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What if your perfectionism isn’t a quirky personality trait—but a trauma-informed brain response? In this powerful episode, Dr. Charlie Hornes unpacks the hidden roots of perfectionism and why high-achieving women feel like they never reach “enough.” It’s not about high standards—it’s about your brain. It’s about survival. You'll learn how systems, social training, and generational narratives have trained your brain to avoid judgment and criticism by being insisting you have to be flawless. But perfection is not the assignment. In this episode, Dr. Hornes shows you: ✔ How to dismantle the invisible rulebook running your life ✔ What’s really happening in your nervous system when you freeze ✔ How to rewire your brain using The Model ✔ The 4-step “Confidence Over Perfection” practice ✔ Why real leadership starts with self-trust—not self-editing ⁉️ Top Questions Answered ✔ What causes perfectionism in high-achieving women? ✔ Is perfectionism a trauma response? ✔ How can I rewire my brain to overcome perfectionism? ✔ What’s the connection between people-pleasing and perfectionism? ✔ Why do I fear criticism so much at work? ✔ What is “The Model” in thought work? ✔ How can I stop over-editing myself and still sound confident? 📌 Key Takeaways - Perfectionism isn’t a flaw—it’s fear dressed as excellence. - Your nervous system codes people-pleasing as survival. - “Good enough” isn’t failure—it’s freedom. - Rewiring your thoughts requires action, not just insight. - Confidence is built through repetition, not perfection. - Publish before you “feel ready.” That’s where growth starts. - Real leadership begins when you stop asking for permission. 🕒 Chapter Timestamps 00:00 – Perfectionism: Not your cute quirk—it’s your shield 01:52 – Meet Dr. Charlie Hornes + Today’s challenge 02:17 – How over-functioning shows up in women 04:33 – Why perfectionism is a nervous system strategy 06:18 – Where your perfectionism actually started 09:30 – Using “The Model” to dismantle the cycle 11:55 – Replacing dread with grounded action 12:55 – The 4-step “Confidence Over Perfection” framework 16:29 – Her Church experience, criticism, and power systems explained 21:34 – Why you’ll never be perfect “enough” 24:19 – Final model + Your call to rewire 🔗 Resources & Next Steps Download the Confidence Model Workbook →https://charliehornescoaching.com/model Join the Confidence Code in 3 Simple Steps FREE Masterclass → https://charliehornescoaching.com/masterclass/offer Take the Free Quiz: What’s Your Silent Burnout Type? Find Out in the FREE QUIZ! → https://charliehornescoaching.com/quiz Join the VIP Vault Membership for Monthly Masterclass Instant Access → https://charliehornescoaching.com/vipvault Subscribe for the latest updates and news of new episodes and Masterclass drops: https://charliehornescoaching.com/subscribe Partner Resource: BetterHelp Online Therapy. → Friends, Mental Health Awareness Month is around the corner! Let’s encourage everyone to take care of their well-being and break the stigma of starting therapy. Therapy is a SUPERPOWER for SUCCESS! Please check out my partner link and share with everyone you know and you will ALL receive 10% off your first month with my partner link. We can help make this world better when people are healthy and happy. Use my partner link and give online therapy a try→ https://charliehornescoaching.com/betterhelp/ 🔗Mentioned Episodes on the Pod Navigating Systemic Barriers with Confidence E25 → https://youtu.be/6X69IYJRTzM Ditching Perfect: How YOU Can Thrive by Embracing Imperfection: E24 → https://youtu.be/1Z49iKiiJ68 🔗Related Episodes: The Real Reason You Don’t Trust Yourself (And How to Rebuild It)| Betterhelp Sponsored | E42 → https://youtu.be/5vKV8e6XzFk Why High-Achieving Women Don’t Ask for Help (Until It's Too Late) | BetterHelp Sponsored | E37 → https://youtu.be/fOxpwdqOh3M 🎧Listen & Watch Now: Listen on Apple Podcasts → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-managing-your-brain-science-backed-mindshift-tools-for-women/id1750638594 Watch the Full Episodes on YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@charliehornescoaching/podcasts