Finding a friend with benefits can be hard at any age. But today’s guest, Cynthia, faced the daunting task of finding a sexual partner at the age of 78 and following the loss of her husband. She knew that she wanted a friend with benefits, and she even had her eye on someone specific. But the ultimate hurdle? Asking him.

In this fascinating and refreshingly open conversation we discuss:

1. What it looks like to be sexually active in your later years of life

2. The stigma of being a senior citizen who craves casual sex.

3. The nuances of sex with aging bodies

4. Maintaining relationships with your “couple friends” after the loss of your long-term partner

5. How to continue experiencing sexual satisfaction in your 70’s and beyond. Show Notes:

Show notes:

Guest Introduction:

• [00:01:28] Michelle introduces Cynthia, a 78-year-old widow, as the guest for this episode.
• Cynthia shares her journey of grieving the loss of her husband and the subsequent feelings of loneliness and desire for companionship.

Exploring Desire and Loneliness:

• [00:02:26] Cynthia discusses her newfound desires for companionship and sexual connection after her husband's passing.
• She reflects on the emotional and physical changes she experienced and how they led her to consider exploring a friends with benefits relationship.

Challenges and Fears:

• [00:03:39] Cynthia opens up about her fears surrounding trust, communication, and the societal expectations associated with relationships and aging.
• Michelle and Cynthia discuss the complexities of initiating conversations about sexual desires and boundaries with potential partners.

Navigating Boundaries and Expectations:

• [00:06:00] The conversation delves into the importance of setting boundaries, maintaining autonomy, and challenging societal norms in relationships.
• Cynthia shares her concerns about potential changes in dynamics and expectations if her relationship with her friend were to become sexual.

Exploring Options and Self-Reflection:

• [00:08:51] Michelle offers insights into alternative ways of meeting potential partners, such as matchmaking services and shared activities.
• Cynthia reflects on the conversation and expresses gratitude for the insights.

Conclusion:

• [00:10:21] Michelle thanks Cynthia for sharing her story and insights with listeners.
• She encourages listeners to reach out with their own stories and experiences related to desire, intimacy, and sexual exploration after loss.

Closing Credits:

• [00:11:39] Michelle provides information on how listeners can connect with the podcast, access online learning modules, and stay updated on future episodes.
• Acknowledgment of the production team Katie and Kattie from Vocal Fry Studios