Meet Taylor Damiani:

"Hi, I’m Taylor. I’m a Psychologist and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach, but honestly, I’m just someone who knows how messy and complicated healing from a dysfunctional family can be. Growing up with anarcis sistic parent (and all the dynamics that come with that), I get how hard it is to untangle yourself from years of self-doubt and expectations and figure out who you really are. It’s taken me a long time to start reconnecting with my true self (and honestly, it’s still a work in progress). Now, I help others who’ve grown up with narcissistic parents find their way back to themselves through my group program, Reclaim You: Healing as Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents."

Find Taylor At:

website: www.reclaimyougroup.com

social: https://www.instagram.com/taylordamiani

Taylor & Renee Chat About:

Personal Journeys and Healing Work

Taylor and Renee discussed their personal journeys and how they connected through social media. Renee expressed her appreciation for Taylor's work and mentioned an upcoming summit focused on cycle breaking. Taylor shared her own healing journey, which began in 2015 when she discovered Dani Morgan's website. She then pursued a graduate degree and eventually started her own healing work, with Renee being one of the first speakers at her first summit.

Taylor's Summit on Healing and Cycle Breaking

Taylor discussed her passion for organizing summits, particularly those focused on healing from narcissistic abuse and cycle breaking. The upcoming summit will explore themes of reconnecting with one's inner self, redefining identity, and becoming a cycle breaker. Taylor emphasized the importance of self-reparenting and becoming the person one needed.

Themes Discussed:

1. Transitioning From Dependency to Self-Sufficiency
2. Inner Peace and Healing Journey
3. Cycle Breakers Healing and Self-Discovery
4. Exploring Invisible Experiences and Trauma
5. Summit Details and Registration

The upcoming summit, which will take place from December 9th to 12th - will consist of four days of presentations, with the last day being an interactive day of discussions and workshops. Each presentation will be available for 24 hours, and attendees can purchase an all-access pass for lifetime access. There will also be live speaker panels and peer panels where attendees can share their stories.

Renee's presentation for the Summit is on the topic of Resistance & Rejection. Renee wiill offer a follow-up Q&A session for those who purchase the all-access pass.

Register for Cycle Breaker Summit using Renee's Affiliate Link: ⁠https://resetwithrenee.krtra.com/t/IJuO2SNUZEYf⁠

I’m moving through a new phase of recovery & want to share it with you in real time.

This is different for me. I historically wait until I’m “on the other side” of it for neutrality, clarity, & solutions.

I do believe there is value in sharing “what’s real” in real-time. For me, there is freedom in honoring my truth. For others, my hope is that my story continues to serve those who are still searching for their truth. I hope too that in sharing I might help you put your puzzle pieces together too.

My puzzle pieces to date have been understanding Narcissistic abuse & CPTSD recovery.

I’ve made a lot of progress in many ways but there have been many challenges. Adequate support, enough safety, & the environment do matter on a recovery journey.

Listen to learn how I entered the #hsp to #autism pipeline:

Do get assessed or self identify?

What the process was like

Relief & grief as a late diagnosed GenX female

An umbrella of characteristics, gifts, & challenges

Masking & autistic burnout

Lack of neuro affirming providers & why

Co-occurrence with trauma

"Canary in the Coal Mine"

Overdue Reset

Calling in neuro inclusivity & neuro affirming advocacy, support, & resources vs stigma

Learn why Renee believes CPTSD is more common than not!

Lineage/Ancestral Burdens:

1. Inheritances of hurt

2. Frequencies of fear

3. Shadowy survival strategies

Wounding in Your Lifetime:

1. Developmental Trauma (see ACES)

2. Relational betrayals

3. Secondary Traumas

4. The "Collective"

Identify common characteristics of CPTSD survivors.

See Blog: https://resetwithrenee.com/complex-ptsd-cptsd-traits/

How to move forward:

1. Clear out trauma energy to

2. Leave a LEGACY of restoration to wholeness

3. Create a Ripple Effect

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

1. Prepare Enrich Couples Assessment: https://www.prepare-enrich.com/couples/why-prepare-enrich/

--Preparation, Enrichment, Restoration

--Assess strengths & growth areas with guided support

2. HEAL CLASS (Heal Emotions And Relationship Troubles) by Renee Fleming. Contact for more details.

3. Book - Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues by Don Carter, MSW, LCSW

4. Work of John Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/

5. Dr. Mark Hyman Meme IG: “The majority of arguments between couples are around 3 main areas – control & power, care & closeness, and respect & recognition.”

SHOW NOTES:

• Personal & Relational Change is driven by growth/safety or pain/crisis.
• Underneath most pain is a message/belief/question/fear about “am I loved” and/or “am I enough”?
• Needs, Wounds, Dreams (for Self, Relationship), & Fears can drive healthy vulnerability/connection or conflict/power struggles.

NEEDS:

A. Survival Needs = Basic Needs: food shelter, clothing, medical attention, safety & protection. If a child doesn’t feel safe, then they cannot relax & play; disrupts developmental growth. Protective mechanisms will develop for survival & will become an added burden later in life.

B. Emotional Dependency Needs = Basic & Primary Needs for Love & Esteem = Time, Attention, Affection, & Direction.

WOUNDS from “The Past”: When NEEDS aren’t met and/or something happens or doesn’t happen that should in the absence of support. These wounds HURT & adaptive (defensive, protective, proactive/extreme/reactive) strategies are then developed & repeated.

Common Emotional Injuries/Wounds: being controlled, excluded, abandoned, humiliated, neglected, abused, betrayed, rejected, ignored, & disrespected.

Suggested Partner Conversation: It might be helpful to discuss with your partner, how your families of origin handled or reacted to each of the main ”primary” emotions: mad, sad, scared, & glad. In other words, what was accepted/encouraged & what was avoided/minimized/shamed?

Self-Check: Assess what is overdeveloped, underdeveloped, or appropriately skillful….?

#howtohuman #copingversushealing #whathumansdo #gottman #HEART #wholehearted #cptsdrecovery #innerchild #reparenting #emotionalintelligence #relationshiptips #resetwithrenee #relationshipcoach #naturalstatetherapist #showmestatetherapist #connectinside #ifstherapy #narm #IT

This episode is an endcap to a series on having & healing the Father Wound.

To understand what a father wound is see: https://resetwithrenee.com/understanding-and-healing-the-father-wound/.

In this episode, I follow the 3 part blog on my website to share with you my story & journey as it relates to healing my own father wound.

Our story may be similar or different, but if you have a father wound or experienced something similar, may you find comfort that you are not alone.

It is hard work to be the cycle breaker of generational trauma. It requires a multidimensional approach beyond "talk therapy".

Wholeness, peace, harmony, abundance, is medicine for the heart & soul of someone who knows fear, lack, scarcity, & conflict.

If you think we may a good fit to work together I invite you to reach out for your own RESET.

IFS parts work + an understanding of the 4 Fs of the nervous system (Polyvagal Theory):

• Fight
• Flight
• Freeze
• Fawn

as these responses drive protective parts.

Accessing I AM is essential for growth, healing, & recovery.

Bringing help to I HURT parts is key for the whole system.

Learning how to HOLD THE HURT is often hard without a process, practice, & support.

See IG/FB for May 2024 posts on this topic for more information. Drop your questions for me to reply to in future episodes!

Join a healing circle Wednesday May 8th 10 AM CST via Zoom to receive facilitation to connect to the Great Mother; a frequency that can tend to the Mother Wound many of us carry.

Creating generational health means breaking the cycle of disempowerment that is passed from each generation until a cycle breaker does the deep & often challenging & unrecognized work of healing their hurt as well as showing up for the hurt of their family.

Attend the event, purchase the recording, or listen to learn more about how to disrupt disempowering energy & activate personal power.

Two General Types Of Journaling

Processing - when activated, triggered, overwhelmed, flooded with thoughts or emotions it can help to “write it out”.

Wisdom Keeping – capture & record your truth, your “knowing”, & the downloads you receive when you reflect & contemplate. Regularly review for reflection & to remember until it is complete & you have room for new wisdom to come through.

Questions to Explore for a Regular Practice of “Checking In” Inside

1. Where am I holding fear? What is fear trying to tell me? Fear & shame are often carried consciously or unconsciously. Purifying that is helpful.

2. What do I know? What is the truth for me?

3. How’s my heart? How’s the space around my heart? Am I connected to my heart? What is blocking my heart?

Parts Check In for Processing

1. Wounded Younger Part “I HURT”

2. Protective Parts of “I MUST, I CAN’T, I WON’T, I WILL DESTROY”

3. Self-Energy of “I AM”

As you “Process Journal” you may notice wisdom, knowing, or solutions arising. This may be gold for your Wisdom Keeping Journal.