In this episode, we confront a critical yet often overlooked aspect of domestic violence: coercive control. As a form of abuse that manipulates an individual's freedom and decision-making, coercive control includes behaviors like monitoring spending, isolating victims from social interactions, and controlling personal movements. Originating from Dr. Evan Stark’s work on power dynamics in relationships, this form of abuse has recently gained legal recognition.

We're highlighting how states like California are pioneering efforts to address coercive control in family courts, facing significant challenges and inconsistencies. Despite laws criminalizing coercive control in about ten states, its practical impact on family court decisions is still evolving. We'll discuss California's rebuttable presumption against granting custody to proven abusers and the broader implications of DV in custody battles.

Join us as we shed light on the complexities and shortcomings of the current family court system, advocate for better integration of coercive control legislation, and provide strategies for those affected by domestic violence to navigate these tumultuous legal waters.

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Coercive control's impact limited in family courts.

07:06 Coercive control broader than existing abuse categories.

09:57 Ten states criminalize coercive control as abuse.

12:08 Domestic violence impacts custody and visitation decisions.

18:02 Coercive control convictions vary, complicating criminal process.

19:06 Connecticut specifies coercive control; family court varies.

24:20 Application of law differs; judge discretion critical.

27:33 Judges' roles vary; no one-size-fits-all solution.

31:08 October focus: Domestic violence awareness; upcoming topics.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

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This week, in recognition of October as Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we're dedicating the next few episodes to all the brave survivors of domestic violence. We take a look into the challenges of presenting domestic violence cases in family court and their impact on the overall outcome in custody, visitation, and divorce proceedings. We'll explore why family courts often struggle with addressing abuse allegations, the varying levels of abuse and their implications, and most importantly, how you can strategically present a compelling case even in the face of bias and disbelief.

Stay tuned as we unravel the intricacies of making domestic violence a pivotal element in your family court battle. And don't miss our special offer—a chance for listeners to win a free 30-minute strategy session on domestic violence cases. So sit back, take notes, and let's kick ass in Family Court Abuse cases!

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Family court improves, but domestic violence persists.

04:31 Disconnect between DV advocates and mental health experts.

09:17 Abuse allegations might not impact divorce outcomes.

12:09 Emotional abuse often deprioritized in custody cases.

14:47 Understand judge's views and background on DV.

20:30 Present your case creatively; family court varies.

23:55 Find judge rotation: consult a local lawyer.

25:59 Podcast on domestic violence, family court cases.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Today we're exploring a crucial topic: how to avoid wasting your life savings on legal fees. We'll discuss strategic approaches to settling disputes independently, performing cost-benefit analyses, and leveraging tools to make informed decisions. We'll also discuss alternative legal resolutions like negotiations and mediation, the importance of knowing your judge, and how to document effectively. By the end of this episode, you'll have practical advice on how to manage your case—whether you're working with an attorney, going pro se, or consulting a strategist like me—all while hanging on to your nest egg. Plus, you'll learn tips on staying organized and prepared, ensuring you don’t spend more than necessary on your legal journey.

Don't take on the “herd mentality” by believing that you must spend tens of thousands on legal fees thinking that you'll increase your chances of getting a specific outcome. It is responsibility to do what you can to ensure that yiur emakong informed decision. And a great starting point is doing your legwork on your own. You can't rely on anyone to make informed decisions for you, that's counterintuitive. Take control of every apect of your case NOW!

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 You control decisions throughout your case.

04:40 Explore options; overspending leads to ongoing costs.

07:42 Explore limited-scope attorneys for insightful court strategies.

12:16 Proper documentation is crucial for legal success.

16:24 Create a personalized, workable plan for yourself.

17:42 Personalized legal strategy saves clients significant costs.

22:46 Negotiate retainer fees, ask questions, understand costs.

24:25 Inadequate research ruins unique family court cases.

29:30 Court prefers case settlement; mediation encouraged.

30:52 Prepare people for mediation and strategy sessions.

34:38 Good faith attempts to settle earn favor.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Do you think creating a parenting plan is an easy, straightforward process? Or that even having one is an absolute MUST? Well, think again. Discover how overly lengthy and generic parenting plans can do more harm than good, especially in high-conflict situations, in this week's discussion.

This episode dives into the saturated and often oversimplified world of parenting plans in Family Court. Join me, Tracey Bee, as I break down the complexities of crafting a helfpul plan that genuinely minimizes future conflicts and supports the best interests of your child. Learn why personalized strategies far outweigh "one-size-fits-all" solutions and how strategic planning can prevent courtroom battles.

What You'll Learn:

The misconception that parenting plans should be extensive and uniform. Why high-conflict cases should avoid lengthy, reformatted parenting plans to minimize issues and non-compliance.

The importance of strategizing for the long term, beyond just resolving immediate conflicts. Key elements every parenting plan should address, including custody arrangements, visitation schedules, and communication rules and how they should be tailored for each family member.

The pitfalls of using generic templates and the need for personalization based on unique family dynamics. The role of mediators, mental health professionals, and other experts in drafting effective parenting plans and how they have different agendas.

Why judicial input is essential in finalizing parenting plans to avoid future court interventions. How certain clauses like morality and right of first refusal can complicate enforcement and cause unnecessry controversy. *Actionable advice on revising parenting plans as children grow and their needs change.

Parenting plans are far more than just a legal document—they're a blueprint for co-parenting effectively and should be well thought out and prepared. This episode sheds light on why a collaborative approach and professional assistance are crucial for creating am effective parenting plan.

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Customized parenting plans need discussion and attorney.

03:20 Judges often intervene in parenting plans disputes.

08:41 Proposed parenting plans exist, professional assistance recommended.

09:57 Seek professional advice when finalizing parenting plans.

13:26 High-conflict co-parenting often leads to court disputes.

19:26 Parenting plans covers various schedules, guidelines, and responsibilities.

24:38 Parenting plan provisions and conflicts unenforceable by judges.

28:26 Right of First refusal: notify co-parent before others to take of the child.

31:10 Avoid frequent court visits for parenting plan viola

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Think you know how Family Courts operate when it comes to enforcing, punishing or even taking action when there is uncooperation between the parties? Think again. In this eye-opening episode, I pull back the curtain to reveal the strategic nuances and intricate challenges that litigants face when navigating family court, especially when dealing with Contempt motions. Whether you're self-represented or working with an attorney, my goal is to equip you with practical, insightful strategies to better prepare for situations such as violations of court order.

What You'll Learn:

• Why labeling something as "contempt" can backfire and learn the appropriate legal language to use instead.
• How specifying realistic and proportionate consequences for violations can influence the outcome of your case.
• To understand why judges often avoid micromanaging parental decisions and the potential pitfalls of frequent motion filings.
• Why the adage "Just because you could doesn't mean you should" is crucial in family court filings.
• To unearth smarter ways to document minor infractions without constantly filing motions or involving the police.
• To pinpoint when it's truly necessary to file for contempt and when to let minor issues slide for the sake of your case.
• To set realistic expectations and gain insights into setting realistic expectations and the importance of understanding the complexities of the family court system.
• To leverage Professional Help by discovering the roles of parenting coaches, coordinators, and therapists for managing co-parenting conflicts outside of court.
• Personal Anecdotes: Listen to a relatable story about pre-K decisions and how they can unexpectedly impact your case, even when intentions are good.

This episode is packed with actionable advice designed to help you learn to make more informed decisions when it comes to reacting to the other party’s actions. Avoid common pitfalls, approach your case with a clear strategy, and ensure you’re fully prepared for the complexities ahead.

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Don't make legal conclusions; that's the judge's role.

06:53 No contempt if criteria aren't clearly met.

08:00 Decide if court action is really worthwhile.

14:10 Stop repeating actions expecting different results.

15:31 Choose contempt cases wisely; avoid judge annoyance.

17:56 Violating probation shows contempt, unlike parenting agreements.

23:44 Seek harsher judgments; filings may impact trial.

27:00 Judge ordered child stays with available parent.

30:41 Specify consequences for violating parenting plans carefully.

34:14 Schedule session for consent assistance with documents.

35:28 "Just because you can

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

Welcome back, listeners! Did you miss your favorite family court strategist? Well, season two kicks off with a bang as we dive into an often misunderstood but critically important topic: perjury in family court.

In this enlightening episode, I pull back the curtain to uncover the strategic implications and often underwhelming enforcement of perjury within family court proceedings. Whether you’re a self-represented litigant or just seeking to understand the convoluted family court system better, this episode provides invaluable insights on leveraging perjury accusations effectively in your case.

What You'll Learn:

• The definition of perjury and its specific relevance in family courts.
• The rare enforcement and prosecution of perjury in family court cases.
• Strategic uses of pointing out perjury even when punishment is unlikely.
• Real-life examples of how perjury can discredit a witness during trial.
• How family court judges typically react to allegations of perjury.
• The critical importance of focusing on your own truths rather than the other party’s lies.
• Practical advice for self-represented litigants on navigating false allegations.

Family court is rarely black and white, and the topic of perjury is no exception. Tune in to learn how you can strategically handle perjury in your case to strengthen your position and reduce the credibility of the opposing party.

New Segment: Tracey-ism of the Week “Focus on your truths and not on their lies.” Discover why spending your energy on presenting your own factual case is far more effective than obsessing over the other party's deception.

Thank you for joining us on this educational journey into the labyrinth of family court strategy. Are you interested in becoming a guest on our show or have a topic suggestion? Send an email with subject “Podcast Guest”

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📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Perjury topic led to continuous content evolution.

03:14 Perjury involves lying under oath, rarely punished.

06:47 Perjury doubt questions witness credibility during trial.

12:30 Prosecuting crime is challenging, especially without attorney.

15:50 Perjury accusations often distract from strong arguments.

17:20 Focus on key child custody factors over perjury.

20:44 Focus on your truths, not others' lies.

24:28 Seeking self-represented divorce/custody case stories, USA.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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**Think Family Court is Simple? Think Again. A Reality Check for Dads Navigating Custody Battles.**
Welcome back to another eye-opening episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, with your host Family Court Strategist™ Tracey Bee. If you've ever thought family court was straightforward or designed with the kids' best interests at heart, it's time to reassess those assumptions. This episode dives deep into the strategies dads need to successfully navigate family court, especially when fighting for custody and fair child support.

**Episode Highlights:**
- **The 50/50 Custody Myth:** Learn why some states lean towards a 50/50 custody arrangement for never-married parents, and what this really means.
- **Standard Visitation Schedules:** Understand the typical visitation schedules in your jurisdiction and why getting more time might require taking your case to trial.
- **Types of Visitation:** Discover the different types of visitation options, from supervised and therapeutic to overnight and long-distance visits.
- **Strategy Over Advice:** Why developing a personal strategy is crucial, and how blindly following others' advice could backfire on you big time.
- **Fluid Nature of Family Court:** Uncover the unpredictable scenarios you might face and why having a game plan is your best asset.
- **Joint Legal Custody:** Even if 50/50 physical custody isn't attainable, why joint legal custody is worth fighting for.
- **Avoiding Common Pitfalls:** Learn why seeking joint custody to avoid child support is a bad idea, and hear success and failure stories of fathers post-joint custody.
- **Leveraging Child Support:** Tracey reveals her personal experience with child support negotiations and the importance of finding leverage to use to your advantage.
- **Research and Preparation:** Why it's vital to educate yourself on child support laws and custody procedures rather than relying solely on lawyers.
- **The Father's Role:** Tracey emphasizes the unique and irreplaceable role fathers play in their children's lives, urging dads to fight for meaningful relationships despite legal complexities.


Family court is far from black and white; it’s filled with nuances and challenges that require thoughtful strategies. This episode is packed with actionable insights and heartfelt advice aimed at helping dads position themselves advantageously in their custody battles.

Stay tuned for next week's episode where we delve even deeper into practical tips and real-life stories from dads who’ve navigated the family court system.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Do you think Family Court can simply restrict the non-custodial parent's access to their child under any circumstances? Think again. Discover the real nuances behind parental visitation or access and what courts consider before making those tough decisions.

In this episode, Tracey Bee provides a crucial look into Family Court cases involving high-conflict situations around the issue of visitation or access of non-custodial parents with their children. She debunks the myths many have about what courts can or will do when it comes to limiting or denying access to a non-custodial parent, even in the light of abuse, substance issues, or historical abandonment.

What Will be Discussed:
- The Family Court's underlying objectives and principles regarding parental visitation or access.
- How courts view some constitutional rights of non-custodial parents when it comes to visitation or access.
- Conditions under which courts might suspend or limit the non-custodial parent's visitation rights.
- The importance of providing viable solutions to the court to address concerns about the other parent.
- Why you should avoid asking the court to deny any type of parenting time for the other parent unless there are specific concerns of the child's safety or well-being.
- Various supervised and therapeutic visitation strategies as alternatives to a flat out denial of parenting time.
- Strategies for non-custodial parents to regain access through modification petitions.

Family Court is a complex system with deeply ingrained principles about parental rights and child welfare. This episode sheds light on those principles and offers strategic advice for both custodial and non-custodial parents navigating this sensitive topic.

Tune in, and equip yourself with the knowledge to handle family court's challenges effectively.

Stay tuned for next week's episode, where Tracey will continue to unravel more intricacies of family court proceedings and share actionable strategies to help you win your case.
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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.