Many sex tips focus on either specific techniques or exploring kinks to improve your sex life, but that’s not what really matters. Studies have shown eight specific elements of great sex: presence, connection, intimacy, communication, authenticity, bliss, exploration, and vulnerability. This is empowering because it means literally everyone has the ability to be a great lover; it just takes time, energy, and attention.

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00:02:20 Identify Your Communication Style

00:04:20 The Passive Communicator

00:07:57 The Aggressive Communicator

00:11:15 The Passive-Aggressive Communicator

00:19:19 The Assertive Communicator

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• The best mindset to adopt in order to become a better communicator is the one that will best allow you to connect, meet your needs, solve problems, and express yourself.

• Begin by asking yourself what your default communication style is: aggressive, passive-aggressive, or manipulative. None of these styles actually achieves the ultimate goal of communication, however.

• The way you communicate is a choice. Assertive communication is the ability to express needs, wants, thoughts, and feelings directly without disrespecting or controlling others. Mature conversationalists are self-controlled, balanced, relaxed, open, and respectful.

• Communicating well is simple and easy, but we need to remove the formidable psychological barriers that stand in the way. With awareness, we can remove them and improve our communication skills.

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00:01:53 Dr. David Rock created the SCARF model

00:05:34 Assertive Communication

00:09:17 What Makes Assertive Communicators Different

00:10:45 Ten Essential Assertive Communication Habits

00:22:06 Bonus: The Broken Record Technique

00:23:47 Give and Take: The Art of Feedback

00:27:02 The Situation-Behavior-Impact (SBI) model

00:30:50 The Best Way to Receive Feedback

• Regulate your own emotions by being aware of the underlying needs they express: status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness.

• Be assertive and communicate your needs, limits, and perspective with clarity and kindness. Be clear, calm, firm, open, in control, and respectful. Decide on the type of assertion that best fits your needs: basic, empathic, consequence, discrepancy, or negative feelings assertion.

• When it comes to giving or receiving feedback, remember that it is about behaviors and actions and not about people. Be kind, but also don’t take things too personally.

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How To Say No: Stand Your Ground, Assert Yourself, and Make Yourself Be Seen (Without Guilt or Awkwardness) (Be Confident and Fearless Book 7)

By: Patrick King

00:02:05 Why Saying No is So Essential

00:10:26 Why We Struggle to Say No

00:20:53 The Psychological Root of Never Saying No: Codependency

00:36:51 Getting Rid of Counter-Mindsets

00:44:54 Change Strategies for Counter-Mindsets

00:46:19 Rewriting the Script that Saying No Makes You a Bad Person

00:55:31 Rewriting the Script that Saying No Means You Don’t Care

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Finally get what you deserve and stop “letting it slide” - without guilt, fear, or awkward tension.Saying no - just thinking about it sounds awkward, right? But that’s the barrier between you living your own life, and living for others. Get what you want, starting immediately.Stop sacrificing your own needs. Quit the agreeableness and accommodation habit.How to Say No examines the psychology of those unable to stand up for themselves. It’s not as simple as wanting to avoid awkwardness, and it’s not about the correct sequence of words. You’l dive deep and learn about your beliefs that are holding you back, as well as how to conquer them in short time.Saying no is the most liberating thing you can do for yourself, and this book tells you how to get there from inside to out.Swift tactics to gain respect, set boundaries, and ask for what you really want.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.How to decisively say NO and stop being taken advantage of.•The counter mindsets you must change, and the mindsets you must replace them with•A multitude of categories for how to asset yourself•The easiest and least tense ways to simply say NO•An examination of your beliefs surrounding acceptance, love, and self-worth•Boundaries and how to ruthlessly enforce themStop putting others first and start treating yourself better.Who are you living your life for? Do you feel like you are exhausted by the time you can finally pay attention to your own needs?Do you finally wish that you could free yourself from self-imposed burdens and put yourself first? Learning how to say no and assert yourself is the most amazing tool that no one ever taught us. Start changing your life today.

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00:03:25 Why Stories Matter

00:05:23 Four Elements of a Good Story

00:09:28 Be Natural ... But Have a Plan

00:17:16 USING WITTY BANTER IN BUILDING RAPPORT

00:22:35 Technique 2: Use the Element of Surprise

00:24:03 Technique 3: Sarcasm

00:26:25 Technique 4: Being Self-Referential

00:28:15 Banter Warnings

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• Though the real foundations of a good conversation are humility, curiosity, and open-mindedness, it’s still worth learning how to tell engaging and entertaining stories. Storytelling is human, and anyone can be a good storyteller. But a story’s value is in how it’s perceived by the audience.

• The best stories have an attention-grabbing hook; they’re short, precise, and have a relevant emotional core. In conversation, a story is meant to create connection and rapport, not showcase you as interesting. Prepare somewhat by building a story “library” beforehand, then use natural transition phrases such as “You know, that reminds me of . . .”to introduce the story. Remember that telling a story is still a kind of conversation.

• Witty banter is playful, clever, amusing conversation that speeds up rapport and builds closeness very rapidly. Anyone can learn to banter as long as they follow the rules: start small and build, banter WITH someone, not AT them, and a little goes a long way.

• Self-deprecating or self-referential humor helps you drop your ego and shows strength and maturity, putting people at ease. Be brief and very obviously exaggerate something you’re actually comfortable with. Be unexpected and use the element of surprise to grab attention and create spark and spontaneity. Flaunt conversational norms with playful sarcasm. The focus is always on building rapport, not on entertaining or impressing people.

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Take Rapid Action: Get Productive, Motivated, & Energized; Stop Overthinking & Procrastinating By Patrick King

00:04:28 Follow the Ostrich’s Lead

00:09:41 The Premortem Analysis

00:15:56 The Don’t-Do List

00:31:04 Err on the Side of Action

00:32:19 Get a Little Uncomfortable

00:39:04 Tiny Steps

00:45:25 The 40-70 Rule

00:50:14 Beat Indecision

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Practical, psychological methods to turn your thoughts into reality, instead of endless avoidance and laziness.

Transform from struggling with getting off your butt, to a machine of productivity and self-discipline. Create an action bias in your life -- starting now.

How to break inertia, overthinking, paralysis, sloth, and insecurity.

Take Rapid Action deconstructs the psychology of laziness and why tomorrow always sounds like a better idea. This book is many things at once: a shot of motivation, a spark of fire, an understanding of your brain, and a list of techniques to get into motion. This is one of the most valuable skills you’ll ever gain, because only action matters in life, not good intentions.

Gain the ability to get things done and hit your goals, no matter the circumstances.

Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.

Stop saying “I’ll do it later/tomorrow…” and overhaul your mindset for productivity and efficiency.

•The Premortem Analysis and the Ostrich Theory -- how they can quiet your overthinking.•How comfortable inaction is sabotaging you.•Actionable and applicable rules to get started before you feel 100% ready.

How to create motion and take the first step from complete stillness.

•How to defeat procrastination by “bundling.”•Strategically plan your days to prevent laziness and distraction.•What you think is action, but is actually a waste of time

Become a machine of proactive energy and activity.

Action and results are the only things that matter in the world. Not your planning, intentions, or nice thoughts. This book puts action at the forefront of your brain and makes it nearly impossible to stay still. That’s precisely what will get you ahead in life. Taking that first step is always hard, but it doesn’t have to be.

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This is the sixth book in the “Clear Thinking and Fast Action” series as listed below:1. The Science of Getting Started: How to Beat Procrastination, Summon Productivity, and Stop Self-Sabotage2. The Art of Clear Thinking: Mental Models for Better Reasoning, Judgment, Analysis, and Learning. Upgrade Your Intellectual Toolkit.3. 10-Minute Philosophy: From Buddhism to Stoicism, Confucius and Aristotle - Bite-Sized Wisdom From Some of History’s Greatest Thinkers4. Practical Intelligence: How to Think Critically, Deconstruct Situations, Analyze Deeply, and Never Be Fooled5. Learn To Think Using Thought Experiments: How to Expand Your Mental Horizons, Understand Metacognition, Improve Your Curiosity, and Think Like a Philosopher6. Take Rapid Action: Get Productive, Motivated, & Energized; Stop Overthinking & Procrastinating7. Relentless Focus: 27 Small Tweaks to Beat Procrastination, Skyrocket Productivity, Outsmart Distractions, & Do More in Less Time

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00:08:18 Preconceived Attitudes

00:17:48 Judgment and Premature Evaluation.

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