LITTLE MISS BEE IS LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE.

By day, she’s a high-powered working professional proudly shattering glass ceilings and climbing the corporate ladder. But off the clock, she’s a kink-positive, active member of the rope bondage community.

In the final episode of the 3rd season of the GETSOME Podcast, we discuss personal authority, self-acceptance, and keeping it kinky. Our guest, Little Miss Bee, manages to keep her professional and personal worlds completely separate without losing touch with either side of herself. Ultimately, her openness and experiences give us the space to reflect on our own desires and boundaries, helping us find a path towards our own sexual, personal, and professional empowerment.

Show Notes:

• [00:00:30] Little Miss Bee describes her very clear sense of direction and openness to various sexual and non-sexual experiences.
• [00:01:00] The dichotomy of Little Miss Bee's life: a professional by day, exploring her deepest desires by night.
• [00:03:00] Discusses the importance of consent and boundaries within the kink community, emphasizing her role as both a top and a bottom.
• [00:05:00] Little Miss Bee's passion for rope bondage, known as Shibari, and her journey from being tied to becoming a rigger.
• [00:10:00] Talks about seeking connections that go beyond physical interactions, aiming for a deeper, more meaningful connections.
• [00:15:00] Little Miss Bee reflects on her sexual evolution from a "desirous, sex-positive teenager" to moving slower, taking in the sensuality of it all.
• [00:20:00] The challenges of maintaining non-monogamy, dealing with societal expectations, and the joys of living authentically.
• [00:25:00] The allure and etiquette of sex parties, describing them as spaces where consent and hedonistic desires meet.
• [00:30:00] A perplexing moment when Little Miss Bee confronted prejudice while revealing her open relationship status.

Imagine being stuck in the “in betweens” of your sexuality.

You’re not “gay enough,” but you’re not “straight enough.” Your sexuality is constantly oversimplified, or oversexualized. You’re stuck wondering… “Am I bisexual enough???”

Though that may not be the reality for all bisexual men, it certainly is a struggle that a lot of people face. Our guest on today’s episode, West, is a bisexual man who learned to embrace his sexuality and accept that he is “enough” exactly as he is.

In his young adulthood, West thought his bisexuality might just be youthful curiosity. But, as his life continued to progress and West continued to mature, he came to realize that his sexuality wasn’t a “phase” or “curiosity.” It was who he was. His journey to this discovery was filled with societal pressures, self-doubt, and uncertainty. But ultimately, West found acceptance, pleasure, and confidence in his sexual identity.

If you have any questions, thoughts, or stories to share after listening to this episode, I’d love to hear from you. Michelle@GETSOME.ca

Show Notes

• [00:00:00] West recounts a story of a dating app match that missed reading his bisexual identity listed on the profile and her reaction once finding out.
• [00:00:32] Discussion about the common challenges faced by bisexual individuals.
• [00:01:05] West reflects on his journey of self-discovery and the stigma associated with his sexuality.
• [00:02:03] Content Warning - Trigger warning for a discussion about sexual abuse.
• [00:03:14]West shares insights into how he recognized his attraction to both sexes early in his life.
• [00:06:08] Impact of Abuse - A candid discussion about how the impact of sexual abuse complicated his bisexual journey.
• [00:08:00] West discussed societal expectations and how they impacted his bisexuality.
• [00:8:04] Unlearning Sexual Shame Module awareness segment.
• [00:09:25] West discusses how his past experiences influenced his views on consensual sexual relationships.
• [00:17:30] The dating scene and challenges and observations from West’s experiences with online dating as a bisexual man.
• [00:21:01] West shares his approach to online dating as a bisexual man and how his focus on honesty and self-acceptance gets quality matches.

Guest: West

Host: Certified Sex Therapist Michelle Fischler

Production: Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios

Listener Note:

• This episode contains discussions about sexual abuse that may be triggering for some listeners. Please take care while listening.

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As a sex worker, Shannon Ariel, founder of Pink Banana Sparkles, always had a strong relationship with sex & her body.

…but after her first child, she felt something shift. With a changing body and changing needs, Shannon had to rebuild her relationship with herself, her sex life, and her career.

For many, motherhood takes a toll on their sex lives. Their priorities, bodies, and relationships are drastically different than they were before they had their kids, and getting back to a place of confidence, pleasure, and fulfillment can often be an uphill battle. For Shannon, a retired sex worker turned fashion designer, and mom whose identity is linked to her sexuality, this shift was a jarring one that required her to look at her life from a wider lens. What started as a journey to rediscover her sexuality postpartum turned into Shannon learning to put herself first, having the best sex of her life, and bravely sharing her story so that other women know they’re not alone.

Where to find Shannon?

https://www.pinkbananasparkles.com/

Instagram and Facebook: @pinkbananasparkles

At a young age, Chris was diagnosed with a medical micropenis. For years, he struggled with sex and dating until he discovered two kinks that fueled a macro sex drive – Small Penis Humiliation and Cuckolding. Talking about shame, sexuality, and penis size is particularly challenging for cis men due to toxic masculinity. But Chris’ story isn’t exclusively for people with penises (or people with micropenises, for that matter). Chris’ journey to self-acceptance and sexual pleasure is an incredible lesson in making the most with what you’re given, and learning to love yourself exactly as you are.

Show Notes

Introduction: [00:00:00]

Chris shares his struggle with feeling inadequate due to his micropenis diagnosis.

Early Diagnosis: [00:00:43]

Chris was diagnosed with a micropenis at a young age, which led to feelings of shame and inadequacy.

He recalls being informed about his condition by a doctor at the age of five, with his parents' reaction being discomfort and avoidance.

Emotional Impact: [00:08:30]

Chris expresses feeling pathetic and inferior due to societal expectations and experiences in high school.

Coping Mechanisms: [00:10:24]

Despite initial struggles, Chris found solace in embracing his kinks, particularly small penis humiliation and cuckolding.

He discusses the arousal derived from these fantasies and his approach to exploring them safely.

Dating and Relationships: [00:17:54]

Chris opens up about his challenges with dating and rejection due to his condition.

He shares his experiences with being honest about his condition and the responses he has received from potential partners.

Self-Acceptance: [00:27:05]

Over time, Chris has worked on building his self-confidence and accepting himself for who he is.

He encourages listeners to embrace their bodies and pursue happiness despite societal pressures.

Closing Thoughts: [00:30:44]

Chris offers words of encouragement to those facing similar challenges, urging them not to give up on finding love and acceptance.

Finding a friend with benefits can be hard at any age. But today’s guest, Cynthia, faced the daunting task of finding a sexual partner at the age of 78 and following the loss of her husband. She knew that she wanted a friend with benefits, and she even had her eye on someone specific. But the ultimate hurdle? Asking him.

In this fascinating and refreshingly open conversation we discuss:

1. What it looks like to be sexually active in your later years of life

2. The stigma of being a senior citizen who craves casual sex.

3. The nuances of sex with aging bodies

4. Maintaining relationships with your “couple friends” after the loss of your long-term partner

5. How to continue experiencing sexual satisfaction in your 70’s and beyond. Show Notes:

Show notes:

Guest Introduction:

• [00:01:28] Michelle introduces Cynthia, a 78-year-old widow, as the guest for this episode.
• Cynthia shares her journey of grieving the loss of her husband and the subsequent feelings of loneliness and desire for companionship.

Exploring Desire and Loneliness:

• [00:02:26] Cynthia discusses her newfound desires for companionship and sexual connection after her husband's passing.
• She reflects on the emotional and physical changes she experienced and how they led her to consider exploring a friends with benefits relationship.

Challenges and Fears:

• [00:03:39] Cynthia opens up about her fears surrounding trust, communication, and the societal expectations associated with relationships and aging.
• Michelle and Cynthia discuss the complexities of initiating conversations about sexual desires and boundaries with potential partners.

Navigating Boundaries and Expectations:

• [00:06:00] The conversation delves into the importance of setting boundaries, maintaining autonomy, and challenging societal norms in relationships.
• Cynthia shares her concerns about potential changes in dynamics and expectations if her relationship with her friend were to become sexual.

Exploring Options and Self-Reflection:

• [00:08:51] Michelle offers insights into alternative ways of meeting potential partners, such as matchmaking services and shared activities.
• Cynthia reflects on the conversation and expresses gratitude for the insights.

Conclusion:

• [00:10:21] Michelle thanks Cynthia for sharing her story and insights with listeners.
• She encourages listeners to reach out with their own stories and experiences related to desire, intimacy, and sexual exploration after loss.

Closing Credits:

• [00:11:39] Michelle provides information on how listeners can connect with the podcast, access online learning modules, and stay updated on future episodes.
• Acknowledgment of the production team Katie and Kattie from Vocal Fry Studios

Money is a major source of stress for so many people. We’re always thinking about it, talking about it, and worrying about it. But it’s rare that we think about the way that money affects our sexual relationships. Listen in to our conversation with Master Certified Ontological Coach, Tracey Burns, as we navigate through the seldom-discussed dynamic of money and sex. We delve into how money's influence extends far beyond the wallet and into the heart. We illuminate the challenges and opportunities that arise when navigating income differences with a partner, emphasizing the importance of open, honest conversations about finances.

Today, Tracey is a renowned coach, speaker, and advocate for financial wellness in relationships.

[00:00:00] Introduction to the Episode: Tracey discusses the impact of financial disparities on relationships and introduces the main themes of the conversation.

[00:00:34] The Relationship Escalator: Michelle talks about the dynamics she observes in couples regarding financial discussions and moving in together.

[01:03] Money and Shame: Tracey delves into how money conversations can be laden with shame and how to approach them.

[01:20] Sex, Money, and Society's Expectations: The relationship between sex, money, and societal pressures is explored, with insights on how these aspects influence each other.

[02:11] Ontological Coaching and Money Dynamics: Tracey explains ontological coaching and its application to understanding personal relationships with money.

[03:06] Using Money Conversations to Enhance Relationships: Discussion on how transparent conversations about finances can actually improve intimacy and relationship satisfaction.

[04:05] The Conversation with Tracey Burns: Michelle introduces her guest, Tracey Burns, for a deep dive into the nuances of money and relationships.

[06:01] Unpacking Financial Discrepancies in Partnerships: Tracey provides insights on how couples can navigate differences in income and financial management.

[07:40] Expectations vs. Reality in Financial Contributions: The discussion turns to managing expectations around financial contributions and understanding each other's financial standing.

[09:07] Adapting to Changes in Financial Dynamics: Strategies for couples to support each other through financial ups and downs.

[13:56] Unlearning Sexual Shame: Michelle introduces an online module aimed at addressing sexual shame and its ties to financial well-being.

[14:35] Emotional Infidelity and Financial Secrets: Tracey and Michelle discuss the parallels between discovering financial secrets and emotional infidelity.

[24:05] Closing Thoughts and Where to Find Tracey: The episode wraps up with final thoughts on money, relationships, and how to connect with Tracey Burns for more insights.

Ready for an Unforgettable Journey of Strength and Resilience?

We’re kicking off season 3 with a conversation with Ally Hensley, a woman who was born with a rare condition called Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser (MRKH) Syndrome, resulting in the absence of a vagina and reproductive organs. Our conversation follows her relationship with her body before and after diagnosis, and talks about her personal healing journey to unlearning the feelings of shame she came to feel surrounding sex and sexuality.

Today, Ally is an author, speaker, writer, and advocate for women’s reproductive health.

Show Notes

[00:00:09] Introduction by Michelle:
Michelle opens the episode by posing a thought-provoking scenario about adolescence, expectations, and the shock of discovering one's body is different, setting the stage for Ally's story.

[00:00:30] Ally's Diagnosis:
Ally Hensley recounts her personal experience with MRKH, discovered during her teenage years when she did not get her period, leading to a diagnosis that would forever change her perspective on womanhood and belonging.

[00:01:37] Emotional Impact and Isolation:
Ally discusses the emotional turmoil of growing up with MRKH, the societal pressures of womanhood, and the unique challenges of navigating adolescence with a condition few understand.

[00:02:08] Humor and Societal Norms:
Despite the challenges, Ally recalls moments of humor and the lengths she went to fit into societal norms, highlighting the complexity of identity and the desire to belong.

[00:02:38] Disclosure and Shame:
Ally talks about the internal battle with disclosing her condition, confronting shame, and finding the courage to speak her truth.

[00:03:37] Acceptance and Community:
The conversation shifts to Ally's path towards acceptance, the power of community, advocacy, and the importance of unlearning shame associated with MRKH.

[00:05:00] Sexual Education and Discovery:
Ally discusses the shortcomings of sex education, her personal exploration of sexuality, and the journey of creating her own vagina, reflecting on societal expectations and the pursuit of "typical".

[00:09:14] Medical Journey:
Ally shares her experience navigating the medical world at 16, the options presented for treatment, and the impact of her condition on family dynamics and personal growth.

[00:12:46] Stigma and Silence:
The discussion delves into the societal stigma surrounding MRKH, the importance of open dialogue, and the ongoing struggle against shame and secrecy.

[00:17:49] Womanhood and Identity:
Ally reflects on the concepts of womanhood, motherhood, and the societal pressures that define female identity, emphasizing the need for a broader, more inclusive understanding.

[00:24:28] Reconnecting with the Body:
Ally discusses the complex relationship between pain, pleasure, and body disconnect, sharing her journey towards healing and reconnecting with her body and sexuality.

[00:32:06] Overcoming Shame:
The episode concludes with Ally offering ideas for others struggling with shame, emphasizing the importance of community, self-acceptance, and challenging societal norms.

Closing Remarks by Michelle:
Michelle wraps up the episode, highlighting the significance of Ally's story in challenging silence and shame around sex and identity, and directs listeners to Ally's podcast, "Stigma Shakers," for more insights and inspiration.

Where to Find Ally:

Instagram: @Ally_Hensley

Website: https://allyhensley.com/

Podcast: Stigma Shakers

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/allyhensley