Parents, what scoreboard are you using to measure your teen's success—and is it hurting more than helping? And, what scoreboard are they using to measure success—and is it creating momentum or stress in their lives?

Do you ever wonder if your teen is chasing results just to keep you happy—or worse, to feel worthy? We’re digging into that "silent contract" so many families carry without talking about it. You’ll walk away with tools to separate your teen’s performance from their identity, and strategies for helping them craft a scoreboard that reflects who they really want to become.

Find the Stuff You Want!

00:00 Defining Success: Momentum vs. Stress

01:59 Reflective Questions for Parents

06:01 Understanding Silent Contracts in Success

09:59 The Importance of Identity in Success

13:54 Different Scoreboards: Aligning Definitions of Success

19:59 Opportunities in Meltdowns: Growth Mindset

23:56 The Scoreboard Course--Creating Your Own Scoreboard for Success

The Takeaways!

-The way we define success can create momentum or stress.

-Reflective questions help parents understand their own definition of success.

-"Silent contracts" can exist in relationships without being discussed.

-It's crucial for teens to separate their identity from their performance.

-Parents should encourage their kids to define success for themselves.

-Meltdowns can be opportunities for growth and understanding.

-Creating a personal scoreboard helps measure success in a meaningful way.

-Chasing results can lead to dissatisfaction and a never-ending pursuit.

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-Nate & Steve