Stop being weak. The beauty, weight loss, fashion, and entertainment industries inundate us with images of unattainable perfection, leaving many feeling inadequate—too tall, short, fat, thin, or unsuccessful. It’s easy to fall into the trap of wishing for better circumstances: wealthier parents, a better education, or a more favorable start in life. But wishing changes nothing; the past cannot be undone. While mistakes, poor choices, and misfortunes may weigh us down, the key is to stop dwelling on what lies behind us and channel that energy into moving forward.

To progress, we must act as our own first responder, rescuing ourselves. No external savior will arrive to lift us out of difficulty; we must create our own rescue plan. The first step is to free ourselves from the burdens of the past. Painful or unjust experiences may linger, but we can minimize their impact by mentally compartmentalizing them. Imagine sealing those memories in a transparent, impenetrable bulb, where they are visible, but cannot escape to contaminate today. Recalling the past but without allowing worry to dominate is crucial for breaking free.

Once liberated from the mental burdens of yesterday, we shift focus to today and our available strengths. The most valuable asset we possess is time. How we spend it determines our ability to create a better future. Viewing time as an asset opens the door to productive action. The process begins by crafting a clear vision of the life we want to lead. This vision should guide the creation of specific, realistic goals, broken down into actionable steps.

Every moment spent on these steps builds momentum, moving us closer to our desired future. By focusing solely on what is within our control today and dedicating our time wisely, we can transform our lives. This self-rescue costs nothing but a small fraction of our greatest resource—time.

The journey forward requires discipline, but it offers the freedom to shape a meaningful, empowered existence. Rather than wishing for different circumstances or dwelling on the past, taking intentional steps toward progress ensures growth and success. In reclaiming control over our time and actions, we break free from excuses, self-pity, limitations and create a pathway to fulfillment.

Some MCs are idiots. At a sports related event filled with free-flowing drinks, idle chatter, and hundreds of attendees, the presentations quickly unraveled into a comedy of errors. The MC, tasked with introducing the main speaker, faced an uninterested crowd more captivated by their own conversations than the proceedings on stage. In a desperate bid for attention, the MC resorted to shooshing the audience, first gently, then with exaggerated, strident authority, as if addressing unruly schoolchildren. This tactic only drew ridicule, amplifying the noise and making the atmosphere even more chaotic.

When the main speaker took the stage, the MC’s antics continued, with unhelpful interjections and more shooshing during the speech. Unfortunately, the speaker lacked the skills to command attention, their words drowned out by the persistent hum of more self interested conversations. Subsequent speakers fared no better, victims of an audience too engrossed in their own chatter to care. Blame could be assigned to the unengaging speakers, the audience's rudeness, or both, but such analysis is too generous. The free flow of alcohol played a pivotal role; once the drinks started, the audience's focus shifted entirely to themsleves.

In Japan, a different approach to similar events often yields better results. Alcohol is withheld until speeches are over, incentivizing discipline with the promise of a toast. While this method isn’t foolproof, it significantly reduces distractions, fostering a more attentive audience. However, the Japanese system also has its flaws, such as lengthy, monotonous speeches that can test even the most patient and thirsty listeners.

For speakers facing such booze heightened challenges, the key lies in preparation and technique. Successful presentations start with a powerful, concise message that engages the audience immediately. Asking interactive, thought-provoking questions tailored to the event’s theme—like rallying sports fans to cheer for their favorite teams—can channel the audience’s energy positively. Following this, a pause to capitalize on the crowd’s silence ensures full attention for an impactful opening. Maintaining interest requires a blend of storytelling, vivid imagery, and dynamic energy.

When addressing a noisy or distracted audience, a speaker must project energy levels exceeding the crowd’s, creating a commanding presence akin to a rock star’s performance. Amplified gestures, a powerful voice, and strategic engagement can cut through distractions. In contrast, uninspiring speeches and ineffective MCs, as in this event, doom speakers to be snubbed, ignored and completely forgotten. With proper techniques, a speaker can transform crowd chaos into an opportunity, standing out as a rare and skilled bolshie crowd wrangler.

Salespeople leave money on the table. The sales process doesn’t end with a signed agreement; delivery is the critical next step. Whether immediate or delayed, it’s often handled by someone other than the salesperson—usually agents, contractors, or back-office staff. Salespeople, meanwhile, quickly shift focus on new deals, leaving follow-up with buyers neglected. This is a common mistake that can cost opportunities and relationships. Instead, it is vital to schedule post-delivery meetings with buyers to ensure satisfaction, address issues, and explore further opportunities.

A post-delivery meeting allows salespeople to confirm the product or service met expectations, ensuring any issues are promptly resolved. In Japan, for instance, quick fixes are essential due to tight supply chain imperatives and high customer expectations. By being proactive, salespeople can prevent disruptions to the buyer’s operations and strengthen trust. Additionally, feedback reveals whether buyers remain sold on the product, setting the stage for reorders, cross-selling, or upselling.

Clients often test vendors with small initial orders before committing to larger ones. Passing these tests consistently builds confidence and increases order sizes over time. Moreover, follow-up meetings can uncover additional needs that weren’t disclosed initially. Market changes or deeper trust can reveal new opportunities. Salespeople who only prioritize new prospects risk missing these growth chances with existing clients.

A structured approach aids in maximizing account development. Using a matrix, salespeople list clients vertically and products horizontally, marking current supplies, high-probability opportunities, and less-likely possibilities. This visual tool often highlights overlooked opportunities. Expanding relationships requires the courage to ask simple questions like, “Are there other needs we could help with?” or seeking referrals by narrowing the context, e.g., “In your golf group, is there someone who might benefit from our solution?”

Make sure it is a focused referral request. Broad questions like “Do you know anyone?” overwhelm buyers, while specific contexts help them visualize candidates. For example, asking about their golf group narrows down candidates, yielding better responses.

Sales success isn’t just about closing new deals. It’s about leveraging existing relationships for deeper connections, additional sales, and high-quality referrals. Action steps include scheduling time with the buyer post-delivery, resolving issues swiftly, preparing a product-client matrix for further opportunities, and refining referral requests to maximize impact. Staying engaged post-sale transforms satisfied clients into repeat customers and valuable advocates.