Domestic violence is a pervasive issue that affects millions of lives worldwide, challenging our perception of what is "normal" in relationships and society. In today's episode, I am joined by Lisa Croke, a remarkable survivor of domestic violence who transformed her harrowing experience into a mission of empowerment and healing. Lisa Croke is a beacon of resilience and transformation, with over 25 years of experience supporting leaders and teams across various sectors. Her personal story of emerging from a 20-plus-year abusive marriage at the age of 42 and rebuilding her life from the ground up is both inspiring and instructive. As we explore Lisa's transition from survivor to life coach, we uncover the pervasive nature of domestic violence, its impact on individuals and society, and the crucial steps toward breaking free from abusive relationships. This conversation challenges our perceptions of "normal" in relationships, highlights the importance of personal growth and community support, and offers valuable insights for those seeking to escape domestic violence and thrive beyond it.

Timestamps

[07:18] About Lisa Croke

[11:09] Disrupting domestic violence

[14:27] Traditional values: How Lisa’s abusive relationship started

[21:58] Seeking counselling to be a better wife

[25:50] Physical, financial, technological, sexual, and psychological abuse

[30:40] How Lisa worked to feel her anger

[33:43] How Lisa got herself out of her abusive marriage

[39:58] Attempts to leave before

[43:26] Things that contributed to successfully leaving the abusive relationship

[51:13] Things that kept Lisa safe are benefiting her in different ways

[54:32] Advice to women in abusive relationships

Notable Quotes

• “One in four women have been impacted by intimate partner abuse.” - Lisa Croke [11:48]
• “Those skills that kept us alive also when reframed can help us thrive and move beyond.” - Lisa Croke [12:13]
• “You are not going to heal if you don’t allow yourself to feel it and to move through it.” - Lisa Croke [31:31]
• “There are women that don’t get to walk away, there are women that die.” - Lisa Croke [52:59]

Resources Mentioned

Book: When The Body Says No by Dr Gabor Mate: https://bookshop.org/a/87658/9780470923351

National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/

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Lisa Croke

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helvickcoaching/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-c-369bb726/

Connect With Me:

Debbie Harrell

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debbie-harrell-coach/

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