Episode Summary:
Welcome to Reclaim Your Pleasure with your host, Krystal, a recovering people-pleaser turned boundaries coach! In today’s episode, we’re unpacking a sneaky truth: people-pleasing feels good because it comes with hidden perks. But those perks? They’re not sustainable, and they’re holding us back from living authentically. Join Krystal as she explores why we cling to people-pleasing, what it’s really costing us, and how to start letting it go without losing ourselves (or our relationships) in the process.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The surprising perks of people-pleasing (and why we get hooked on them).
• How people-pleasing helped us survive childhood but now sabotages our adult lives.
• The psychological concept of “secondary benefits” and how it keeps us stuck.
• Three actionable steps to ease out of people-pleasing and embrace authentic living.
• Why being called a “bitch” might just be a compliment in disguise.

Actionable Takeaways:

1. Get comfortable with discomfort: Start small by saying “no” to low-stakes requests.
2. Reframe boundaries: Think of them as fences that protect your energy, not walls to shut people out.
3. Release the need for universal approval: You can’t make everyone happy, and that’s okay.

Mentioned in this Episode:

• The concept of maladaptive childhood survival tactics (inspired by Terry Real).
• Krystal’s favorite mantra: “Their opinion does not define your worth.”
• The power of embracing “Bad Bitch Energy” to set clear, respectful boundaries.

Let’s Connect:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/completecoachingwithkrystal/
• Website: krystalcentinello.com

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