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这周，我有意识地为自己留出了休息和滋养的时间，花时间陪伴我的丈夫和女儿，走进花园，做冥想，去锻炼，聆听让我内在充满力量的播客。这不仅让我恢复了精力，也让我更深刻地体会到：要想改变世界，我们必须从自己的家庭开始。

这一集中，我也提到了一个让我深受触动的播客分享：许多人对世界上的不公愤怒，但却忽略了自己在亲密关系和家庭关系中制造的冷漠与伤害。如果我们不能善待身边的人，那我们如何去改变更大的世界？

真正的改变，从一顿温柔的晚餐、一句真诚的道歉、一段静静的陪伴开始。

我想邀请你也停下来，问问自己：我是否点亮了内心那盏温暖的灯？那盏灯还亮着吗？如果它熄了，也没关系。你可以慢慢地点一根火柴，再次点亮那份爱、光亮与温柔。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

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This week, I consciously chose to rest. I spent time with my husband and daughter, walked in the garden, listened to soul-nourishing podcasts, and returned to myself. These moments of peace and intention reminded me:

💡 To change the world, we must first change how we live and love at home.

I also shared a story from a podcast I listened to: many people are angry about war and injustice in the world, yet in their own homes, they hold their partners hostage with emotional pain. Real change doesn’t start with shouting—it starts with one kind dinner, one sincere apology, one moment of quiet presence.

📍Upcoming Family Constellation Workshops:

• August 23 (Saturday), 14:00–17:00 | Forest Eco-Farm, Soest
• September 7 (Sunday), 14:00–17:00 | Community Center, Hoofddorp

📬 To register or inquire, please check the registration links in the show notes.

📅 New Episodes Every Week:

Two episodes per week: Wednesdays and Saturdays

在这一集特别的采访中，我邀请了旅居德国的临床心理学博士——洪菲老师，与我们深入探讨海外家庭的心理挑战、跨代关系的复杂性，以及我们如何在“家庭这片洪流”中学会理解、接纳与连接。

洪菲老师不仅是一位专业的心理治疗师，也是一位用心倾听与讲述生命故事的“故事人”。她曾在德国公立精神科医院服务多年，也在大学里教授正念与生涯发展课程，并与许云容老师共同发起了公益组织「海外游子心理健康联盟」，致力于为海外华人提供免费的心理支持。

本期内容亮点包括：

• 为什么我们在家庭中常常感到无力和纠结？
• 当代青少年的心理困境，特别是疫情后00后的隐性创伤
• 父母如何更新“育儿导航”，真正理解孩子的心灵地图
• 用故事疗愈、打开心灵之门，建立深度的连接

💛 你可以通过【心灵热线 Free Soul Hotline】，获得免费的、匿名的心理支持服务：

Zoom-Link
Zoom Meeting: 886 1813 8556

Password: 112112

每周三 欧洲中部时间（CET）20:30–22:30
每周日 欧洲中部时间（CET）12:00–14:00

请关注「海外游子心理健康联盟 Mental Health Network」，成为联盟的会员，通过志愿者方式或捐款支持联盟的工作，详情请查看网页：https://mental-health.network/

让我们一起支持这样一个有爱、有光的公益组织，也让更多需要帮助的人找到这份温暖的陪伴。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

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📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

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Within the Currents of Family: The Art of Understanding, Acceptance, and Connection

In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with Dr. Fei Hong, a clinical psychologist based in Germany, to explore the emotional complexity of family life—especially for overseas Chinese families navigating cross-cultural realities and generational gaps.

Dr. Hong is not only a professional therapist with decades of clinical experience in public hospitals and universities in Germany, but also a passionate storyteller and co-founder (together with Ms. Yunrong Xu) of the non-profit International Mental Health Network for Expatriates. Through her stories and wisdom, she offers compassionate insights into what it truly means to connect, support, and heal within families.

✨ In this episode:

· Why do we often feel powerless or stuck in our family systems?

· What silent struggles are today’s youth facing—especially after the pandemic?

· How can parents “update their GPS” and truly understand their children?

· The healing power of stories, and how to open our hearts to real connection

💛 You can receive free and anonymous mental health support through the Free Soul Hotline:

Zoom Link
Zoom Meeting ID: 886 1813 8556
Password: 112112

🕗 Every Wednesday (CET): 20:30–22:30
🕛 Every Sunday (CET): 12:00–14:00

Please follow the International Mental Health Network for Expatriates and consider becoming a member.
You can support their work by volunteering or making a donation.
For more details, visit: https://mental-health.network/

Let’s come together to support this heartfelt and light-filled nonprofit — and help more people find the warmth and companionship they may need.

📍Upcoming Family Constellation Workshops:

• August 23 (Saturday), 14:00–17:00 | Forest Eco-Farm, Soest
• September 7 (Sunday), 14:00–17:00 | Community Center, Hoofddorp

📬 To register or inquire, please check the registration links in the show notes.

📅 New Episodes Every Week:

Two episodes per week: Wednesdays and Saturdays

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这一周，我经历了播客启动两个月以来最艰难的一周。
情绪低落、精力透支、录音出错、数据下降——甚至一度听见内心那个熟悉的声音在说：“放弃吧，没人会在意。”

我动摇了，也暂停了。
但在暂停的日子里，我静下来照顾自己，整理花园、陪伴家庭、倾听身体和心灵的声音。

我意识到：低谷不是终点，而是转折点。
就像花园里那些因为干旱而夭折的花骨朵，也在提醒我：别忘了浇灌自己内心的花。

于是，虽然晚了三天，我还是选择按下录音键，用真实、温柔的声音，和你分享这一周的挣扎与重生。

🎧 特别收录：

我在节目中也提到并分享了我为大家录制的 #36: 八分钟的冥想，放松身体：谢谢自己，辛苦了！冥想音频资源，帮助你在焦虑、疲惫或低谷时，重新与自己连结，安顿身心。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

📬 报名或咨询请查看节目简介中报名链接。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

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This week has been the hardest one since I started this podcast two months ago.
I felt emotionally low, physically drained, made technical mistakes during recording, and saw my listener stats drop — and for the first time, I heard that familiar voice inside whisper:
“Just give up, no one really cares.”

I wavered. And I paused.

But during those quiet days, I slowed down to take care of myself — I tended to the garden, spent time with my family, and listened to the whispers of my body and soul.

Then I realized:
A low point isn’t the end. It’s a turning point.

Just like the flower buds in my garden that withered from drought before they had a chance to bloom — they were gently reminding me: Don’t forget to water the flowers inside your heart.

So even though I’m three days late, I chose to press "record" again, and share this week’s struggles and renewal with you — with honesty, softness, and presence.

🎧 Special Feature:

In this episode, I also mention and share the #36:An eight-minute meditation to relax your body and thank yourself for all you've been through.”
A short practice to help you reconnect with your body and emotions during moments of anxiety, fatigue, or sadness. You can find the meditation audio link in the show notes.

📍Upcoming Family Constellation Workshops:

• August 23 (Saturday), 14:00–17:00 | Forest Eco-Farm, Soest
• September 7 (Sunday), 14:00–17:00 | Community Center, Hoofddorp

📬 To register or inquire, please check the registration links in the show notes.

📅 New Episodes Every Week:

Two episodes per week: Wednesdays and Saturdays

If this episode resonates with you:

• Please like, rate, or leave a comment on Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube
• If you’ve received any inspiration or support from this podcast, you’re warmly invited to support my continued creation on Patreon —
  Even the price of a coffee helps me keep creating from the heart:
  👉 https://www.patreon.com/c/yangmei/membership

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在今天的播客里，
我想和你分享一段特别为你录制的冥想音频，
帮助你放松下来，
也帮助你重新和自己的身体，取得深深的连接。

这八分钟的冥想，是一段温柔的暂停。
专属于你，不需要去完成什么，也不需要去证明什么。

我们常常习惯了照顾身边的每一个人，
却很少停下来，问问自己：你还好吗？
其实，我们自己，才是最值得被照顾、被理解、被关爱的。

我真心希望，在接下来的这八分钟里，
你可以放下匆忙，
慢下来，静静地，和自己待一会儿。

放慢呼吸，感受身体的存在，
让奔波的心，暂时靠岸。

请记得：关爱自己，不是自私，
它是爱的起点，
是你走下去的力量源头。

当你愿意先温柔地安顿好自己，
你才能带着更平和的心，去面对生活，
也才能真正地陪伴你所爱的人。

所以，现在，请给自己这八分钟。
和身体打个招呼，
对自己说一声：谢谢你，辛苦了。

愿这段冥想，能温柔地陪伴你，
在忙碌中，停一停；

在喧闹中，静一静。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

📬 报名或咨询请查看节目简介中报名链接。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

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In today’s episode,
I want to share with you a short meditation I recorded just for you —
to help you unwind,
and to gently reconnect with your body.

These eight minutes of meditation are a soft pause.
A moment that belongs only to you.
You don’t need to achieve anything,
and you certainly don’t need to prove anything.

We often get used to taking care of everyone around us,
yet rarely pause to ask ourselves: “Hey… how am I really doing?”
But in truth —
we are the ones most in need of care, understanding, and love.

My heartfelt wish is that, during the next eight minutes,
you can let go of the rush,
slow down, and simply sit with yourself — quietly, gently.

Soften your breath.
Feel your body.
Let your busy heart come ashore, even for a little while.

And please remember:
Caring for yourself is not selfish.
It is where love begins.
It is the wellspring that allows you to keep going.

When you choose to care for yourself first, with tenderness,
you can meet life with greater calm,
and truly be present for the ones you love.

So now, give yourself these eight minutes.
Say hello to your body.
And whisper to yourself: “Thank you. You’ve worked so hard.”

May this meditation gently accompany you —
a soft pause in the midst of busyness,
a moment of stillness amidst the noise.

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在这期反思集中，我分享了这一周的真实挣扎与深刻觉察。
因为举办一场大型社区活动，我筋疲力尽，却又想守住更新承诺。
内心两个声音争执不下——“坚持录制”和“允许休息”。

我用正在学习的 IFS 内在家庭系统方法，与这些内在部分对话。
我听见了它们，也被它们提醒：比“按时”更重要的，是“真实”。

我也分享了一个重要的决定：将播客更新频率从每周三次，调整为两次。
这是为了给 IFS 的深入学习腾出空间，去学习掌握 一个宝藏般的系统，将内在与外在家庭疗愈智慧融合，为更多的家庭带来变革的力量。

🎧 本集亮点：

• 如何用 IFS 方法面对内耗与自我批评
• 为什么“休息”也是一种深度的坚持
• 我为什么决定减少更新频率，投入更深的专业成长
• 来自第34集的温柔提醒：真正的亲子修复，从爱自己开始

✨ 邀请你一起思考：

1. 最近你有没有对自己太苛责？有没有一个需要被温柔回应的部分？
2. 有没有一件事你差点放弃？但如果换一种方式对待自己，也许就能继续？
3. 你是否也渴望在自我成长中，找回一个更有力量、更有爱的人自己？

🌱 愿你在这期播客中，找到一份对自己的理解与温柔。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

📬 报名或咨询请查看节目简介中报名链接。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

如果你觉得这个播客让你有所收获，也欢迎你在 Patreon 上支持我的创作——每一杯咖啡的价格，都是对我持续创作的鼓励：

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In this reflective solo episode, I open up about a moment of real inner conflict this week:
Exhausted from organizing my largest community event so far, I found myself torn—
Should I skip this week’s episode? Push through and perform? Or... simply pause and listen within?

Thanks to IFS (Internal Family Systems), I was able to turn inward and meet my parts with compassion:
The exhausted part was allowed to rest.
The critical voice was heard and thanked.
And I made a different choice: record this episode, not out of pressure, but out of presence.

I also share a personal shift:
Reducing my podcast frequency from 3 to 2 episodes per week,
so I can dedicate more energy to deepening my IFS training—
a powerful complement to the systemic constellation work I already practice.

🎧 In this episode:

• A behind-the-scenes look at burnout and self-compassion
• Why taking a break is sometimes the truest form of persistence
• My growing vision of integrating internal and external systemic healing
• Reflections from Episode 34 on healing the parent-teen relationship by healing ourselves first

💭 Reflective prompts:

1. Where in your life are you pushing too hard… and forgetting to care for yourself?
2. What would shift if you replaced criticism with curiosity?
3. Is there something you've almost given up—because you forgot to be kind to yourself?

🌿 May this episode offer you a moment to breathe, soften, and come home to yourself.

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青春期的孩子，为何总像一堵冷冰冰的墙？
你曾经用尽全力去爱，却总觉得碰壁、被拒绝？
在这一期播客中，我想邀请你走近孩子，也走近你自己。

💗 本集内容源于我最近陪伴辅导的几个家庭。母女之间完全失联，父母深感无助和心碎。但奇迹是可能的——只要我们从向内探索开始，从每天一个小小的举动，重新连接那道断裂的亲子之桥。

🔑 本集你将听到：

• 如何觉察自己对孩子的控制欲和焦虑，是如何阻碍爱的流动；
• 如何练习无条件的爱，停止用交换的方式“付出”；
• 修复关系的“拆墙练习”——从敲门、叫吃饭、晚安拥抱开始；
• 父母的快乐和轻松，是孩子最大的情绪安全感；
• 如何用祝福替代焦虑，让爱重新流动在你们之间；
• 每天一个小练习：写下感恩，写下祝福，让爱的种子在夜晚发芽。

这是一封写给每一位在育儿路上迷惘的父母的温柔来信。
我想告诉你——只要你愿意走出第一步，关系总有修复的可能。

🌿 如果你也在经历与青春期孩子的张力与冲突，愿这期播客成为你的一束光。
你并不孤单。爱，从此刻重新流动。

📅播出频率：

每周三集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

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A heart-to-heart invitation for parents in conflict with their adolescent child

Is your teenager shutting you out with silence?
Do your efforts to love and care seem to bounce off a wall of coldness?

In this heartfelt episode, I share the journey of supporting several families—especially mothers and daughters—who had lost emotional connection during the teen years. Through systemic coaching, deep emotional healing, and small daily rituals, these families began to reconnect and rebuild trust.

🌱 In this episode, you'll explore:

• Why unconditional love—not control or fear—is the foundation of healing;
• How to stop projecting your anxieties and start connecting from your heart;
• Tiny “wall-melting” moments: knocking gently before entering, saying goodnight with a hug, calling your teen to dinner with warmth;
• The healing power of blessing your child instead of worrying about them;
• How your own joy, calm, and self-care affect your teen more than any lecture;
• A simple daily practice of gratitude and blessing to shift your energy and nurture the relationship.

✨ This episode is not about fixing your child—it’s about softening your own heart, rediscovering your strength as a parent, and remembering that even the most distant teen still longs for love and connection.

If your relationship with your adolescent feels broken or strained, this episode is a gentle guide back home—to your child, and to your own heart.

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在这一集中，我回顾了本周发布的两期播客，分享了家庭系统排列现场带来的深刻触动：那些无法流出的眼泪、那些压在心底多年的悲伤，终于在一个陌生人的一句话中被唤醒，缓缓融化。
“泪水，是融化灵魂深处冰块的力量。”

我也分享了我在学习和实践 IFS（内部家庭系统）过程中的体会。这一段旅程，让我每天都能带着更多的Self能量与内在的不同“部分”对话，这些焦虑的、怀疑的、努力想要保护我的部分。这种自我陪伴，给我带来了很多内心的平静和对自己的信任。

🌿在这里我想邀请你暂停片刻，想一想：
你有没有一个梦想，藏在心底很久了，却始终没有勇气行动？
有没有一个声音，在你内心轻轻低语：“也许我可以试一试”？

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 7月13日（周日）13:30–16:30，Hoofddorp 社区中心

• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

📬 报名或咨询请查看节目简介中报名链接。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

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In this episode, I reflected on the two podcast episodes released earlier this week, and shared the deep emotions evoked during recent Family Constellation workshops: the tears that had never been shed, the grief that had been buried for years—suddenly awakened and gently melted by a single sentence from a stranger.

“Tears are the force that melts the ice in the depths of the soul.”

I also shared my experiences learning and practicing IFS (Internal Family Systems). This journey has helped me connect with my anxious, doubting, and overprotective parts each day—with more Self energy and compassion. Through this daily inner dialogue, I’ve found greater peace and deeper trust in myself.

🌿 And here, I want to gently invite you to pause and reflect:
Have you been holding onto a dream, quietly hidden in your heart, yet never found the courage to act on it?
Is there a voice inside you, softly whispering: “Maybe… I could give it a try?”

💌 Event links for my upcoming Family Constellation workshops and online IFS sharing can be found in the description.

If you find value in this podcast, you're warmly invited to support my work on Patreon — even the price of a coffee can be a meaningful encouragement for me to keep creating:
👉 https://www.patreon.com/c/yangmei/membership

点击链接注册 Soest 和 Hoofddorp 的家庭系统排列工作坊： https://hipsy.nl/shop/meeei

在这一集中，我与你分享了两场让我深深动容的家庭系统排列工作坊的故事。尤其是一位坐在场边的参与者，在听到代表说出的一句话时，突然泪流不止。那句话，仿佛是她已逝父亲一直想对她说的，却从未有机会说出口的话。

她以为自己早已“放下”父亲的离世，却在那一刻才意识到，悲伤一直沉睡在心底。泪水奔涌而出，也终于为她融化了藏在灵魂深处的“冰”。

正如荷兰一位系统工作导师所说：
“泪水能融化你灵魂深处的冰。”

这一集，我也分享了自己对于“系统性哀悼”、代际情感共鸣、以及在排列空间中如何彼此照见的深刻体会。我们每个人的悲伤，从不只是属于我们自己。我们流下的眼泪，也承载着上一代、上上代从未流下的泪水。

每一场排列，都不仅仅是为一位案主而进行，而是为在场的每一个灵魂打开一扇窗。

愿你也能在这集里找到属于你的共鸣，重新拥抱你的故事、你的悲伤、和你的温柔力量。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 7月13日（周日）13:30–16:30，Hoofddorp 社区中心

• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

📬 报名或咨询请查看节目简介中报名链接。

📅播出频率：

每周三集播客：周二、周四、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

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In this episode, I share the powerful stories and insights from two recent Family Constellation workshops in the Netherlands. One participant sitting quietly in the sideline was unexpectedly moved to tears. When she heard a sentence spoken by a representative, something broke open—she felt, “This is what my father, who passed away years ago, would have said to me.”

Although she had returned to life after her father’s death, thinking she had moved on, the words touched a deep grief she didn’t know she still carried. Her tears flowed freely. Something old and frozen within her began to melt.

As a Dutch systemic facilitator once said:
“Tears melt the ice on your soul.”

In this episode, I reflect on the invisible losses we carry across generations, the systemic nature of grief, and the sacred role we all play in each other's healing. A single story in a constellation often resonates with the untold stories in many others.

None of us is an island. In the field of constellation, we witness, we are witnessed, and through that, we remember who we are.

💌 Event links for my upcoming Family Constellation workshops and online IFS sharing can be found in the description.

If you find value in this podcast, you're warmly invited to support my work on Patreon — even the price of a coffee can be a meaningful encouragement for me to keep creating:
👉 https://www.patreon.com/c/yangmei/membership