In this episode, Franny continues last episode’s conversation about keeping it real when it comes to dating. She breaks down the three levels of authenticity: knowing yourself, owning your true personality, and making sure your actions line up with who you really are. Franny also points out that being genuine isn’t just key to finding the right partner—it’s also how you can experience more joy and fulfillment in your life.

Key points:

- Dating norms have shifted, and the old ways of thinking no longer match the complexity of modern relationships.

- Authenticity is essential to finding compatibility with a partner. When you know and embrace who you are, it opens the door for real connections built on shared values and perspectives.

- Authenticity has levels and is the key to a happier life

- Self-compassion is the foundation for self-love and acceptance, which are the building blocks of healthy relationships.

Timestamps

00:00 - Introduction and Recap

06:44 - How Dating Norms and Societal Expectations Have Evolved

17:19 - The Three Levels of Authenticity

23:55 - Finding Compatibility by Being Real

25:17 - The Power of Being Your True Self

26:40 - Self-Compassion and Self-Love in Relationships

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Credits:

Edited and produced by Bex Carlos

Cover art photography by Matt Romasanta

Hosted and cover art designed by Francesca Hogi