My guest today is Ashleigh who came to a workshop back in 2018 – and she’s been sober ever since!

In this episode:-

• Ashleigh realised that there could be a problem when she found herself making lots of rules and then promptly breaking them
• So if you find yourself thinking I'm not going to drink during the week or I'm only going to drink at weekends then perhaps it’s time to reflect on what’s going on
• If you keep making rules and keep breaking them, then just recognize that you do have an issue and you need to make some changes.
• You heard Ashley say that by the end of the workshop she had gained enough new information to realise it would be pointless to try to moderate.
• She had to go all in.
• She knew that she'd crossed thatline into dependence, and that there could be no going back, only going forwards.
• Ashleigh felt confident as she was leaving the workshop. She had her toolkit. She had some new information. She had some new sober buddies.
•  She knew she could do this.
• At the beginning of her journey, she decided to treat herself to all the sweet things that she wanted. She drank hot chocolate. She often had coffee and cake, and she decided to just focus on not drinking which is very sensible.
• At Tribe Sober we say that we can only chase one bunny at a time – so at the beginning we need to focus on the not drinking bunny.
• The dieting bunny can wait a bit – our metabolism will work more effectively when we quit drinking so you might not even need to diet!
• In Ashleighs case she weaned herself off the sugar, off the sweet things, and she's lost an amazing 10 kgs.
• She talked about the many benefits of sobriety and these days she is much less anxious and more confident. So it's been a huge win on every front.
• For Ashley, the workshop was really a turning point in her life, so at the age of just 40, she's got a whole different future ahead.
•  In fact, she fully recognized that if she hadn't taken this step, she could have found herself in a very difficult place in five years time. As she said, it's a slippery slope or indeed a slippery fish, as I think she called it.
• Many of us who’ve quit drinking can look back and realise that taking that hard decision to quit was a catalyst for changing our lives and building a happier and healthier future.

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My guest today is Nigel Jones who is making his third appearance on the Tribe Sober podcast – our conversations always get plenty of downloads and Nigel is a mine of valuable information!

In this episode:-

• Nigel’s secret to success was becoming a non-drinker from Day One — rather than a drinker trying to quit.
• He used the metaphor of a mountain — put yourself on top from the start rather than struggling to climb it.
• It's our beliefs and values shape our identity, then it’s our identity that drives our intentions and actions.
• We need to flip our beliefs: once we truly believe that alcohol is a poison, then everything changes.
• Nigel is a qualified Hypnotherapist and he came up with a great analogy to explain how hypnotherapy works
• Our conscious mind is often resistant and has “bouncers” to prevent new information from entering our subconscious
• Hypnotherapy can remove those bouncers allowing better access to the subconscious
• Drinking creates a program in our subconscious and hypnotherapy helps us to replace it with healthier programs.
• Nigel is also qualified in NLP - Neuro Linguistic Programming which can help us to rewire our beliefs
• We both agreed that Drinking is deeply tribal — Nigel calls the Alcohol Drinking Tribe the ADT
• People protect their ADT which is why we often encounter resistance when we announce that we have quit drinking
• When we leave the ADT, we need to find another tribe quickly so that we don’t feel isolated or judged
• In fact Connection is the opposite of addiction and
• That’s why we set up Tribe Sober which offers connection, vulnerability, and authenticity

– so if you’re ready to swop your drinking tribe for Tribe Sober then click here to check out our membership program

• Nigel shares his own inspiring story called Walking Back to Happiness
• He’s also a certified hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner and life coach.
• He offers 1:1 and group coaching, for habit change, phobias, and anxiety.

His website and social media is 9kmby9am.com

Nigel's previous podcast interviews with Tribe Sober are here and here

Episode Sponsor

This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program. If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today - here is the link.

Help us to spread the word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help. Please subscribe and share.

We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

You can join our private Facebook group HERE

• PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device)

  1. Open the Podcasts app. EASY.
  2. Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Recover Like a Mother) into the search field.
  3. Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes).
  4. Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews.
  5. Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).