We talk a lot about the regrets people have when they're dying, but what about the regrets we carry every single day?

In this episode, Hilary Silver, former therapist and master coach of 25 years, shares the four most common regrets she hears in her work with high-functioning women. These are micro-regrets that quietly erode your confidence, peace, and sense of self.

From staying silent when you should’ve spoken up, to ignoring your intuition, to being too critical of your appearance, Hilary unpacks the everyday ways we abandon ourselves, and how to stop.

Episode Highlights:

• What self-abandonment really looks like (and how it shows up)
• Why burnout keeps you from showing up as your best self
• How to stop dismissing your inner voice
• The sneaky regret most women have about their bodies—and how to stop repeating the cycle

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] Why We Regret What We Do (and Don’t Do)
• [01:47] Regret #1: Self-Abandonment in Relationships & Life
• [04:36] Regret #2: Not Being Your Best Self
• [06:33] Regret #3: Ignoring Your Intuition
• [07:46] Regret #4: Being Too Hard on Yourself
• [09:33] How to Learn from Regret Without Shame

Regret can either weigh you down or wake you up. This episode is your reminder to choose differently, starting now.

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Still following the fitness rules from your 30’s and wondering why they aren’t working anymore? Hilary is here to tell you: It’s time to break up with the punishing workouts, the rigid food rules, and the guilt-tripping voice in your head.

At 52, Hilary is in the best shape of her life. She’s leaner, stronger, and more energized than ever, and she’s doing it without tracking macros, counting calories, or wrecking her body with HIIT workouts. In this refreshingly real episode, Hilary breaks down the five shifts that helped her finally get the results she wanted, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally too.

From unlearning outdated fitness “rules” to adopting a mindset rooted in self-devotion (not self-discipline), she shares how tuning out the noise and tuning into her own body changed everything. You’ll hear about her exact lifestyle habits, how she makes working out something she actually enjoys, and why flexibility matters just as much as strength.

No shame, no extremes, no performative BS, just smart, doable shifts that honor where you are now.

Episode Highlights:

• The real reason your old routines aren’t working anymore
• Why pushing harder might be hurting more than helping
• The mindset shift that changed Hilary’s entire approach to fitness
• Her go-to workouts, food philosophy, and everyday habits
• How to prioritize yourself unapologetically—at the gym and everywhere else

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] Fitness Wake-Up Call
• [01:44] Listening to Your Body
• [03:10] From Punishment to Self-Devotion
• [06:10] Defining Strength + Health on Your Terms
• [07:12] Habits That Actually Support You
• [10:11] Prioritizing Yourself
• [11:14] Making Fitness Enjoyable
• [15:26] Self-Devotion > Self-Discipline

Ready to break the rules and feel amazing in your body again? Let this episode be your permission slip.

Want to go deeper? Check out Hilary’s Self Devotion program to turn this mindset into your everyday way of being. [https://hilarysilver.com/self-devoted/]

Hot flashes aren’t the problem—gaslighting is.

Hilary takes aim at the menopause conversation and asks the question no one else is asking: What if this isn’t your downfall, but your awakening?

In this episode, she breaks down the cultural scripts, conditioning, and quiet misogyny wrapped in every “crazy menopausal woman” meme, and replaces it with truth, clarity, and power.

This is not a hormonal crisis. This is your moment.

Episode Highlights:

• Why blaming hormones keeps women stuck
• The myth of the “crazy menopausal woman”
• What really causes women to question their marriage at midlife
• Why losing your cool isn’t the issue—losing yourself is
• The gift of finally putting yourself first (and meaning it)

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] Challenging the Menopause Narrative
• [01:05] The Gaslighting of Women's Health
• [02:10] Menopause and Divorce: What’s Really Going On
• [05:05] Midlife Awakening vs. Hormonal Blame
• [07:04] Cultural Conditioning and Losing Ourselves
• [08:06] Why the “Crazy Menopausal Woman” Trope is So Dangerous
• [11:11] Menopause Isn’t a Crisis—It’s a Revolution
• [12:32] Reclaiming Your Power in Midlife

💥 Midlife isn’t the end. It’s the turning point. Ready to stop tolerating and start owning it? Hit play.

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🚀 What’s been your biggest midlife realization? Drop it in the comments!