Today, we’re thrilled to welcome the incredible Carla Ten Eyck. If you know Carla, you know she’s a force of nature in the photography world and an ambassador of community and connection. We explore Carla’s evolving photography career, her journey into branding work, her passion for creating inclusive and welcoming spaces, and how she beautifully balances the various communities she’s a part of. Whether she’s behind a camera or on the golf course, Carla’s joy and energy are undeniable. Let’s dive in!

https://carlateneyck.com/

https://www.instagram.com/c10ike/

https://newenglandeventpros.com/

Key Topics:

• The Journey to Becoming Carla Ten Eyck Photography: Carla shares how she found her passion for photography and how her career has evolved over the years, from photographing ultra-luxury weddings to her current focus on branding and connecting with people through visual storytelling.
• The Importance of Community and Connection: We discuss the many layers of community Carla cherishes—from her family and local Hartford connections to the broader networks she builds through work. She reflects on how her involvement in diverse groups like the Hartford Public Library and the West Hartford Chamber has enriched her life.
• Bringing Joy and Purpose into Work: Carla speaks about how her experiences outside the wedding industry, like her branding collaborations and creative partnerships, keep her work feeling fresh. She emphasizes the importance of being an inclusive connector, inviting others into the unique world she’s built.
• Empowering Young Creatives: Carla and Melissa discuss the challenges and opportunities for younger professionals in underappreciated trades, such as sewing and tailoring. The conversation touches on the evolving landscape of traditional craftsmanship and the importance of empowering the next generation.
• Balancing Life and Business: Carla shares her approach to keeping her life diverse and dynamic, from traveling with her kids to finding joy in unexpected places like the golf course. She also talks about involving her children in her work, creating meaningful experiences, and embracing balance.

Takeaways:

• Creating Connection: Carla’s mission is to use her talents to connect people in authentic and uplifting ways. We learn that even the simplest tools, like a camera or sewing needle, can be transformative when used with passion and purpose.
• The Power of Inclusivity: Carla’s dedication to making everyone feel seen and welcomed is a powerful reminder of the impact of intentional community building.
• Finding Balance: Life isn’t just about one thing. Carla inspires us to integrate different experiences to keep our creative energy flowing.
• Inspiring the Next Generation: Whether through photography, sewing, or trades, there’s a better way to live and thrive in these crafts. Carla and Melissa both encourage us to uplift and mentor future creatives.

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story

Today we’re thrilled to chat with Enzo Valentino of Valentino Tailors. Enzo is a tailor whose love for his craft goes beyond the fabric and threads. In this episode, we dive into Enzo’s journey—from his beginnings to his vision of passing the torch to his kids, the creative solutions he brings to his shop every day, and why building a community-focused business means everything to him. His story is all about loving what you do and finding purpose in every stitch, every project, and every challenge that comes his way.

https://valentinotailors.com/services

https://www.instagram.com/valentinotailors/

Audio-only: https://rss.com/podcasts/thefabricofamerica/?listen-on=true

Key Topics:

1. Sewing with Purpose: Enzo’s dedication to the craft of tailoring and his hopes for involving his children in the business.
2. The Everyday Fix: How Enzo's love for problem-solving and creating solutions brings a unique vibe to his shop.
3. Supporting Local: The importance Enzo places on supporting local businesses and nurturing his community.
4. Finding His Voice: Enzo’s journey in sharing his knowledge and story on social media, with the support of his wife, Alicia.
5. Building a Legacy: How Enzo envisions his business growing as a legacy for his family and community.

Takeaways:

• Passion isn’t just in the work; it’s in who you do it for. Enzo’s love for his family, team, and clients shines in every story.
• Local businesses are the heartbeat of communities, and supporting them makes all the difference.
• When you truly love what you do, even the hardest days don’t take away from your purpose.

Enzo, thank you so much for sharing your inspiring journey with us!

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story

In this heartfelt episode of The Fabric of America, we (Melissa and Matt) sit down with Kristiann Vargas, an inspiring chef and the mind behind Distinctive Ideas at Auerfarm. Together, we explore the power of food to bring communities together, support local farms, and create lasting memories. Kristiann shares her journey as a business owner and caterer, her challenges, and the importance of grounding herself in community connections, both personal and professional. This episode dives deep into what it means to nourish not only ourselves but also the very fabric of our local community.

https://www.distinctive-ideas.com/about

https://auerfarm.salsalabs.org/farmtotable/index.html

Key Topics:

• Creating Meaningful Experiences: Kristiann describes her unique dining events, from intimate date nights to large gatherings, where people can unwind, enjoy farm-fresh meals, and connect. With goats grazing and the sunset painting the skies, each meal is more than food—it’s an experience.
• The Roller Coaster of Entrepreneurship: Kristiann opens up about the challenges of running her own business and the emotional highs and lows that come with it. Both Matt and Kristiann share their stories of nearly quitting their ventures, only to be pulled back by supportive friends, family, and even surprising clients.
• Sourcing Local and Giving Back: We talk about the devastating effects of unpredictable weather on local farmers and why supporting them through buying local is more essential than ever. Kristiann highlights how each local purchase directly impacts families and communities.
• Overcoming 'Too Much' Emotions: We share a few laughs and tears over the emotional challenges of being in high-stress roles, especially when society can make us feel "too emotional" or "too passionate." Kristiann, Matt, and I all reflect on embracing our emotional sides and finding strength in our vulnerabilities.
• Shout-outs to Our Rock: We each give a warm shout-out to the grounding people in our lives who make our work possible. Kristiann talks about her husband, Rob, who’s her "steady rock" through everything, while we nod along, knowing exactly what she means.

Takeaways:

• Support Local, Change Lives: By simply buying from a farm stand or choosing local vendors, you’re not just getting fresh food—you’re directly impacting lives in your community.
• Community is Built Around the Table: Taking time to connect over a meal has the power to strengthen relationships, build understanding, and support local economies.
• Resilience in Business: The road of entrepreneurship is rarely smooth. Even on days when you feel like giving up, the right support system can make all the difference.
• Embrace Your Emotions: Being emotional isn't a flaw; it’s a strength. It brings us closer to our work, to others, and helps us lead with empathy.

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story

Today we’re joined by the incredible Shelley from Married by Shelley, an officiant with a unique ability to connect people through their stories. Shelley shares with us how she turned her passion for storytelling and connecting with couples into a successful officiating business. We dive into the intricacies of weddings, how she became a go-to person for all things officiant-related, and what keeps her motivated to make every ceremony personal and meaningful. Join us as we uncover how Shelley brings love stories to life!

https://www.marriedbyshelley.com/

https://www.instagram.com/marriedbyshelley/

Key Topics:

• Shelley’s journey into officiating and how her love for storytelling inspired her.
• The importance of sonder and connecting complex human experiences during weddings.
• How Shelley became the resource for couples and vendors alike by always knowing the right people and places.
• The balance between introversion and extroversion in her role and how she navigates her way through social situations.
• The importance of community and support within the wedding industry.

Takeaways:

• Storytelling is at the heart of every great wedding ceremony, and Shelley’s expertise lies in connecting people on a deeper level.
• Don’t be afraid to push past your comfort zone to achieve your dreams — even if you’re introverted.
• Finding what you love to do can change everything, even if it takes a while to get there.
• Shelley’s advice for officiants: listen deeply, understand the couple’s journey, and bring everyone together through their story.

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story

In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of consumer power and its influence on the fashion industry, comparing it to the evolution of food consumption. We explore how fast fashion parallels the processed food revolution and how each purchase we make is essentially a vote for the kind of world we want to live in. Join us as we discuss the importance of thoughtful consumption and how small actions can collectively create significant change.

Key Topics:

• The concept of the dollar as a vote: every purchase is a decision for one company over another.
• How fast fashion is similar to processed food, and the need for a Whole Foods-like revolution in clothing.
• The history of how food and fashion industries have evolved in America, and how that’s impacted society.
• Predictions on the future of fashion, including the rise of made-to-order clothing and the use of AR technology.
• The role of social media and the internet in speeding up consumer awareness and accountability.

Takeaways:

• Every small change counts, and we don’t need to be perfect to make a positive impact.
• Consumers have more power than they think; each dollar spent can shape the future of industries.
• The shift towards more mindful consumption in fashion is starting, and we can all contribute to this change by staying informed and making thoughtful choices.
• Get ready for more guest experts in upcoming episodes, where we'll continue these important discussions with leaders in various industries.

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story

In this episode of The Fabric of America, we dive deep into the real value behind the cost of custom garments. Melissa and Matt break down some of the biggest misconceptions around pricing in fashion, from the labor behind intricate wedding dresses to the materials used in high-end suits. They also shed light on the delicate balance between quality and affordability, encouraging us all to make informed consumer choices that reflect our values. Links available at https://melissalynnoddo.com/author/FOA/

Outfits:

Melissa -

• Top – Bards custom button down – carbon copy of a DKNY top that she has and loves, new line, handmade bespoke from NYC
• Jeans – (brand) from the Higganum Community Closet
• Shoes – Jcrew from eBay

Matt -

• Top 100% linen boat stripe button down - Valentino Tailors
• Khaki Shorts – Collard Greens – NC
• Shoes – CV (recycled plastic) sold by Huckberry

Key Topics:

• How material quality and labor affect garment pricing
• The differences between men’s and women’s fashion in terms of materials and craftsmanship
• Real-life examples of pricing in bridal and menswear industries
• Why consumer education is essential to making informed purchasing decisions
• The value of supporting local businesses and skilled artisans

Takeaways:

• Understanding the true cost of fashion goes beyond just the price tag; it’s about labor, quality, and craftsmanship.
• High-end garments, whether it’s a wedding dress or a custom suit, reflect the intricate work and thoughtful design choices made by skilled artisans.
• Educating consumers is key—knowing what goes into your clothing helps you spend wisely.
• Supporting small businesses and local craftsmen not only impacts your wardrobe but also your local economy.
• As consumers, we should challenge the fast fashion mentality and invest in pieces that align with our values and priorities.

Links:

• Oliver-Cabell sneaker sold by Huckberry - The uppers are made from recycled plastic bottles that are processed into a lightweight yarn, which is then 3D printed into a breathable, flexible knit upper that moves with your feet for the ultimate in comfort.
• Valentino Tailors - We offer alterations, made to measure garments and made to order shoes for both men and women in New Haven, Connecticut.
• Collard Greens - Classic American Lifestyle Brand. Premium Quality. American Made. Environmentally Friendly.
• Making it in America - The Almost Impossible Quest to Manufacture in the U.S.A. (and How It Got That Way) written by Rachel Slade. A moving and eye-opening look at the story of manufacturing in America, whether it can ever successfully return to our shores, and why our nation depends on it.
• Dressing the Man - the industry’s definitive treatise on men’s style written by Alan Flusser.
• Love Bird Bridal - This small, local, woman owned business completely made my wedding. The staff and the owner is incredibly kind, and makes you feel comfortable the entire time.

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story

In this episode of The Fabric of America, we dive deep into Matt's personal journey, exploring how his upbringing, experiences, and insights shape his passion for American-made clothing and small businesses. Join us as we discuss the importance of understanding diverse perspectives, the impact of community, and the stories behind the garments that connect us all. From his corporate retail days to discovering the rich tapestry of American craftsmanship, Matt shares how he champions local artisans and the unique narratives woven into every piece of clothing.

Key Takeaways:

• Fluidity in Emotions: It's okay to acknowledge changes in feelings and give ourselves permission to be uncertain.
• Understanding Perspective: True understanding of others’ experiences, especially regarding race and identity, requires humility and a willingness to learn.
• Community Connection: Engaging with small businesses fosters relationships and strengthens local economies, reminding us of the human stories behind products.
• Celebrating Craftsmanship: Each piece of clothing carries the story of its maker, highlighting the importance of supporting American artisans.
• Continuous Learning: Embracing the unknown opens us up to new experiences and deeper connections within our communities.

Links:

• Alemais - Our design principles embrace low impact practices and using organic & recycled materials.
• Poshmark – Shop All Your Favorite Name Brands For Less.
• Hawthorne Watch Co. – Co-Founder Brian’s grandfather, Bernard Brown, was a watchmaker. After returning from World War II with a purple heart, Bernie used the GI Bill to study watchmaking at the Waltham Watch Company. His love of watches was passed to his grandson and today we hope to honor and continue his legacy through Hawthorn Watch Co.
• JT Ghamo - Valentino RockStud Pumps - check out the latest men's suits, tuxedos, and casual wear selections.

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story

In this episode, we dive into the fascinating journey of Melissa Oddo, who not only excels in her craft, but also builds a thriving community around the dying art of sewing. We explore her early life experiences, the challenges she faced, and how she organically transitioned from being a lone rebel to fostering a community of seamstresses. We also discuss the importance of embracing the long game in life and business, and how passion, persistence, and community have shaped her path.

Takeaways:

1. Building Community: Sometimes the need for a community arises organically, especially in niche fields. For this seamstress, the creation of the Stitch Collective was a natural progression to preserve the dying art of sewing.
2. Long-Term Vision: Life is long, and it’s essential to think beyond immediate goals. Planning for the future and viewing life in phases allows for more growth and adaptability.
3. Personal Growth: No matter where you start, it’s okay to reinvent yourself along the way. Be open to failing, learning, and continuing forward.
4. Finding Balance: Reflecting yearly on personal and professional life can help strike a balance between work and personal fulfillment.

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story