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As you’re learning about the importance of feeling your emotions and allowing that in yourself - you’d like to be witnessed in your emotional depths. But what to do when your partner or loved one is unwilling or unable to listen to your emotional experience? When they shut down, check out, or belittle what you share? They might support you in doing the work - but “do you have to talk so much about it with them”?

It hurts when your partner is unwilling to meet you and touches a core wound that had you cover up and manage your emotions to begin with. So how do you continue doing the inner work and honor your desire to share your feelings with them - when they don’t want to?

In this episode, we look at your half, your partner's half, and three things to focus on when a partner or loved one gets stressed when you share your emotions.

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Ep164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachment
Ep138: How to create emotional intimacy (when it hasn’t worked before)
Ep129: 4 signs of an immature relationship with emotions
Ep161: “Am I tolerating someone’s bad behavior by working on myself?”
Ep159: What about the other person’s half?

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Understanding how the attachment style that you developed growing up, is impacting your relationships today, can be very helpful. But as the use of attachment theory in the relationship or dating scene is becoming more popular - so are the misconceptions and conceptualizations that pull us away from the actual experience. Meaning - we are theorizing a very embodied process…

In this episode, I want to bring you into your body and nervous system to understand the response behind what’s commonly called anxious or avoidant attachment. So we can bring more compassion to BOTH responses and embodied ways of loving on them. And I hope to bust some misconceptions about the holy grail of secure attachment.

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Ep163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itself
Ep162: 3 ways your trauma shows up in relationships
Ep153: Understanding and practicing honesty
Ep147: Holding goodness in relationships

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When you live your life from a conditioned idea of right or wrong - the mind judges what’s happening as good or bad, and you react compulsively to it. On top of that, the ego mind is convinced it’s in charge of keeping us safe, figuring things out, and finding the right path to our healed, amazing life and relationship.

What gets lost in this exhausting approach is a sense of trust. You don’t trust yourself to move through what’s painful, your partner to show up for you or do what they said they would, or life to carry you where you need to go. With this sense of internal mistrust, you create more of the experience you least desire.

In this episode, I talk about trust and how to activate it to carry you through ups and downs in relationships and life. To feel the ocean of trust underneath the waves of everyday life.

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Ep84: The hidden structure behind mistrusting others
Ep66: Do you trust yourself to get the shifts you want?
Ep68: Affirmations of trust and ease
Ep154: Turn your relationship pain into your spiritual journey
Ep110: Making suffering your ally

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Most of us have trauma. Unprocessed emotional wounds. They show up in our relationships to BE processed, but they will look like a big problem unless we’re aware and have the tools to meet them. I truly believe that this is important work of our generation and lifetime.

That’s why, in this episode, I talk about three common ways that trauma shows up in our relationships, and how we can navigate them in a way that heals instead of re-enforcing the trauma, and all the beliefs and habits that come with it.

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Ep142: How your reactive patterns keep you from becoming YOU
Ep161: “Am I tolerating someone’s bad behavior by working on myself?”
Ep137: 3 comforting truths about your relationship reactions
Ep134: 3 things to do when triggered in relationships

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Have you ever-so-nicely asked for what you want in a relationship - just to be met with their wounded reaction and dismissal? Maybe you start to wonder if it’s too much to ask for, and if you shouldn’t need it to begin with. A typical is-it-me-or-them situation.

In this week’s episode, I answer a question from a listener who easily feels abandoned. The relationship she is in easily inflames that wound, and she wonders, “What is valid to be upset about?”

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Check out these related episodes:
Ep130: Is it me or them?
Ep159: What about the other person’s half?
Ep157; When to stay and when to go
Ep153: Understanding and practicing honesty

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Being embodied is inhabiting all of your being with your attention and awareness. It’s feeling and experiencing yourself. Most of us have been conditioned to relate to ourselves and the world through our mind’s labeling and storytelling. Moving your attention into your body and your felt sense will shift the relationship to yourself and others.

In this week’s episode, we explore WHY you would want to become embodied, HOW to do it, and the initial uncomfortableness you’ll likely experience.

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Check out these related episodes:
Ep48: 3 reasons to prioritize embodiment
Ep98: Two common lies about feeling emotions
Ep129: 4 signs of an immature relationship to your emotions
Ep152: From overcomplicating inner work to embodied shifts

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So what about your partner? Are you the only one who should do all the healing and changing - or could you expect a little willingness to work on the relationship from them?

In this week’s episode, I take you through three of my guiding principles for relationships. So you can navigate what to expect from a partner and create the relationship you long for.

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Ep157: When to stay and when to go
Ep153: Understanding and practicing honesty
Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desires

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While gaslighting refers to an intentionally manipulative behavior to have you question your experience or even sanity, it’s often thrown around these days to point out the dismissal of our emotional experience. Which is an unconscious epidemic alive in most of us.

If you’ve ever been made wrong for what you’re feeling, felt like too much, or been told that you’re overreacting, this episode is for you. It explores how to alchemize feeling dismissed and not heard, so you can stand for what you feel and want.

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Check out these related episodes:
Ep157: When to stay and when to go
Ep143: How to get out of questioning yourself around others
Ep141: How to meet your emotional needs
Ep142: How your reactive patterns keep you from being YOU

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