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  • BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?

    BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?
    2024/08/25
    BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?

    So many people who have been in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD with Co-Morbid Narcissistic Personality Disorder are caught in a trauma bond ruminating and trying to figure out who is the person behind the idealization and love bombing when there isn't a "real person" inside at all, only a false self.

    The intermittent reinforcement within the trauma bond with someone with BPD or BPD/NPD keeps Codependents stuck in circles of (often misinformation) trying to give their own explanations or
    offer up erroneous ones or misinterpretations taken from perhaps listening to or reading too many contradictory sources online.

    The person you fell in love with doesn't exist. The person behind the idealization and the love bombing is the false self that protects the lost self in Borderlines and Narcissists.

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    23 分
  • BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal

    BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal
    2024/08/08
    BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal

    BPD Breakup or discard is so painful and so confusing for so many people
    who have, but may not realize it, Codependency. Getting into therapy and
    going no contact is the way to identify your codependent part in the dynamic
    and to heal. Choose to no longer stay stuck in excessive obsessive focus on
    the Borderline and what they did, why they did it because that focus will
    keep the trauma bond in tact. You need to break that betrayal bond in order
    to heal.

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    47 分
  • Quiet Borderline Inner Persecution and Codependent Reactionary Projection

    Quiet Borderline Inner Persecution and Codependent Reactionary Projection
    2024/08/04
    Quiet Borderline Inner Persecution and Codependent Reactionary Projection

    People who are Quiet Borderlines, the Discouraged sub-type of BPD, when triggered
    have a fawn/freeze response. They withdraw. You can't pull words out of them. They
    don't hear you. They may take space, or ghost you in a patterned way, and you don't
    get it. You are trying to understand what the quiet borderline is doing. Many with
    Codependency think that it is the Quiet Borderline creating conflict when very often
    that's not the case. They are re-experiencing "lack of self" as the introjected
    persecutory object they were to a parent. People with Codependency need to understand
    your (often unconscious) reactionary projection about a significant part of the conflict
    that you experience and think is all coming from the person with Quiet BPD. Codependents
    will benefit from stopping their own repetition compulsion of pursuit of a Quiet Borderline
    who is deep inside re-experiencing inner persecution - they take on the role of the
    wounding parent or parents and that's not seeking conflict or any type of fight/flight.

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    36 分
  • Borderline Groundhog Day Repetition Compulsions Understanding Codependent Fantasy

    Borderline Groundhog Day Repetition Compulsions Understanding Codependent Fantasy
    2024/07/14
    Borderline Groundhog Day Repetition & Codependent Fantasy

    Borderline Groundhog Day repetition compulsions are pretty much every day (untreated) and people with Codependency are still trying to change the Fantasy Bond. People with Codependency end up in the fantasy while (untreated) people with BPD live each day or most days as yet another groundhog day of their own unconscious repetition compulsions. Want or need to understand why your Borderline doesn't see you or hear you, devalues, blames you, feels like a victim and can't learn from the daily repetition compulsions cycles?

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    39 分
  • BPD Relationship or Breakup Are You Codependent or Just Care Too Much?

    BPD Relationship or Breakup Are You Codependent or Just Care Too Much?
    2024/06/29
    BPD Relationship or Breakup - Are you a Codependent or Do You Just Care Too Much?

    An inauthentic Youtuber who prior to March 2024 had 63,000 subscribers and now has bought her way up to 150+ subscribers, and counting, did one of her usual fluff so called "deep dive" into this silly title, "Are you a Codependent or Do You Just Care Too Much?"

    In my alternative for those who find it and will benefit from much more information and resonate with this podcast (episode) I identity the following about Codependency for so many that are in a relationship, are recycling a BPD Relationship, been ghosted and/or discarded by a partner or now Ex with BPD and who are suffering immeasurably and can't stop ruminating. Still stuck painfully in the cognitive dissonance of what happened. Many remain confused for months to years unable to break the trauma bond that you must break to heal and recover from the BPD Breakup and from Codependency. In this episode I explain the following:

    • 4 Codependent Themes
    • 15 Core Traits
    • 15 Childhood Causes
    • 7 Benefits of Professional Help in Recovery


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    49 分
  • Am I a Codependent in a Heartbreaking Cycle Of a Bpd Relationship or Breakup?

    Am I a Codependent in a Heartbreaking Cycle Of a Bpd Relationship or Breakup?
    2024/06/28
    Am I a Codependent in a Heartbreaking Cycle Of a Bpd Relationship or Breakup?


    Am I a Codependent, are you a Codependent in a heartbreaking cycle of a BPD relationship and Breakup - ghosted, discarded, had to end it yourself?

    In a BPD Relationship, recycling a BPD Relationship, or have you been ghosted or discarded - are you new to or still suffering from a BPD Breakup? Are you still unsure how to answer the questions, "Am I a Codependent?" Do you want that person with BPD back, are you totally focused on the on/off BPD - the Ex with BPD - still hoping, or did it all end a while ago or years ago but you still continue to hurt, watch videos, and ruminate?

    Why realizing what Codependency really means and how it applies to you is the only way to heal (working with an expert in this area, like myself) and be able to move on and be truly free from anything to do with that person with BPD and all you have been wounded by.

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    34 分
  • BPD Relationship Dynamics - Codependents Not Taking It Fighting Back

    BPD Relationship Dynamics - Codependents Not Taking It Fighting Back
    2024/06/24
    BPD Relationship Dynamics Codependents Staying But Not Taking It and Fighting Back

    BPD relationships dynamics with codependents who are staying in the relationship "not taking it" and are fighting back thinking that this isn't codependent and that somehow it means you are not still getting very hurt and negatively impacted by all that people with BPD do that wounds those closest to them. What does fighting back look like and what is the result of it when on is doing that but still staying in a BPD relationship? The betrayal bond dynamics in relationships with a person with BPD and a person with Codependency aren't all just one-sided.

    Session(s) With A.J. Mahari
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    28 分
  • Empower Someone With BPD To End Unhealthy Life Choices Claims An Inauthentic Youtuber

    Empower Someone With BPD To End Unhealthy Life Choices Claims An Inauthentic Youtuber
    2024/06/03
    Empower Someone With BPD To End Unhealthy Life Choices Claims An Inauthentic Youtuber

    I keep it real to help you heal!

    An inauthentic subscriber purchasing Youtuber misinforms in the worst way possible by blaming
    people with Codependency as if you need to be "perfect" before you try to have all those
    "conversations" with someone in your life with BPD or else the borderline will just blame you.
    People with BPD don't take personal responsibility and it's not your job to be a "role model"
    or make sure as this Youtuber claims, "that your side of the fence is cleaned up first" to what,
    talk to a person with BPD abusing and using you? This Youtuber has bought over 70,000 "fake" subscribers in April and May 2024 (perhaps still on-going?) and allegedly also purchased thousands of views on her video of a similar titlebecause her messages don't make sense and she isn't the "expert" she wants everyone to think she is.

    An in authentic Youtuber blaming victims of abusive borderlines and suggesting that you should be ableto "empower them" to stop "unhealthy life choices" that result from BPD. She sounds like a lost puppy,a rampant Codependent but what else is wrong with her that she needs to try to buy her way to "more credibility" while putting out the garbage "information" that she does. You can't empower a person with BPD to end the unhealthy life choices they make. Those choices will continue and continue to hurt you as will any notion or belief on your part that you aren't "perfect" enough for a person with BPD who uses you can can't love you.

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    1 時間 12 分