Why do people go back to their exes, even in toxic or abusive relationships? In this episode we break it all down. From the science of trauma bonds, which can create addiction-like patterns in the brain, making it incredibly challenging to walk away to fear of being alone and more. This episode is a safe space to release shame, gain understanding, and provide support for listeners who may be grappling with the decision to leave. We also offer insights for friends and family on how to be supportive without judgment, creating a compassionate path forward for everyone involved.

Key Points Covered:

• Patterned Behavior and Generational Cycles
• Trauma Bonds and Toxic Relationships
• Personal Story of an Abusive Relationship
• Cultural and Generational Influence
• Cycle of Abuse and Difficulty in Leaving
• Breaking the Cycle of Trauma Bonds
• Strategies for Overcoming Toxic Relationship Patterns
• Living Beyond the Relationship

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Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
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Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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Welcome back to the Relationship Recovery Podcast! In today’s episode, we’re diving into questions from our listeners on attachment styles and healing post-breakup. We explore the idea that sometimes, even in relationships, we can feel alone—and how taking time to truly be on our own can be a crucial step toward healing. If you’ve recently gone through a breakup or are curious about attachment styles and independence, this episode is for you. We discuss why time alone is not just okay—it’s actually a powerful part of recovery. So let’s get into your questions and uncover some strategies to find strength, peace, and growth after heartbreak.

Key Points Covered:

• Understanding Attachment Styles: We’ll explore secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles and how they impact your relationships.
• Identifying Your Own Style: Practical tips to help you recognize your attachment style and understand how it shapes your feelings and actions.
• Managing Different Styles in Relationships: Tools for creating understanding and open communication when attachment styles differ.
• Working Toward a Secure Attachment: Strategies for building a more grounded and confident approach to relationships.
• Domestic Violence and Attachment: The impact of domestic violence on attachment and support resources, including the Dear Utah movement and Fight Against Domestic Violence.
• Moving Forward with Confidence: Encouragement and practical steps to help you create healthier, more fulfilling connections.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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Ever wonder why you’re drawn to certain relationship dynamics or how to move beyond patterns that just aren’t working? This episode is all about the powerful impact of attachment styles—your unique relationship blueprint that can shape everything from friendships to romantic connections. By understanding your attachment style, you can unlock insights to foster stronger, healthier bonds. Let’s explore this transformative path together!

Key Points Covered:

• Attachment Style Basics: We break down the four attachment styles—secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant—explaining how each one influences your approach to relationships.
• Why It Matters: Discover why these patterns often stem from early experiences and how they might be affecting your current relationships.
• Moving Toward Secure Attachment: We’ll share practical strategies to shift towards a more secure attachment style, building the foundation for deeper, more fulfilling connections.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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In this episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast, Kierstyn and Tiffany delve into the subconscious patterns that often trap individuals in toxic relationships.

They identify four key patterns:

1. Low self-esteem, where individuals may accept mistreatment due to undervaluing themselves
2. Unhealthy relationship dynamics learned in childhood, which make toxic behavior feel familiar
3. Hope and denial, where individuals hold on to the hope of change or deny the severity of the issues
4. Fear of being alone, which can prevent individuals from leaving harmful relationships.

By shedding light on these patterns, Kierstyn and Tiffany aim to empower listeners to break free from toxic relationships and foster healthier connections.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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Sometimes, moving on from a breakup feels impossible. But guess what? You're stronger than you think! In this special bonus episode, we're diving into more of our very own "Breakup Book of Affirmations" to share our favorite words of encouragement. These affirmations are specifically designed to help you heal that broken heart, let go, and step boldly into your bright future. Let's find the perfect affirmations to empower your journey!

Key Points Covered:
Why affirmations matter: We'll discuss how affirmations can rewire your brain for positive thinking and self-love after a breakup.
Powerful picks: We'll read out some of our most impactful affirmations from the book, explaining why each one is so valuable during the healing process.
How to use them: We'll offer insider tips on how to make affirmations a powerful part of your daily routine.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:
Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:
https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:
https://thebreakuprecovery.com/

Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

National Domestic Violence Hotline:
800-799-7233
https://www.thehotline.org/

Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:
1-800-897-LINK (5465)
https://udvc.org/

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• Why affirmations matter: We'll discuss how affirmations can rewire your brain for positive thinking and self-love after a breakup.
• Powerful picks: We'll read out some of our most impactful affirmations from the book, explaining why each one is so valuable during the healing process.
• How to use them: We'll offer insider tips on how to make affirmations a powerful part of your daily routine.