In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the challenges and opportunities of rebuilding your identity after 50, especially following the end of a long-term relationship. Drawing from their personal experiences and public examples, they discuss the loss of roles, community, and routine, and share practical advice for rediscovering passions, expanding social circles, and embracing new experiences. The hosts emphasize the importance of self-healing, enjoying your own company, and giving yourself permission to grow, encouraging listeners to reclaim their sense of self and create a fulfilling new chapter.

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Welcome and Podcast Introduction (00:00:01): The Hosts introduce themselves and the podcast and express gratitude for listener support.

Caribbean Vacation & Zodiac Signs (00:01:16) Lighthearted discussion about Tony’s Caribbean background, Aruba vacation, and their zodiac signs.

Episode Topic Introduction: Rebuilding Identity After 50 (00:03:33) Introduction of the episode’s main theme: rediscovering identity after a long-term relationship ends.

Personal Stories of Identity Loss (00:04:18) Dr. Lisa shares her experience of losing and redefining identity after a 25-year marriage.

Celebrity Example: Princess Tatiana of Greece (00:06:03) Discussion of Princess Tatiana’s public journey of rediscovering herself after divorce.

The Identity Shift: What We Lose (00:07:41) Exploring the loss of role, purpose, community, and routine after a relationship ends.

Rediscovering Joy: Peeling Back the Layers (00:13:54) Inspired by Princess Tatiana, the hosts discuss revisiting past joys and activities to rediscover identity.

Giving Yourself Permission to Try New Things (00:16:05) Encouragement to explore new interests and give oneself grace during the process of self-discovery.

Waiting to Exhale Moments: New Experiences (00:17:25) Hosts share their own “waiting to exhale” moments, including traveling to Colombia and Jamaica.

Maintaining Identity in Relationships (00:21:12) Advice on not losing oneself in relationships and the importance of personal growth while partnered.

Expanding Social Circles (00:24:23) The value of building new friendships and communities to support a new identity.

Signs of Readiness for New Relationships (00:26:50) Specific signs you’re ready for a new relationship, including self-enjoyment, new hobbies, and emotional processing.

Recap and Encouragement (00:32:47) Summary of key points: rebuilding identity is foundational, and listeners are encouraged to share their journeys.

In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," hosts Dr. Lisa and Tony explore emotional healing and self-discovery after divorce. They discuss recognizing emotional baggage, breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, and the importance of forgiveness—both of others and oneself. Through personal stories and practical advice, they highlight the value of self-awareness, open communication, and patience in building new, healthier relationships. The episode encourages listeners to embrace second chances in love by doing the inner work needed to move forward and create meaningful connections in midlife.

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Welcome and Introduction (00:00:01) Hosts introduce themselves, the podcast, and the episode’s focus on emotional baggage after divorce.

Personal Stories: Dating After Divorce (00:02:13) Lisa and Tony share personal experiences about feeling ready to date but still carrying emotional baggage.

Recognizing Unhealed Wounds (00:04:00) Discussion of signs and patterns indicating unresolved emotional issues before dating.

Warning Signs of Unhealed Wounds (00:05:18) Red flags like oversharing, emotional walls, and anxiety over communication are explored.

Relationship Patterns and Self-Discovery (00:09:04) Exploring repeated relationship patterns and the importance of self-reflection.

The Hardest Part: Forgiveness (00:13:18) Forgiveness, especially self-forgiveness, is discussed as a crucial and challenging part of healing.

Growth After Heartbreak (00:16:14) Hosts share personal growth and positive changes resulting from past relationship pain.

Rediscovering Yourself After Divorce (00:18:22) Importance of rebuilding identity and self outside of a past relationship.

Healing as a Journey (00:19:55) Emphasis on healing as an ongoing journey, not a destination, and advice for listeners.

Magical Moment: Baggage Check in Action (00:22:10) Tony shares a pivotal story about overcoming old patterns and making a new connection with Lisa.

Listener Engagement and Community (00:26:24) Invitation for listeners to share their stories and join the podcast community.

Outro and Next Episode Teaser (00:27:04) Closing remarks and preview of the next episode on rebuilding identity.

In the first episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony share their personal journeys of finding love after divorce in midlife. They discuss the challenges, fears, and emotional hurdles of dating again, emphasizing the importance of healing, self-discovery, and realistic expectations. Through candid conversation and their own love story, they offer hope and encouragement to listeners navigating similar paths, highlighting that it’s never too late to open your heart and say yes to new possibilities. The episode sets the stage for future discussions on relationships, growth, and second chances.

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Welcome and Podcast Introduction (00:00:01) Dr. Lisa and Tony introduce themselves and the "Saying Yes Again" podcast, sharing its focus on love and second chances.

Why Start the Podcast? (00:00:49) They discuss their motivation for starting the podcast and the curiosity about their midlife love story.

Dating After Divorce: Initial Challenges (00:01:26) The hosts talk about questions they receive and the awkwardness of dating again in their 50s.

Choosing to Remain Single After Midlife Divorce (00:05:07) Statistics and reasons why many over 50 choose to stay single after divorce.

Why People Stay Single: Fear and Comfort (00:06:24) Exploring reasons people avoid dating again, including fear and being set in their ways.

Complexity and Negativity of Modern Dating (00:09:34) Challenges of the current dating scene, especially in cities like Atlanta.

Fear of Heartbreak and Rejection (00:10:08) Both men and women fear being hurt again, which can prevent them from dating.

Uncertainty and Trust Issues in Dating (00:11:14) Uncertainty about the future and who people really are after starting to date.

Personal Backstories: Life Before Meeting (00:11:56) Dr. Lisa and Tony share their backgrounds, careers, and initial fears about dating again.

When They Knew It Was Serious (00:22:24) They share the moment they realized they wanted to be exclusive and committed.

Healing Before Dating Again (00:25:23) Importance of healing after divorce before entering a new relationship.

Flirting and Keeping the Relationship Fresh (00:28:15) Advice on flirting, keeping things exciting, and the importance of listening.

Magical Moments: Best Date and Lessons Learned (00:29:45) They share a memorable date and the lesson that women can take the lead in dating.

Closing and Next Episode Preview (00:32:53) Wrap-up, preview of the next episode on "baggage check," and encouragement to join the community.

You thought the chapter had closed. But life—and love—had other plans.

Welcome to Saying Yes Again, the podcast for anyone who’s been through heartbreak, divorce, or loss and is brave enough to believe in love one more time.

Hosted by Dr. Lisa and Tony Goudy, this show shares their own story of finding love again in midlife, after divorce and doubt. Through candid conversations and honest reflections, they explore the journey of healing, rediscovery, and learning to open your heart to new possibilities.

Whether you're just starting to heal, wondering if love is still possible, or already living your second love story, Saying Yes Again is your companion for inspiration, laughter, and hope.

Because the next "yes" could be the one that changes everything.