I have not not published an episode on either of my podcast for 6 months, missing May through October of 2022. 

What happened during that time period?  

YIKES.  I am still not completely sure (the results of a brain MRI will be coming within the next day or two as I write this), but the entire experience was…ineffable.

Ineffable means, “there are no words to describe”.  I can put some color around the edges, like
-graduating our youngest child

-moving to a Caribbean island (and moving 4 times in 3 months in an effort to dodge mold), 

-remediating a condo (that we bought along with toxic mold), 

-starting a new business, and finally… a mental and physical breakdown?  

It doesn’t stop there, because there are another 5-8 moves, depending on how you define “move”, since I started living out of my car.  Yes, I returned to the states and sold our family home, disrupting our family, and hoped to restart

On today’s solo cast, I talk about my near-death experience and how I’ve come to terms with the idea that you CANNOT make everything fun! However, you can learn from your mistakes and failures. 

Did you learn to walk in a day?  No! Did you fall on your face many times?  Yes!  Did your family yell at you when you fell down, telling you that you suck?  No!  So don’t tell yourself that you suck when you fall down, fail, or mess up in life.  Pick yourself back up again, dust yourself off, and ask yourself, “What did I learn from that failure!?”. Then proceed to your next attempt at learning how to walk or whatever else you are attempting to do in your life.

I share with you six (serious) fun nuggets that will hopefully help you feel better when you feel alone. 

#1: Making everything fun is really f*&%ing card.  However, I still believe that fun is the fuel that can get us through the difficult times.  I am watching funny movies (a la Norman Cousins) and doing what I can to heal from my trespasses.  “As we forgive those, who trespass against us”.

#2: Use GIST to help you get out of the really difficult parts of life. Specifically Gratitude, Intention, Surrender, and Trust. Credit to Harry Massey, CEO of NES/Energy 4 Life. 

#3: Know your allergens and how they interact with antibodies. The antigen is the attacking substance; antibodies are what our bodies create to attack that antigen.  

This interview with Dr. Martinez is also very helpful background on the immune system. Thank you Dr. Mario! 

#4: Hurt people hurt other people.

How can you soothe yourself so that you can treat others better?

#5: Don’t “should” all over yourself. Please.

#6: Simplify your life. I love the work of my dear friend Laura Carlin and Allison Forbes.  Please check out their work at Inspired Everyday Living.

I loved this interview with my dear friend and mentor Teresa de Grosbois.

Teresa heads the international  Evolutionary Business Council, a membership-based organization that empowers changemakers to create profitable, impactful businesses that have a lasting and transformational impact on the individuals that they serve. 

We talk about the Evolutionary Business Council, or EBC in detail. We explore elements of her bestselling book, Mass Influence - the Habits of the Highly Influential. Teresa graciously offers every listener a free digital copy of the book along with a fun 30-day challenge that will help you in growing your influence.   

The EBC has some upcoming calls for interested members, so if you feel called to learn more, please reach out to me on my contact page at MakeEverythingFun so that I can tell you more.

We uncover a dozen fun nuggets along the way, so don’t miss out on this fun and fantastic interview:

#1: Limiting beliefs develop at a very young age.
What limiting beliefs might you have developed?

#2: Limiting beliefs do not need to be viewed as only negative. We can use them to motivate ourselves to do great things in life.

#3: Influence is a game, and it is important to play by the rules.

#4: Authenticity is not necessarily the same thing as honesty.

#5: Insight alone won't get you there. You need to take action.

#6: Request action from others when appropriate.

#7: Play is the path to transformation.

#8:  The EBC  is organized around the principle of the Tipping Point with the goal of getting our world to be conscious and sustainable.

#9: The EBC is organized around the 3 pillars of influence, profit, and impact.

#10: Consciousness is about challenging your limiting beliefs and thought patterns. 

#11:  Money is energy.

#10:  You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with.

More about Teresa 

Teresa is the #1 international bestselling author of “Mass Influence - the habits of the highly influential”, which has been on the bestseller lists in 7 countries over the past 4 years. A 4X international bestselling author, Teresa teaches marketing courses around the globe to business leaders and entrepreneurs on how to create massively successful word of mouth campaigns. Teresa heads the international  Evolutionary Business Council, membership-based organization which empowers change-makers create profitable, impactful businesses that have a lasting and transformational impact on the individuals that they serve. 

What’s fun for Teresa?

Building relationships with & gaining endorsements from influential people.

Links

www.MassInfluenceTheBook.com

https://ebcouncil.com/enrolment/join-us-live/

Her profitable hobby:  Conscious Crypto Traders on YouTube.

Enjoy the fun nuggets:

#1: The brain develops in stages, starting with Delta waves (ages -2) and moving to Theta waves (ages 2-6). Healing occurs optimally in Delta and Theta brain states.

Learn more about healing your mind/body system in this previous episode with Dr. Mario Martinez: https://makeeverythingfun.com/podcast/e062-dr-mario-martinez/

#2: Feelings are meant to be felt.
Hear Dr. Jane describe her Feelings Model in the interview: repress (stuck), feel (process), or feed (spiral).

Can you process feelings as quickly as 90 seconds? We explored this idea earlier in this episode with Dr. Chloe Carmichael. https://makeeverythingfun.com/podcast/e084-chloe-carmichael/

#3: Change your language to change how you feel about everyday tasks.

#4: Create new habitual thinking to overcome the Velcro and Telfon tendencies in your brain.

#5: Be curious.

#6: Breathe like a baby.#7: Learn how to prioritize the “big rocks” over sand and water.

#8: Listen to the wisdom from the body (not the brain). 80% of the information exchange between the brain and body flows UP from the body to the brain.

#9: Allow flow with breath, movement, and dance.  Lack of health/life comes from constriction.

#10: Trust your body to assist you with intuitive decision-making.

Listen for Dr. Jane’s method of asking for the outcome aligned with the highest good and feeling into the direction/movement of her body.

More bout Dr. Jane

Dr. Jane Tornatore has dedicated her career to helping people be kinder to themselves. Her style incorporates compassion, curiosity, deep listening, and heartfelt optimism, along with powerful shots of playfulness. She draws from her extensive professional training and wide-ranging life experiences to help people release old patterns and unnecessary stress. A therapist, coach, author, and speaker based in Seattle, audiences rave about her engaging workshops on perfectionism, self-compassion, brain hacks for changing our thinking, and reducing stress. Dr. Tornatore received a Master’s degree at the University of Illinois and a Ph.D. at the University of Minnesota.   She has authored over 20 articles and published a book—Everything is Perfect, Just Not ME! A Roadmap for Self-Acceptance. 

What’s fun for Dr. Jane

Having my body in the ocean, lake, or stream!

Links

Link to Intuitive Decision Making Method: https://everydaylove.simplero.com/bodytestmethod

Website: https://www.everydaylove.me

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janetornatore/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/everydaylove

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjanetornatore/

Link to book on Amazon:  https://smile.amazon.com/Everything-PERFECT-Just-not-Self-Acceptance/dp/1798229331/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2FSQ174BI4KTY&keywords=everything+is+perfect+just+not+me&qid=1638469675&sprefix=everything+is+perfect+%2Caps%2C225&sr=8-1