In today’s episode of the Christian Coaching School Podcast, Dr. Leelo Bush talks about self-love and unconditional love and why both are essential to you and your coaching practice.

[01:50] Coaching with self-love

[05:48] Unconditional love and self-love

[10:55] Distortions about love

[16:02] How do we love ourselves?

[21:29] 20 Days to Self-Love Coaching Questions

Choosing Unconditional Love

You might find that some people are harder to love than others. But God has commanded us to “love your neighbor as yourself”. To practice unconditional love, we must first begin with our thoughts. The way we think affects our feelings. Be intentional with your thoughts as described in this episode and love will always be readily available to you.

How to Cultivate Self-Love

As children, some of us may have developed distorted ideas about love because of our personal experiences. It’s important to keep in mind that other people or external situations don’t define you. Instead, remember that you are a beloved child of God. We have value not because of our good works, but because we have been saved by His grace.

Self-love is not just an optional feeling, rather it’s an obligation to take care of ourselves. Our body is the temple of God, so we must care for our health in all aspects. We must also learn to let go of unnecessary guilt and shame. These can be barriers to self-love. God has already forgiven our sins, so we must do the same. Always strive to cultivate healthy self-love, without letting it turn into boastfulness or entitlement.

The 20 Days to Self-Love Coaching Questions List

(answer 1 each day within your journaling and review past question answers)

1. What are some positive ways that I have changed over the last three years?
2. What are self-care activities that bring me feelings of joy and calm?"
3. What is something I need to get rid of?
4. What current habits are destructive to my feelings of self-love?
5. What is something I love about my body that is not related to looks?
6. What am I proud of myself for?
7. What makes me unique?
8. What's an action I can take right now that my future self will thank me for?
9. What do I need to start saying yes to?
10. My best personality trait is...?
11. What three achievements am I most proud of?
12. What are three lessons I have learned from experience?
13. When did I last step outside my comfort zone? What happened?
14. How would those who love me describe me?
15. What bold step would I take if I knew that I couldn't fail?
16. What is a sacred time in my life when I won't allow interruptions?
17. What does my ideal day look like?
18. What are three things I want in my life that don't depend on anyone but me to happen?
19. What can I do today to share joy with someone else?
20. In what ways do I feel different now, from when I started this exercise?

Resource Links

Join the Courageous Christian Coaching Tribe:  pccca.org/tribe

Free Christian Coaching Masterclass:  pccca.org/getcertified

Get Dr. Bush’s book:

Comprehensive Christian Coach Handbook: www.amazon.com/Comprehensive-Christian-Coach-Handbook-Second/dp/0692853634

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