EPISODE 67: How to Quit Dating Someone You’re Just Not Into

He didn’t make the bed so I ended it (but there’s more to this story….).

What started as a promising connection took a turn on date seven, when the effort (or lack of it) just didn’t match up. It took around 3 seconds for me to be fully checked out and this time I ended things immediately. That’s growth for ya…

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing how to stop dating someone when you know it’s just not it, even if they’re “nice.” I talk about the guilt that can creep in when someone seems great on paper, the fear of letting a good one go, and why it’s actually kinder to end it sooner rather than later.

Plus, I’m introducing a fresh new format to the podcast (exciting!) — with updates from my own dating life, your dilemmas, and juicy mindset shifts to help you date with confidence.

The vibe of this episode:

1. Why it's okay to walk away from someone even if nothing’s “wrong”

2. The shame we feel when we ignore our gut and stay too long

3. How to end things kindly without overexplaining or apologising

4. Why texting is totally acceptable in early dating breakups

5. The exact message I sent when I realised he wasn’t the one

6. The realisations that came flooding within minutes of me getting the ick

7. What I’m doing next as I start dating again

If you’ve ever wondered whether you're being “too picky” or you’ve struggled to end things without overexplaining, this is the pep talk you need.

Mentioned:

Blindsided By Red Flags After Healing? How to Remove the Shame

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here’s How to Believe In It

We Know My Opinion On Shorts…

Manifest The One

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EPISODE 66: Don't Let Their Negative Dating Experiences Impact You (There Are Still Good Men Out There)

If you’ve ever thought:

“I used to feel hopeful about dating, but now all I hear is horror stories.”

“Everyone around me says men are trash, and part of me is starting to believe it.”

“There’s no such thing as a fairytale anymore, online dating is just full of ghosters, love bombers and men who only want sex”

…this is for you.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m calling out the negative dating narratives that aren’t yours to buy into. If you’ve ever found yourself absorbing horror stories from friends, group chats, or reels and wondering if love is even worth it anymore, this episode is your pep talk to believe in better.

I dive into how our mindset, beliefs, and standards shape our dating experiences—and how you don’t have to settle just because others did. I also share a personal dating story that reminded me firsthand that good men do exist, and explain why holding your standards is a powerful act of self-respect, not pickiness.

Here's the general vibe of the episode:

1. Letting Go of Fear-Based Dating Narratives: Why other people’s bad experiences don’t define your future

2. Reclaiming Hope in Dating: Shifting back into trust and belief that love is possible

3. The Power of Standards: Why you don’t need to lower the bar to find connection

4. Dating From an Empowered Place: Honouring your intuition and knowing when to walk away, even from someone who’s “good”

5. Loving Your Single Life: Why being single doesn’t mean you're behind—and how it actually supports high-standard dating

Mentioned:

Manifest The One

Confident AF: The Membership

Blindsided By Red Flags After Healing? How to Remove the Shame

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EPISODE 65: Blindsided By Red Flags In Your 30s? Here's How To Remove The Shame

If you’ve ever thought, “How did I miss that?” “I should’ve known better” “I can’t believe I didn’t recognise that sooner” or “After everything I’ve worked on… how the fuck did I fall for this?” this is the episode for you.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m diving into something I don’t think we talk about enough: the shame that creeps in when you get blindsided by red flags, even after your healing era. You’ve done the work. You’ve been to therapy. You’ve raised your standards. So how tf did you still fall for someone who wasn’t good for you?

I’ve been there, and I know how disheartening it feels when you realise you ignored signs you swore you’d never overlook again. Listen now for your permission slip to forgive yourself, stop spiralling, and shift back into your confident, take-no-shit energy.

Here’s a sneak peek into what we discuss:

1. The shame spiral after ignoring red flags, even post-healing

2. Why subtle red flags are often the most damaging

3. How to stop blaming yourself and rewrite your narrative

4. The simple 4-step “Switch Your Story” process to release shame

5. Why they don’t deserve access to you (including your social media)

6. How to affirm your way back into an empowered mindset

7. Revisiting your standards, even if you’re not looking for “The One”

Mentioned:

Confident AF: The Membership

The Confidence Course

Am I Actually Delusional?! The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating

Burned Haystack Dating Method Facebook Group

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You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

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2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it

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