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Ever started pulling away just when things got good? If calm, consistent love feels boring—or even threatening—you’re not broken. You’re human.

In this episode, Shanenn explores why “safe” love can trigger your nervous system, especially if you grew up in chaos or experienced emotionally unpredictable relationships. You’ll learn:

• Why peace can feel like a red flag to a dysregulated nervous system
• The hidden link between chaos and connection
• Subtle ways we sabotage healthy love without realizing it
• A powerful affirmation to ground yourself when you’re spiraling
• How to begin rewiring your system to trust calm instead of rejecting it

If you’re ready to stop pushing away the love you crave, this episode is for you.

💎 Golden Nugget: “Peace isn’t the problem. My pattern is.”

Timestamps:

• 1:15 – Why calm triggers fear in a chaos-wired nervous system
• 3:00 – How your past relationships shaped your patterns
• 6:30 – A real-life story (with a German Shepherd!) that explains stored trauma
• 10:40 – Signs of self-sabotage when things feel “too good”
• 12:50 – Tools to rewire your nervous system for trust
• 15:40 – The mantra that can change everything

Resources & Links:

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In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn welcomes tapping expert Amy Vincze to explore how tapping can help release jealousy, insecurity, and emotional triggers. With over 17 years of experience, Amy shares how she went from skeptic to certified coach—using tapping to navigate personal trauma, anxiety, and even breast cancer recovery.

This isn’t just theory. Amy walks listeners through the science of tapping, the emotional patterns that fuel insecurity, and a powerful guided tapping session to help you shift from emotional reactivity to grounded self-worth.

If you’ve ever felt consumed by jealousy or struggled to manage emotional overwhelm in relationships, this episode is a must-listen.

Golden Episode Nuggets:

💎 You can’t heal what you’re afraid to feel

💎 Jealousy and insecurity are symptoms—not the root problem

💎 Tapping helps regulate the nervous system and release stored trauma

💎 Emotional honesty is a gateway to confidence and connection

💎 Healing is an inside job—and tapping gives you the tools to do it

Key Moments:

· 1:30 – Why most of us avoid uncomfortable emotions and why that’s a problem

· 4:45 – Amy’s backstory with tapping and how trauma triggered transformation

· 10:15 – How emotional energy gets trapped in the body

· 14:30 – The neuroscience of tapping and what happens in the brain during a session

· 20:00 – A full guided tapping session focused on jealousy and insecurity

· 34:10 – The real goal of tapping (hint: it’s not to be positive all the time)

· 38:00 – How to create your own tapping practice without overthinking it

About Our Guest:

Amy Vincze is the founder of SOAR with Tapping and a certified Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) practitioner. She combines energy therapy, cognitive techniques, and somatic work to help people process emotional triggers and build resilience. Her mission is to make tapping accessible for anyone ready to break emotional patterns and reclaim their peace.

Resources Mentioned:

• SOAR with Tapping by Amy Vincze:

Quote of the Episode:

“You can’t release what you refuse to feel—and tapping helps you face it with compassion.” – Amy Vincze

Perfect for listeners who:

· Feel consumed by jealousy or insecurity in their relationships

· Want a practical way to manage emotional triggers

· Are curious about tapping but unsure where to start

· Are tired of suppressing uncomfortable emotions

· Are ready to reclaim peace and self-worth on their healing journey

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🎧 In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down the 3 stages of jealousy that sabotage emotional security—and how to work through them.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in spirals, constantly checking your partner’s phone, or craving reassurance just to get through the day—this episode is for you.

Through her own experience and years of coaching clients through jealousy, Shanenn identifies 3 specific levels most people go through: High Alert, Distance Dependent, and Emotionally Equipped. You’ll learn how to recognize where you are, why each stage feels the way it does, and how to move forward with more self-trust and less shame.

This is your roadmap out of relationship anxiety and into emotional strength.

🔑 Key Moments:

• 2:00 – The High Alert stage: spiraling thoughts, hypervigilance, and the toll on your nervous system
• 10:00 – Breaking out of unhealthy validation habits using the Think-Do-Say framework
• 17:00 – The Distance Dependent stage: calm on the surface, but still triggered by what you see
• 23:00 – Using self-focus and small wins to rewire your emotional patterns
• 28:00 – The Emotionally Equipped stage: meeting your own needs without over-relying on your partner
• 31:00 – How to bounce back after a setback without shame or spirals

💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:

• Jealousy isn’t just emotional—it becomes physical stress if left unchecked
• The Think-Do-Say model helps break compulsive habits by replacing them with conscious choices
• You can stop checking the phone without stopping all the habits—just start with one
• Self-validation is the gateway to emotional safety
• You don’t need your partner to fix your jealousy—you need tools to manage your emotional responses

❤️ Perfect for listeners who:

• Feel overwhelmed by jealousy or insecure thoughts in their relationship
• Are trying to stop spiraling and start self-soothing
• Want practical, non-judgmental tools for emotional growth
• Are ready to take their healing seriously but with compassion
• Crave deeper connection—without losing themselves

✍️ Leave a review and let us know—what stage do you see yourself in right now? And what’s one habit you’re working to change?

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