Self-sabotage is a phrase that we’re all pretty familiar with and one that I hear daily from potential clients. During our intake process, one of the questions I ask is, “What are the behaviors that you engage in right before you abandon your goals?” and the behaviours at the core of this question are the self-sabotaging activities. The reason I don’t ask “How do you sabotage yourself” is because not all of the behaviors are conscious.

In this episode, I will identify the five most common self-sabotage behaviours and offer tips to build strategies to end the self-sabotage cycle. 

Vulnerability is messy. It has poor timing. It doesn’t come with filters. There are no re-takes. Vulnerability is the willingness to show emotion or allow one’s weaknesses to be seen or known, the willingness to risk being emotionally hurt.

Think about that for a moment. Do you allow yourself to be vulnerable? Do you let others in and see you - the real you? Most of us struggle with this. With this episode, I don’t just want to share that you’re not alone in this struggle - because you are definitely not. I want to help give you some tools to begin allowing yourself to be vulnerable so we can all normalize our struggles collectively. 

Tune in and find out what they are!

The reality is no one’s success is solo. Our family should not be our obstacle. We do not need to choose to be a mother OR be successful, and doing both shouldn’t mean we shut off who we are to do the impossible. If your husband wanted to make a big decision to benefit him, he would say to you, “this is what I’m doing”, and YOU would make it work. HE is capable of helping you make your needs work, too, but you have to give him that opportunity. Perhaps he will be resistant, and his face will malfunction, but WILL HE DIE? I am guessing not. 

Here are the facts. You have wants, needs, and goals, and they are NOT unreasonable. If you have been trying to meet those wants, goals, and needs but keep tripping over the same obstacle (which for women is usually dropping our needs for our family’s needs), you need to do something different. No matter how many times you walk into that wall, it will not move. YOU have to move around it. It’s time to stop asking for permission. “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” (fun fact that is not an einstein quote).

Okay, Sophie, but how? Tune in and find out!