What happens when you stop bracing at your own reflection—and start seeing yourself clearly for the first time?

In this solo, deeply personal follow-up to Episode 316, I share what actually happened when I joined The Self-Portrait Challenge with visibility mentor Lisa Haukom — and what it cracked open for me.

What began as an experiment in iPhone photography quickly became a process of unpacking why I’ve spent most of my life flinching at photos of myself to softening old stories, letting go of performance, and reclaiming how I see myself now.

You’ll hear me share:

• The quiet grief of no longer recognizing your body
• The power of documenting (not performing)
• How representation—especially as an Asian women—isn’t just about visibility, but self-trust
• Why learning to love photos of yourself isn’t about vanity—it’s about recognition

Whether you're in your thirties, forties, fifties or beyond, if you’ve ever felt invisible in your own life or body, this one’s for you.

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If you’ve ever avoided being in photos…

If you’ve ever hated how you looked in one (or all) of them…

If you’ve ever wished you could just feel good being seen — this episode is for you.

In this episode, I’m joined by the woman currently teaching me how to actually see myself in photos — not with filters, angles, or forced confidence, but with presence.

Lisa Haukom is a visibility expert, creative director, and the founder of The Photo Club Method. She helps women shift the way they see themselves — in photos, yes, but also in life. Because hiding from the camera? Usually means we’re hiding from ourselves, too.

We talk about:

• Why we flinch when we see ourselves on camera
• What it really means to reclaim your image (without changing your body)
• How learning to take self-portraits (not selfies) is actually a tool for self-trust
• And what happens when we stop disappearing from our own lives

This conversation cracked something open in me — and I think it might for you too.

Because you don’t need to change anything.

You just need to see what’s already there.

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You know what to do. You’ve tried to do it. But for some reason, it just never sticks—and you’re left wondering if you just lack willpower.

This episode is your reminder that you’re not flaky, uncommitted, or “bad at routines.” You’re just making decisions from the wrong place.

We’re unpacking the real root of burnout and inconsistency: decision fatigue, external pressure, and ignoring your inner guidance. If you’ve ever said “I know what to do, I just don’t do it,” this one’s for you.

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