~ Pleasantries HOT TOPICS ~Viral TikTok about not wearing heels in the club, clunky heels, gen z, stay in your lane, a bad b!tch is still a bad b!tch ~Cultural Appropriation, Kardashians in India, white girls with braids, Amber rose at the RNC 19:50 MAIN TOPIC - SEX ANXIETY -having anxiety in general and giving up control -is this going to be owrht it? -performance anxiety -oral performance -feeling like you have to perform for men -sex anxiety with “feeling different” -getting tested after every encounter -frequency of sex within a marriage -does it vary with different races -hesitating to have sex after 30 years old -whats the longest s couple should go? -not following every urge

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~Nara Smith stealing from South African content creator, boboa tea, tagging other creators when inspired

-Lebron and Bronny James, why are black people mad? Nepotism, black wealth, gatekeeping. Glorifying the grind.

TOPIC - LITERACY IN THE YOUTH???

-Birdman talking to prison, you don’t needs books

-literacy related to lifestyle, people don’t do stuff that’s to popular

-transition to technology, no books in school

-why don’t you take the kids to the library

-we’re in a literacy crisis

-barriers to literacy

-capacity of the parent

-quality of teachers

-in order to ask for help, I have to believe that you will help me

-good teachers and good students

-stigma around “bad” kids

-we’re skipping steps, these things aggregate

-why aren’t we holding kids back, to increase retention

-but my kid was there for 8 hours???

-barriers to learning even with resources

-ADHD, NEURODIVERGENT

-traditional school system is not working when most kids are on the bel curve

-what are we gonna do

-mental health services, socioemotional intelligence

-public school funding?

-education is not popular

-things are based off of what society values

-sheltered vs protected

-increase empathy

-parents are not equipped

-the system needs to evolve

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-pretty privilege -Valuing women’s minds -Women date down -Traditional household -Valuing a women’s presence -Flirting -Odeipus/electra complex, mommy and daddy issue -Attachment to parents -Wanting to date someone like your father -knowing what you like and don’t like -influences Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/bosnow/emergence License code: ELY4OV2SNH0XELV8

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HOT TOPICS

~Downloaded the app Yuka that can scan barcodes and got anxiety. Overall good decisions were made but some faves were POOR. Chile..just pray

~ Pastor TD Jakes, Pastor Tony Evans, Dallas mega churches. What do you do when something happens, what’s your stance? Wait for evidence, or move on because some things are truly heartbreaking.

12:16 TOPIC WITH GUEST DEVONTAY ASHE

DO MEN HATE WOMEN MORE OR DO WOMEN HATE MEN MORE?

-why this shift to gender wars, in the 90s it wasn’t like that

-now with social media there’s more opportunity for like minds so its easier to have a negative opinion on women and then find people to agree with you

-the people who have the strongest energy towards the opposite sex may not even be heterosexual

-women have always been protected and now they are less protected to now there’s more tit for tat and calling a spade a spade

-black women have never been protected

-its harder for men to say his side of the story to or be deemed “sassy”

-we have talked about women not having accountability

-men see the baby mama as more of a barrier to get to the children and sometimes its a f*cked up situation that’s harder to navigate and it may be easier to stay away

-the difference in perception and understanding

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~ Pleasantries HOT TOPICS ~would you rather be stuck in the forrest with a bear or a random man? ~ Beautiful black women killing it, Sha’carri Richardson, Simone Biles ~not much interesting this week, Cardi vs Bia, more allegations, Caitlyn clark being targeted 8:49 TOPIC - Becoming new versions of yourself and mourning the old ones -whats parts of yourself are you mourning? -can you ever truly change? -trauma , loss, grief -staying on the right path -living of the flesh -changing your type -there are some lessons you lear that you can’t unlearn -mourning the past, is morning too strong a word? But this idea of something to have to grow and change and missing what was -there some versions of yourself you worked really hard -definition of the word mourning -safety, stabilization, -remembrance and mourning -integration and reconnection Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/bosnow/emergence License code: ELY4OV2SNH0XELV8

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HOT TOPICS

~ Denouncing sororities and fraternities, thoughts? Giving back to community, christian organization. ANTI-BLACK, staple in black community. You do ritualistic things everyday. Spiritual awakenings.

Everything is demonic is a way to control people.

~ Caitlyn Clark. Lebron’s comments, speaks about Caitlyn and not Angel Reese. Gate-keep the WNBA. Keep it black but we have to be ok with athletes supporting other athletes regardless of race. The algorithm promotes negativity, negative comments get interacted with the most and get posted to the top.

1326 TOPIC - UNPOPULAR OPINONS

-Current trends of unpopular people, Diddy, Drake…etc..

-Do you have to stop listening to artists after they have done something terrible? R Kelly, Chris brown, Drake??

-Chris brown can be a grey area because he was remorseful and paid his dues, but also continues to have allegations against him

-why is DV not immediately taken as seriously as smabuse against children?

-women and men both are accountable for altercations

-personal nostalgia is more important than any artist

-stand on business and take pride in where your dollar goes

-what’s the point of marriage if we have to go through all this sh*y?

-how much are you willing to take for love?

-the algorithm loves marriage, engagements, and babies

-growing together

~when did we decide that labor mad a women good wife?

-marriage is a bout companionship and growing together

-I cook, clean, and do laundry for me, he’s not my child

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Did you hear, did you see?

~ Crockett vs. Greene, black women put that issue on and then get demonized for it, stop judging are responses once we are disrespected.

~ Maryland teacher lets students braid hair. Should have not gotten fired, highly inappropriate, discernment. “Best friends”, teachertok, get off the internet. Professional boundaries.

TOPIC - NEUROPLASTICITY 15:32

-What is neuroplasticity? The ability to heal your brain, cognitive behavior therapy.

• Nature vs. nurture
• Twin studies, sibling in the same family
• Epigenetics - the ability to pass down trauma
• The environment you create is sometimes not enough to override DNA
• Distress Tolerance
• Trauma affects your health
• Compassionate therapy
• You’re a survivor there are situations that you’re dealing with that are above the skills that you have
• How trauma literally affects your brain?
• Fight or flight
• Thinking about things verses processes them
• Going to therapy
• Getting advice from friends
• Trauma narrative
• Tips for healing your brain
• • Baby steps, playing a tape through
  • Time is on your side
  • Just start
  • Challenge the brain
  • Make connections
  • Time and commitment
• Mental health is a lifelong journey

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HOT TOPICS

~ Rap beef round 3: Meet the grahams and family matters. Kendrick is the boogey man. 6:16 in LA. SA allegations. Daughter allegations

~Amanda seals and club shay shay interview. Questioning black women. High level subject matter and Shannon sharp skills. Was she clinically diagnosed or self diagnosed? Interview was missing accountability. Neuro-divergent bell curve.

CAN YOU BE PRO-BLACK AND MARRY OUTSIDE YOUR RACE?

-what is pro black?

-the difference between ethnicity and raise, being black American vs. Nigerian American

-light skin privilege

-dating outside of your race

-we actively water what matters to us

-who you marry relates to your legacy

-Is it a reflection of your value system?

-ideologies verses real life

-black women dating outside their race

-who I marry has no effect on the work I’m doing - be for real

-it lessens your credibility

-white women who marry black men

-biracial identify politics

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