It is great to be back, buzzing around my local woods and london!

I was re-reading a book on my way to meet a coaching client.

And a line struck me

“We grow more by getting it wrong than by getting it right.” Richard Rhor

What a great truth.

This message appears throughout the ages of ages within the great texts, myths and stories.

There is a fall before the rise. The stumble before the stand.

The death and renewal story, the Phoenix from the flames and night into day.

The signs are there, yet, too many run from failure, too many stay small, hiding in the comfort zone of life.

A slip is critical to our growth.

And I am fortunate enough to witness the falling, to rise on a daily basis, through my mission to help people transform their relationship with alcohol.

This is why the story is continually told.

You can’t choose your falling, it’s something that happens to you, and it hurts.

The job loss, break up, addiction, problem, illness, or bereavement are a few of many examples.

I have witnessed the fall and rise so many times that it all makes sense.

When life puts you on your backside, you uncover your mortality.

The shortness of life is revealed along with a crack in the ego that allows you to see with new eyes.

As the genius, Leonard Cohen, sings,” There is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in.”

Old ways of behaving appear trivial, and you hear a new story, one that gifts you the space to change, grow and learn.

A glimpse of your true, authentic self is revealed, which is life's greatest discovery.

Problems are a gift that helps us to grow.

They don’t feel like this at the time, and if you’re in the midst of what feels like a terrible burden, perhaps this is your opportunity to rise and come back stronger, to experience the true meaning of your life.

But during the fall, you only feel the pain; it's not until you rise that the significance of the fall is revealed.

You will find new eyes to view your world.

To embrace and savour what’s truly important.

So while it might hurt right now, just imagine that you are on the verge of something special.

Your biggest obstacle is a chance for victory.

As Marcus Aurelius points out,

"The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way."

Andy

PS - I am biased, but one of the greatest ways to turn your defeats into victories is to learn how to coach and provide help to those who are facing the same struggles you have now overcome.

This is your fast pass to a life of contribution.

All you need to do is be brave enough to take action.

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As I crossed the 500-mile Camino finish line, it was straight to my next adventure.

My best man’s 50th in Ibiza.

You might argue from one spiritual experience to another!

HOWEVER!

The first stop was to view our re-invention retreat venue!

The retreat is designed to help people rediscover who they are and redesign what’s next.

(As this is my first EVER retreat, it’s exclusive to my coaches, but I will roll this out to everyone soon.)

The retreat venue is off the charts!!! (See photo above)

We are all buzzing.

Next, the party began.

And I had the best time.

My best friends, Tara, loads of laughs, great food, and brilliant company.

But then something happened that I now regret.

After the most wonderful day on a boat, and lunch with our feet in the sand at Juan Y Andrea in Formentera.

Things could not have been better.

Until the lads mentioned going to see DJ Calvin Harris at Ushuaïa.

At this point, I made a classic mistake.

I asked a rubbish question, which cascaded into more rubbish questions

Which resulted in lots of rubbish answers.

“Would I enjoy Calvin Harris if I were not drinking?”

“Would there be too many people?”

“I used to drink to numb out all the noise”...

The answer in my head, which was wrecked by the “will I, won’t I scenario”, responded with

“No I won’t enjoy it”

So I didn’t go.

What I needed in that moment was a great coach to snap me out of the limiting thinking state I had gotten myself into!!!

When I woke the next morning.

Fresh and in a different state the question was so obvious!!

“How can I go to Calvin Harris and LOVE IT because I’m alcohol-free!”

The answer to this question would have been, “LET’S DO THIS!”

Then I felt the pang of regret.

I missed out a great opportunity to test my alcohol-free powers!

Lesson learned.

And hopefully this is refreshing that 11 years in, I am still making mistakes and learning about my personal alcohol-free adventure!

This experience also reminded me of why moderation is a disaster for most people!

I will dig much deeper into this important topic on this weeks Alcohol-Free Advantage Podcast.

The learn from today is in quote form from Anthony Robbins

“The quality of your questions will dictate the quality of your life!”

Ask great questions, lead a great life!

Your coach

Andy