Not every episode needs to be loud to hit hard.

This week, I’m exploring the very first kink I ever recognized in myself, masochism. What draws someone to enjoy pain? Is it something to worry about, or something worth understanding on a deeper level? I’m breaking down common misconceptions, unpacking the psychology, and tackling the big question: is masochism a mental disorder, or just another way humans seek sensation, control, and connection?

It’s a slower, more thoughtful vibe, but worth every second.

Articles referenced: Definition How to Tell if I have Self Defeating Personality Disorder What is a Masochist.

In this episode of Unmasking Kink, we delve into the tension between authenticity and acceptability in the kink community. Inspired by insightful posts from FetLife users Tittan and Vampyre, we explore the implications of sanitizing BDSM for mainstream comfort.

We'll discuss personal boundaries, the importance of consent, and the value of embracing the raw, unfiltered aspects of kink.

Whether you're a seasoned player or new to the scene, this conversation invites you to reflect on the true essence of kink and the importance of preserving its integrity.

Featured FetLife Writers:

• Tittan – “When Kink Gets Tamed: The Dangers of Vanilla-fying BDSM”

• Vampyre – “BDSM Isn’t About Making Outsiders Comfortable”

You’ve probably asked yourself:

“Am I kinky? Or just curious?” “Does liking [insert thing here] make me into kink?” “Do I have to pick a side?”

The answers? Could be both, possibly, and absolutely not.

In this episode, I give my take on what it means to be kinky or vanilla, or somewhere in between. We’ll talk about how those labels aren’t fixed, what actually “counts” as kink, and how to start exploring.

Topics include:

• The difference between kink and vanilla

• Why “what counts as kink” depends on who you ask

• Where to look for real, respectful information

Whether you're seasoned, curious, or still figuring it out—you belong here.

Resources mentioned:

• FetLife: https://fetlife.com

• Chief’s Sex Menu: https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sex-menu

• Shibari on YouTube (my favorite video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HTnFlfm04uk

• Local classes and munches: Search via FetLife or reach out to event organizers

More: https://unmaskingkink.com