Defensiveness is another communication choice that degrades Our connection with our partner.

Defensiveness is refusing responsibility for our actions:

by making

• excuses,
• blaming, or
• denying.

We feel overwhelmed by critical feedback. We go into defence mode.

Rather than hearing the other person’s concern, defensiveness deflects or reverses blame,

This makes it harder to resolve issues.

It is a natural inclination to defend, particularly when we are blind-sided by some heavy, critical feedback.

Take Care.

This episode describes CRITICISM and how it impacts our connection with our partner.

… it frays at our connection with our partner.

Our connection with our partner is one of life’s greatest assets, and so if we do something damaging to this connection, it’s a big problem.

… I am going to discuss positive options for when we feel the need to raise a problem with our partners.

Welcome to MEN SEEKING CALM.

I invite you to Start the Change Journey and to take a walk with me.

We cover anger management, male issues and men’s business.

My name is Greg Martin from www.WalkTheMountain.com

In this episode I explain why Reaction-Mode is for the Lonely.

If we can work on our Reaction-Mode … we can get to Calm, then Happiness is possible and gettable.

These are the take-a-ways:

1 I explained reaction mode and …

2 ... How this is a rapid-chemistry event.

3 Reaction is a millisecond choice, but still a choice.

4 Our capacity for thinking is reduced when we are in reaction mode.

5 Occasional reaction-mode is normal when overwhelming events occur in life.

6 It’s exhausting to be the Guy in habitual reaction mode.

7 Reaction-Mode damages relationships.

8 In Reaction-Mode you lose control of the destination, you lose control where you will end up after the interaction

9 People move away from you when you are in Reaction-Mode ... that’s why Reaction-Mode guys end up lonely

10 Responding is the opposite to Reaction. Buy yourself time to think, time to consider your best safest choice moving forward. You will protect your precious connections with people around you.