Celebrating the Life of Jerry Herman with Jane Dorian

Introduction

Dr. Allen Lycka hosts Jane Dorian, goddaughter and dedicated manager of the works of Jerry Herman, the iconic composer and lyricist behind Broadway classics such as Hello Dolly, La Cage Aux Folles, and Mame. Together, they explore the life, career, and everlasting legacy of Herman, whose music continues to inspire generations.

Key Topics Discussed

1. The Legacy of Jerry Herman

• Jerry Herman’s enduring influence on Broadway and the LGBTQ+ community through his work on shows like La Cage Aux Folles and songs like I Am What I Am.
• Highlights of Herman's notable songs from Hello Dolly and other productions, such as We Need a Little Christmas and Before the Parade Passes By.

2. The Little-Known Facts

• Jerry Herman's unexpected involvement in writing the theme song for Barney the Dinosaur. Jane shares a heartwarming story about how Herman, as her daughter’s godfather, was inspired by her love for Barney.
• Louis Armstrong’s spontaneous recording of Hello Dolly, which unexpectedly became a massive hit, even surpassing The Beatles on the charts.

3. Hello Dolly and Its Significance

• The impact of Hello Dolly in the U.S. after President Kennedy's assassination, serving as a symbol of hope and second chances.
• The iconic role of Dolly was originally offered to Broadway legends like Ethel Merman and Mary Martin before Carol Channing made it legendary.

4. La Cage Aux Folles and Breaking Boundaries

• La Cage Aux Folles broke new ground by depicting gay families and advocating for acceptance during the early 1980s. The show's influence went beyond entertainment, addressing deep societal issues and promoting the visibility of LGBTQ+ families.

5. Jerry Herman’s Memorial and His Final Wishes

• Jane recalls the bittersweet experience of organizing Jerry Herman’s memorial, which featured Broadway stars such as Bernadette Peters, Leslie Uggams, and Betty Buckley.
• Herman's decision to be buried next to his mother and Jane's mother, leading to the auctioning of his crypt next to Marilyn Monroe and Hugh Hefner.

Notable Stories

• Jerry Herman’s unique approach to songwriting: Herman, along with Irving Berlin, was one of the few renowned composer-lyricists who couldn't read music.
• Herman's sense of humor and how it influenced his life and work, including lighthearted moments spent renaming paintings in New York museums with Jane.
• The relationship between Herman and Angela Lansbury, where Herman coached Lansbury for her role in Mame, sneaking into the audition to play her songs.

Actionable Advice or Tips

• Jerry Herman’s story serves as a reminder of the importance of resilience in the face of challenges, such as his ability to persevere after several Broadway failures.
• Young musicians and creatives can be inspired by Herman’s commitment to nurturing talent through the Jerry Herman/ASCAP Foundation Musical Theater Scholarship Program.

Guest Information

• Jane Dorian is the goddaughter of Jerry Herman and has made it her mission to keep his legacy alive through revivals of his work and managing his estate. She shares touching anecdotes and previously unknown stories about Herman’s life.

Conclusion

Jerry Herman’s life and work continue to resonate with people around the world. His musicals, full of joy, optimism, and deeper meaning, endure through constant revivals. For more information on his works and legacy, listeners can visit:

• JerryHerman.com
• Studio Auctions for Jerry Herman's Crypt
• Doyle Auctions for Memorabilia

Dr. Allen Lycka's Final Thoughts

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• Host: Dr. Allen Lycka
• Guest: Robert Manolson, mental health advocate and creator of Powerful Play Experiences
• Topic: Overcoming depression and anxiety through play and positivity

Robert Manolson’s Approach to Mental Health

• Emphasis on Mental Health, Not Illness: Focus on managing depression and anxiety through positive experiences.
• Living with and Managing Mental Health: Understanding that mental health challenges are ongoing and part of daily life.

Overcoming Depression and Anxiety

• Play as a Healing Strategy: Robert uses play to manage his mental health positively.
• Mental Health as a Journey: Depression and anxiety don't have a clear beginning, middle, or end.

The Role of Play in Mental Health

• Play as Self-Care: Essential for positive mental health and being human.
• Workplace Play: Integrating fun and play into the work environment improves happiness and productivity.

Positive Mental Health at Work

• Definition: A space of well-being where everyone achieves their potential and can cope with normal stressors.
• Impact of Play: Enhances productivity, reduces sick days, and improves overall job satisfaction.

Strategies for Incorporating Play in the Workplace

• Customized Workshops: Robert designs play-based workshops tailored to the specific intentions of workplace leaders.
• Engaging Activities: Workshops involve interactive and playful activities, fostering joy and collaboration.

Benefits of Play in Organizations

• Happy Employees: More productive, fewer sick days, better recruitment, and retention.
• Positive Work Culture: Play promotes relationship building and a supportive work environment.

Robert’s Personal Insights and Definitions

• Mental Health Optimism: A term Robert uses to describe a positive outlook on mental health.
• Play as a Remedy: Play frees the soul from pain and creates space for joy and energy.

Conclusion

• Contact Information for Robert Manolson: Visit www.powerfulplay.ca for more information and to get in touch with Robert.
• Dr. Allen Lycka’s Speaking Services: For speaking engagements, visit www.drallenlycka.com and www.dralenspeaks.com.

Final Thoughts

• Embracing Play and Positivity: Shifting the focus from mental illness to mental health and optimism can lead to a more fulfilling life.
• Living a Fantastic Life: By integrating play and positive mental health strategies, we can achieve our best selves and lead happier lives.

Dr. Allen Lycka and Linda Young on Bicycle Security and Entrepreneurship

Introduction

Host: Dr. Allen Lycka

Guest: Linda Young, Founder of Pinhead Locks

Dr. Allen Lycka introduces fellow Edmontonian Linda Young, the leading expert on wheel and seat security for bicycles in North America and Europe. Inspired by the theft of her bike's front wheel in the ninth grade, Linda invented and brought to market innovative bicycle security solutions through her company, Pinhead Locks.

The Inspiration Behind Pinhead Locks

• Linda’s Story: In grade nine, Linda's new bike's front wheel was stolen, which motivated her to create a security lock.
• Parental Influence: Despite her mother’s skepticism and focus on academics, Linda persisted with her idea throughout her schooling.
• Development Process: After completing school, Linda created a business plan, developed prototypes, and worked with engineers to bring her invention to market.

Challenges and Rewards of Inventing

• Time and Effort: Inventing and bringing a product to market is time-consuming but rewarding, with only 1% of patents reaching the market.
• Industry Statistics: Many inventions end up in a "graveyard," but Pinhead Locks has found success.

The Problem with Quick Releases

• Safety Concerns: Linda argues that quick releases, though standard on many bikes, are unsafe for the average user.
• Personal Modifications: Linda replaced her bike's quick releases with Allen keys to prevent tampering.
• Education: Emphasizes the need to educate consumers, especially children, about bicycle security.

The Emotional Impact of Bicycle Theft

• Dr. Lycka's Experience: Recalls his childhood bicycle and the independence it provided.
• Financial Impact: Replacing stolen bicycle parts can be costly, with high-end parts ranging from hundreds to over a thousand dollars.
• Emotional Toll: The devastation and loss of peace of mind when a bike is stolen.

Pinhead Locks Solutions

• Comprehensive Protection: Pinhead Locks offers systems to secure all parts of a bike, including wheels, seats, and handlebars.
• Tracking Technology: Incorporates Apple AirTag and Samsung tags for tracking stolen bikes.
• One-Key System: A single key can secure all parts of a bike, simplifying security.

Market and Business Insights

• Global Presence: Pinhead Locks is sold in North America, Europe, and soon in Australia.
• Customer Loyalty: Pinhead Locks has built a loyal customer base over 25 years.
• Support for Local Bike Shops: Advocates for supporting local bike shops for their essential services and expertise.

Pricing and Accessibility

• Cost of Security Kits: The ultimate kit, which includes locks for all bike parts, costs about $150 USD. The tracking security box is an additional $49.99 USD.
• Value Proposition: Emphasizes the cost-effectiveness of investing in bike security compared to the cost and hassle of replacing stolen parts.

Final Thoughts and Resources

• Education and Support: Encourages consumers to educate themselves about bike security through Pinhead’s resources.
• Contact and Purchase Information:
• Local bike shops and Pinhead Locks’ website: www.pinheadlocks.com
• Dr. Lycka’s Website: For more resources on living a fantastic life, visit www.drallenlycka.com

Social Media:

https://www.instagram.com/pinheadlocks/

https://www.facebook.com/officialpinheadlocks/

Dr. Allen Lycka Interviews Natalie Spellman

Introduction

• Guest: Natalie Spellman, known as the "Greatness Activator."
• Background: Former combat Marine veteran turned occupational therapist.
• Mission: Guiding individuals through unresolved pain and trauma towards healing and self-discovery.

Early Life and Military Service

• Journey to the Marines: Natalie shares her transition from college to the Marines, influenced by a Marine Corps recruiter.
• Boot Camp Experience: The challenges and resilience built during Marine boot camp.
• Impact of Military Service: Traits like honor, courage, and commitment gained from the Marine Corps.

Post-Military Career and Education

• Occupational Therapy: Natalie's transition to becoming an occupational therapist.
• Dealing with PTSD: Coping with post-traumatic stress disorder and survivor’s guilt after returning from Iraq.
• Holistic Approach: The importance of treating the whole person in her therapeutic practice.

Personal Healing Journey

• Diagnosis and Healing: Natalie's experience with PTSD and a miraculous recovery that led her to a quest for understanding pain and trauma.
• Research and Techniques: Her extensive research across various fields to develop her healing techniques.
• Purpose Sizing: A method combining purpose and positivity to promote healing and well-being.

Strategies for Overcoming Trauma

• Reframing Pain: Viewing pain as an opportunity for growth and healing.
• Higher Frequency Living: The importance of maintaining a positive, high-frequency mindset to attract good things.
• Healing as a Foundation: Emphasizing the necessity of healing to achieve personal greatness.

Becoming the "Greatness Activator"

• Definition: Empowering individuals to overcome unresolved pain and trauma to live a meaningful, purpose-driven life.
• Personal Empowerment: The journey of rising to one's full potential and activating greatness within.

Advice and Inspiration

• Message to Her Younger Self: Encouragement to rise above challenges and shine.
• Responsibility and Vision: Taking 100% responsibility for one's life and having a clear vision for the future.
• Living a Fantastic Life: Focusing on self-love, positivity, and a higher purpose.

Conclusion

• Final Thoughts: Natalie emphasizes the importance of loving oneself, decluttering negativity, and maintaining a peace of mind.
• Encouragement: Listeners are encouraged to fill their lives with positivity and purpose to live a fantastic life.

BIO:

Natalie Spellman stands alone as the only Greatness Activator, impacting the lives of many. She is on a mission to guide people through unresolved pain and trauma toward healing, self-discovery, and activating their greatness within. With her unique journey to find clarity and direction in life, she also helps individuals craft personalized "successful living" roadmaps to live their best lives personally and professionally. Her blend of military discipline and occupational therapy expertise simplifies complex life challenges into manageable journeys, making life more fulfilling, meaningful, and purposeful.

Social Media:

(32) Natalie Spellman | LinkedIn

(2) Facebook

Natalie Spellman (Coach Nat) (@spellmannatalie7) • Instagram photos and videos

Home - Natalie Shand (nataliespellman.com)

• Guest Name: Sandra Bellamy, also known as the Asexual Entrepreneur.
• Notable Works: Author of "Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories About Love, Life and Sex."
• Achievements: Speaker at Blue Talks in Oxford, co-author in "Business Life and the Universe, Volume 11."

Key Topics Discussed:

1. Understanding Asexuality:

• Definition: Asexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by a lack of sexual attraction.
• Personal Perspective: Sandra identifies as a hetero-romantic asexual, meaning she is romantically attracted to men but does not experience sexual attraction.
• LGBTQ+ Inclusion: Asexuality is part of the LGBTQ+ acronym but is often misunderstood.

2. Discovering Asexuality:

• Personal Journey: Sandra realized she was asexual after a counseling session in 2014, leading her to research and discover asexuality.
• Community and Awareness: Sandra emphasizes the importance of recognizing asexuality as a valid sexual orientation globally to reduce fear and ridicule.

3. The Asexual Community:

• Population Statistics: Approximately 1% of the global population is asexual.
• Support and Resources: The online forum www.asexuality.org is a major resource for asexual individuals and their allies.

4. Asexual Perspectives Book:

• Content: The book answers common questions about asexuality and includes diverse personal stories from 46 asexual individuals.
• Purpose: To dispel myths and provide real-life examples of what it means to be asexual.

5. Misconceptions about Asexuality:

• Common Myths: Asexuality is often confused with celibacy or abstinence, which are choices, whereas asexuality is not a choice.
• Diverse Experiences: Asexuals can have different levels of comfort with sex, ranging from sex-neutral to sex-repulsed, and may engage in various sexual activities without sexual attraction.

6. Personal Boundaries and Challenges:

• Overcoming Fears: Sandra had to overcome shyness and fear of discussing sex openly.
• Mindset Mastery: Emphasizes the importance of taking action and pushing through personal fears to achieve goals.

7. Advocacy and Education:

• Public Speaking: Sandra's experiences with public speaking and organizing meetups have boosted her confidence and ability to advocate for asexuality.
• Education: Uses her platform to educate others about asexuality and promote understanding.

8. Publications and Contact Information:

• Books: "Diary Confessions of a Hyper Romantic Asexual: 78 Life Lessons to Ace Your Life" and "Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories About Love, Life and Sex."
• Blog: www.asexualized.com
• YouTube: Asexualize My Asexual Life
• Social Media: Facebook (asexualized), Twitter (asexualized), Instagram (asexualized official)

Social Media:

Website: alansimberg.com and lifemasterywithalan.com

Email: alan@alansimberg.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AlanSimberg.LifeMasteryConsultant/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alan-simberg/

Instagram: alansimberg.therapy

Show Notes: Interview with Khara Croswaite Brindle

Introduction

• Guest: Khara Croswaite Brindle
• Licensed Mental Health Therapist in Denver, Colorado
• Roles: Financial Therapist, TEDx Speaker, Burnout Consultant, Author, Professor
• New Book: Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships: Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle

Pathway to Becoming a Mental Health Therapist

• Khara shares her journey
• Personal experiences with therapists and being a confidant for others
• Emphasizes the importance of having someone to bounce ideas off and heal

Personal Experience with Mother-Daughter Relationship

• Teenage years were challenging, bordering on a rupture
• Improved relationship in adulthood
• Insights from personal experience informing her book

Assumptions About Estrangement

• Common misconceptions: impulsive, spiteful, petty
• Painful assumption: therapists encourage estrangement
• Therapists focus on boundaries, trauma, abuse, and neglect
• Importance of bridging gaps and understanding relationships

Teenagers and Parental Boundaries

• Teenagers often influenced more by peers than parents
• Developmental stage of independence and defiance
• Importance of parents meeting their children where they are

Helping Parents with Acting Out Teenagers

• Initial step: Listening to parents and validating their concerns
• Family therapy: Facilitating communication between parents and teenagers
• Recognizing patterns in behavior and underlying causes

The Estrangement Energy Cycle

• Eight stages:

1. Cycle of Abuse
2. Questioning
3. Relationship Rupture
4. Estrangement (Physical and Emotional)
5. Grief and Loss
6. Discovering Sense of Self
7. Deeper Work (Attachment, Parenting, Breaking Generational Trauma)
8. Redefining Self-Worth

Challenges in Mother-Daughter Relationships

• Difficulty for mothers to acknowledge mistakes without feeling like bad parents
• Emotional reactions from mothers can hinder reconciliation
• Importance of acknowledgment, apology, and action from mothers

Individual Healing

• Many women end up doing solo work if reconciliation isn't possible
• Therapy focuses on self-healing and moving forward

Advice from Khara's Book

• Book aimed at adult daughters and their supporters (therapists, mentors, coaches)
• Normalizing experiences and providing relatable stories
• Practical advice and stages of the estrangement cycle

Golden Pearls of Wisdom

• Communication and understanding are key
• Each person's journey is unique, and reconciliation timelines vary
• The importance of neutrality and compassion from loved ones
• Do's and don'ts for supporting someone experiencing estrangement

Conclusion

• Estrangement and healing are complex, requiring time and effort
• Khara emphasizes the need for personal work and mutual action in relationships
• Her book provides a roadmap for understanding and navigating