Pathway to Becoming a Mental Health Therapist
- Khara shares her journey
- Personal experiences with therapists and being a confidant for others
- Emphasizes the importance of having someone to bounce ideas off and heal
Personal Experience with Mother-Daughter Relationship
- Teenage years were challenging, bordering on a rupture
- Improved relationship in adulthood
- Insights from personal experience informing her book
Assumptions About Estrangement
- Common misconceptions: impulsive, spiteful, petty
- Painful assumption: therapists encourage estrangement
- Therapists focus on boundaries, trauma, abuse, and neglect
- Importance of bridging gaps and understanding relationships
Teenagers and Parental Boundaries
- Teenagers often influenced more by peers than parents
- Developmental stage of independence and defiance
- Importance of parents meeting their children where they are
Helping Parents with Acting Out Teenagers
- Initial step: Listening to parents and validating their concerns
- Family therapy: Facilitating communication between parents and teenagers
- Recognizing patterns in behavior and underlying causes
The Estrangement Energy Cycle
- Eight stages:
- Cycle of Abuse
- Questioning
- Relationship Rupture
- Estrangement (Physical and Emotional)
- Grief and Loss
- Discovering Sense of Self
- Deeper Work (Attachment, Parenting, Breaking Generational Trauma)
- Redefining Self-Worth
Challenges in Mother-Daughter Relationships
- Difficulty for mothers to acknowledge mistakes without feeling like bad parents
- Emotional reactions from mothers can hinder reconciliation
- Importance of acknowledgment, apology, and action from mothers
Individual Healing
- Many women end up doing solo work if reconciliation isn't possible
- Therapy focuses on self-healing and moving forward
Advice from Khara's Book
- Book aimed at adult daughters and their supporters (therapists, mentors, coaches)
- Normalizing experiences and providing relatable stories
- Practical advice and stages of the estrangement cycle
Golden Pearls of Wisdom
- Communication and understanding are key
- Each person's journey is unique, and reconciliation timelines vary
- The importance of neutrality and compassion from loved ones
- Do's and don'ts for supporting someone experiencing estrangement
Conclusion
- Estrangement and healing are complex, requiring time and effort
- Khara emphasizes the need for personal work and mutual action in relationships
- Her book provides a roadmap for understanding and navigating