In this eye-opening episode, Sam and Gen uncover the truth about their rushed marriage: they both acted on assumptions about what the other wanted.

With guest host & psychotherapist Alanna's support, they delve into the overlooked red flags and communication breakdowns that occurred during Year 1 of their marriage, as well as the impact of their assumptions. Samuel also shares what he believes to be the crowning achievement of their time a married couple.

As they navigate this challenging conversation, they end up rediscovering some of the love and admiration that brought them together in the first place.

Key Points:

• Rushed into Marriage: Both Sam and Gen acknowledge that they rushed into their marriage, driven by a desire to move quickly and a competitive spirit.
• Ignored Red Flags: They discuss how they overlooked red flags in their relationship, such as their differing communication styles and unresolved personal issues.
• Communication Breakdown: They delve into specific instances of poor communication, including Sam's tendency to escalate arguments and Gen's habit of withdrawing.
• Personal Growth: Both individuals reflect on their personal growth and the lessons they've learned from their marriage.
• Future Hopes: They discuss their hopes for the future, including building a stronger foundation for future relationships and using their experiences to help others.

Timestamps:

0:00 - 10:00: Introduction and discussion of rushing into marriage.

10:00 - 20:00: Deep dive into communication breakdowns and unresolved issues.

20:00 - 30:00: Reflection on personal growth and lessons learned.

30:00 - 33:38: Future hopes and concluding thoughts.

In this episode, Sam, Gen, and special guest Alanna delve into the origins of Sam and Gen's relationship. They discuss how they met, their first impressions, and early dates, including amusing misunderstandings and Genevieve's initial attempts to be Samuel's wingwoman.

The episode highlights their complementary personalities and shared values, while also shedding light on the challenges they faced when introducing each other to their families and friends. Listeners are invited to enjoy the heartfelt and humorous recounting of their love story's beginnings.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement

00:35 How Sam and Gen Met

02:02 First Impressions

04:24 The First Date

05:30 Developing Feelings

12:01 Friends and Family Reactions

16:59 Red Flags 🚩

In the second of two episodes filmed in front of a live audience, Sam and Gen tackle complex questions from audience members around what they would have done differently if they had a time machine, the difficulties in seeking honest feedback during early marital struggles, cultural differences in divorce rates, and the impact of expectations on relationships. This conversation also explores the benefits of working together post-divorce, and why they decided to combine forces.

00:00 Honest Feedback in About Friends' Relationships

04:23 Cultural Perspectives on Divorce - Do They Do It Better in Sri Lanka?

10:14 Advice to Our Younger Selves

19:39 Why Do Something Like This, Together

23:44 Final Thoughts, Gratitude, And How You Can Help