EPISODE 61: Redefining Love And Relationship Standards

I’ve been reflecting on the kind of love I want to call into my life in a different way recently, a way that I’ve never considered before now. It’s causing me to reevaluate my relationship standards and helping me to go even deeper with what I desire from a relationship in the future.

Here’s a brief overview:

1. Evolving Relationship Standards: Shifting my focus from chemistry to enduring qualities like loyalty and support

2. Unconditional Care in Relationships:*Inspired by my grandparents, examining the beauty of caregiving within love

3. Desire for a Resilient Partnership: Seeking a partner who is committed through both joyous and challenging moments

4. Reflecting on Singlehood and Self-Knowledge: Embracing singlehood to gain clarity on relationship desires

5. Intentional Love: Moving from attraction-driven dating to a more values-centred approach

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EPISODE 60: The Truth: You're Actually Obsessed With Yourself, Not With Him

In this episode, I reflect on a transformative realisation about dating: sometimes, our obsession with a partner isn’t about them at all—it’s about how incredible *we* are.

After watching a TikTok that highlighted this, I began to look differently at my dating experiences. I now notice that the excitement and fulfilment I feel often comes from my own energy and personality, not necessarily the person I’m dating. I explore how this perspective can empower us to enjoy dating more fully and choose partners who truly match our worth.

Here's an overview of what we discussed:

1. Self-Worth in Dating: Understanding how our excitement often stems from our own confidence, not the other person

2. Avoiding Obsessive Attachment: Recognising when attachment is based on personal feelings, not the partner’s qualities

3. Reflecting on Personal Value: Learning to appreciate how much we contribute to enjoyable dates and moments

4. Empowered Dating Choices: Using self-awareness to avoid settling for partners who don’t truly align with our needs

Join me in this episode for a fresh look at dating through the lens of self-worth, and feel free to share if this resonates with your own experiences!

Mentioned:

The TikTok video that inspired this episode

Am I Actually Delusional? The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating

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You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

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1) Share the podcast with your friends

2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it

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Resources

• The 9 Red Flags You Need to Stop Ignoring Immediately
• The Dating Debrief
• Attract on the Apps
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

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EPISODE 59: How To Overcome Anxious Attachment When Dating Someone New

Is your anxious attachment style affecting your dating experience?

Are your relationships often overshadowed by feelings of insecurity or fear of abandonment?

Do you find yourself overthinking every text or interaction, constantly worried that your partner may pull away?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I explore how to manage anxious attachment and build lasting confidence in relationships. I share my own experiences with anxiety, offering tools and strategies for recognising triggers, communicating needs and reframing your mindset.

From handling insecurities to asking for reassurance, this episode offers actionable steps for anyone struggling with relationship anxiety. Through mindset shifts, practical exercises and emotional regulation, I guide you toward self-confidence and deeper connections, both with your partner and yourself.

Here's a peek at what we discussed:

1. Understanding Anxious Attachment: Recognising the difference between intuitive red flags and past trauma resurfacing

2. Healing Through Self-Work: How personal growth can reduce anxiety in new relationships

3. Practical Steps to Manage Anxiety: A three-step process to shift away from obsessive thoughts and ground yourself

4. The Role of Self-Worth: How building confidence and addressing feelings of "not enough" can improve relationship dynamics

5. Lessons from Past Relationships: Sharing personal stories to offer relatable, real-world insights into overcoming anxious attachment

6. Understanding Personal Triggers: Identifying what situations or behaviours heighten anxiety in relationships

7. Healthy Communication: How to express feelings and needs in a grounded, clear manner with tips on expressing needs for reassurance without overwhelming your partner.

8. Building Confidence: Tools and techniques to increase self-assurance and reduce anxious attachment

9. Managing Anxiety Early in Relationships: Balancing communication and independence when dating someone new

10. Self-Regulation in Relationships: Strategies to manage emotions and avoid impulsive behaviours driven by anxiety

11. Creating Healthy Relationship Dynamics: Learning how to balance independence and togetherness

This episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast has been a long time coming but I certainly hope it was worth the wait.

Mentioned:

How to Quit Obsessing Over Why He Hasn’t Messaged

Am I Actually Delusional? The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

Resources

• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

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